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<p>When your parent is getting married, it&#39;s supposed to be a joyful occasion. But what if that parent is a total hypocrite?</p><p>A man whose father kicked him out of the house for being gay has asked if he was wrong for telling his father&#39;s fianc&eacute; about it &mdash; and yes, the father&#39;s fianc&eacute; is a man.</p><p>His homophobic dad is now gay.</p><p>The son <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mjsafq/aita_for_objecting_at_my_fathers_wedding/">took to Reddit </a>to ask if he was the a-hole in the situation. Here&#39;s the whole story.</p><h2>The man says his dad kicked him out at 15:</h2><blockquote> <p>My father threw my out of the house at fifteen for coming out as gay. On my wedding day, my father had an invitation to his own wedding hand delivered to me by one of those hired delivery people.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My father sent his wedding invitation to my wedding. My actual wedding. His wedding date? The anniversary of when I started dating my husband. Both dates he knew because of my uncle.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He decided to ignore the invitation:</h2><blockquote> <p>I threw the invitation away and didn&rsquo;t even think about it until my aunt, his sister, reached out and told me he wanted to talk and apologize for everything and that he wanted me to be at his wedding. I told her that I&rsquo;d consider it and talked to my husband about it. He&rsquo;s the one who convinced me to go and said we should just see what he says.</p> </blockquote><h2>They decided to show up a day early:</h2><blockquote> <p>We drove down a day early and my father basically avoided us all day. I know weddings are a busy time but every time one of us tried to speak to him, he had to go somewhere and then he said he&rsquo;d talk to me after the wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The problem with this was that their reception wasn&rsquo;t supposed to end until 2 and they had flight for 3:30 to their honeymoon so I knew he wouldn&rsquo;t be able to talk to me then and me and my husband were going to leave the reception as soon as was appropriate to go around our hometown to places we haunted in high school when we first started dating. Because my father&rsquo