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<p>What&#39;s more important: your brother&#39;s wedding or a your wife and unborn child&#39;s health?</p><p>This is what one man had to ask the internet to help him figure out, as he weighs the personal cost of leaving his pregnant wife on bed rest in order to attend his brother&#39;s wedding.</p><p>&quot;So my brother is getting married in two weeks,&quot; the man <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/">wrote</a>. &quot;The wedding is in LA where the rest of my family lives, my wife and I live on the east coast. I&rsquo;m the best man.&quot;</p><h2>His wife is eight months pregnant and has been ordered not to leave bed for the health of the baby and herself:</h2><blockquote> <p>My wife just recently got put in bed rest, and is 8 months pregnant. She said that I can&rsquo;t go to the wedding. I can&rsquo;t just skip my brothers wedding. Especially when I&rsquo;m the best man. The original plan was fly over two days early, stay three days and fly back.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He moved his flights around in hopes that his wife would relent. No dice:</h2><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ve moved the flight to night of the day before and afternoon of the day after. My wife is still saying I can&rsquo;t go. Her friends are willing to come over and help, and worst come to worst her parents can drive up and stay a day or two. It&rsquo;s not like she&rsquo;ll be all alone.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her I can&rsquo;t skip the wedding and that she&rsquo;ll be fine and there are other people to help her. It&rsquo;s only a day and a half, nothing&rsquo;s going to happen.</p> </blockquote><h2>Neither he nor his wife will budge:</h2><blockquote> <p>She said that if I cared about her I would skip the wedding. I got pissed off and said she can think that if she wants but I&rsquo;m going either way. She&rsquo;s now only talking to me to demand water.</p> </blockquote><h2>Nice environment to bring a child into, right?</h2><p>The people of Reddit have answered with a resounding &quot;you&#39;re the a-hole,&quot; with a few holdouts.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>User <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/fei3pnu/">tenpercentofnothing</a> says that this shouldn&#39;t even have become an argument:</p><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;ll be what 37-38 weeks pregnant when you leave? That&rsquo;s full-term! She&rsquo;s on doctor-ordered bed rest because of high blood pressure and now you&rsquo;re stressing her out which is probably going to increase her blood pressure even more and lead to early labor.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She shouldn&rsquo;t have to tell you that you can&rsquo;t go! You should have made that decision on your own. Yes, it absolutely sucks that you&rsquo;d have to miss your brother&rsquo;s wedding. I&rsquo;d be devastated if that happened to me. But your wife needs YOU, not her parents, not her friends.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/feiu5qy/">Bangbangsmashsmash</a> pointed out that bed rest is not exactly a staycation:</p><blockquote> <p>Bed rest is meant to protect health of mom and baby. and they really don&rsquo;t like to put people on it if they can help it (increases risk of blood clots and other stuff). Bed rest means you&rsquo;re in imminent danger to a degree</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/fei6pcv/">Bugsdoingthings</a> pointed out he might regret going to the wedding big time:</p><blockquote> <p>Your wife is a first time mom and has medical complications already.</p> <p>I think you need to stop and ask yourself: if your wife, God forbid, has a catastrophic medical event during childbirth, do you really think you are going to look back at this and say &quot;yeah, I&#39;m really glad I dug in my heels and told her to shove it&quot;?</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/feix6ad/">abhikaivi</a> gets real about what could actually happen:</p><blockquote> <p>I feel like OP is missing how dangerous this is. His wife, child, or both could die. Missing his child&#39;s birth would be terrible, but imagine missing one of their deaths.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/feid4po/">Abigfatsmellypoo</a> points out that the brother could be stepping up more:</p><blockquote> <p>You know who the AH is? You and your brother. You should have told your brother &ldquo;oh #%* my wife is having complications you need a backup best man&rdquo; and your brother should have been like &ldquo;on it bro&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ep9om0/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_my_brothers_wedding/feipd08/">EmpressSundae</a> sealed the deal with a true story:</p><blockquote> <p>My husband left me for five days to fly across the country to go to a wedding where he was a groomsman. I was 38 weeks pregnant.</p> <p>It was a pretty shitty thing to do. I don&rsquo;t actually know if I&rsquo;ll ever really get over it. I felt totally abandoned. Also broken-hearted for my poor baby when I realized that he didn&rsquo;t truly want to be present for the birth, where he ranked that in his priorities.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He did the wedding and then went to his hometown and kicked it with his family for a few days. Which also was a nail in the coffin of my opinion for a lot of his family- that no one freaked out at him and gave him a Tough Love come to Jesus talk for even being here. If my brother left his wife at that point of pregnancy for almost a week across the country my parents would die of shame.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I didn&rsquo;t even have health issues going on. My pregnancy wasn&rsquo;t high-risk like your wife&rsquo;s. Please don&rsquo;t make a decision you can&rsquo;t go back from. It not only made me question his love for me, it also made me question his love and care for his child.</p> </blockquote><p>Yikes. Let&#39;s hope OP makes the right choice!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong to go to brother's wedding while pregnant wife is on bed rest.

What&#39;s more important: your brother&#39;s wedding or a your wife and unborn child&#39;s health?This is what one man had to ask the internet to help him figure out, as he weighs the personal cost of leaving his pregnant wife on bed rest in order to attend his brother&#39;s wedding.&quot;So my brother is getting married in two weeks,&quot; the man wrote. &quot;The wedding is in LA where the rest of my family lives, my wife and I live on the east coast. I&rsquo;m the best man.&quot;His wife is eight months pregnant and has been ordered not to leave bed for the health of the baby and herself: My wife just recently got put in bed rest, and is 8 months pregnant. She said that I can&rsquo;t go to the wedding. I can&rsquo;t just skip my brothers wedding. Especially when I&rsquo;m the best man. The original plan was fly over two days early, stay three days and fly back. He moved his flights around in hopes that his wife would relent. No dice: I&rsquo;ve moved the flight to night of the day before and afternoon of the day after. My wife is still saying I can&rsquo;t go. Her friends are willing to come over and help, and worst come to worst her parents can drive up and stay a day or two. It&rsquo;s not like she&rsquo;ll be all alone.  I told her I can&rsquo;t skip the wedding and that she&rsquo;ll be fine and there are other people to help her. It&rsquo;s only a day and a half, nothing&rsquo;s going to happen. Neither he nor his wife will budge: She said that if I cared about her I would skip the wedding. I got pissed off and said she can think that if she wants but I&rsquo;m going either way. She&rsquo;s now only talking to me to demand water. Nice environment to bring a child into, right?The people of Reddit have answered with a resounding &quot;you&#39;re the a-hole,&quot; with a few holdouts.User tenpercentofnothing says that this shouldn&#39;t even have become an argument: She&rsquo;ll be what 37-38 weeks pregnant when you leave? That&rsquo;s full-term! She&rsquo;s on doctor-ordered bed rest because of high blood pressure and now you&rsquo;re stressing her out which is probably going to increase her blood pressure even more and lead to early labor.  She shouldn&rsquo;t have to tell you that you can&rsquo;t go! You should have made that decision on your own. Yes, it absolutely sucks that you&rsquo;d have to miss your brother&rsquo;s wedding. I&rsquo;d be devastated if that happened to me. But your wife needs YOU, not her parents, not her friends. Bangbangsmashsmash pointed out that bed rest is not exactly a staycation: Bed rest is meant to protect health of mom and baby. and they really don&rsquo;t like to put people on it if they can help it (increases risk of blood clots and other stuff). Bed rest means you&rsquo;re in imminent danger to a degree Bugsdoingthings pointed out he might regret going to the wedding big time: Your wife is a first time mom and has medical complications already. I think you need to stop and ask yourself: if your wife, God forbid, has a catastrophic medical event during childbirth, do you really think you are going to look back at this and say &quot;yeah, I&#39;m really glad I dug in my heels and told her to shove it&quot;? And abhikaivi gets real about what could actually happen: I feel like OP is missing how dangerous this is. His wife, child, or both could die. Missing his child&#39;s birth would be terrible, but imagine missing one of their deaths. Abigfatsmellypoo points out that the brother could be stepping up more: You know who the AH is? You and your brother. You should have told your brother &ldquo;oh #%* my wife is having complications you need a backup best man&rdquo; and your brother should have been like &ldquo;on it bro&rdquo; And EmpressSundae sealed the deal with a true story: My husband left me for five days to fly across the country to go to a wedding where he was a groomsman. I was 38 weeks pregnant. It was a pretty shitty thing to do. I don&rsquo;t actually know if I&rsquo;ll ever really get over it. I felt totally abandoned. Also broken-hearted for my poor baby when I realized that he didn&rsquo;t truly want to be present for the birth, where he ranked that in his priorities.  He did the wedding and then went to his hometown and kicked it with his family for a few days. Which also was a nail in the coffin of my opinion for a lot of his family- that no one freaked out at him and gave him a Tough Love come to Jesus talk for even being here. If my brother left his wife at that point of pregnancy for almost a week across the country my parents would die of shame.  I didn&rsquo;t even have health issues going on. My pregnancy wasn&rsquo;t high-risk like your wife&rsquo;s. Please don&rsquo;t make a decision you can&rsquo;t go back from. It not only made me question his love for me, it also made me question his love and care for his child. Yikes. Let&#39;s hope OP makes the right choice!

What&#39;s more important: your brother&#39;s wedding or a your wife and unborn child&#39;s health?  This is what one man had to ask the internet to help him figure out, as he weighs the personal cost of leaving his pregnant wife on bed...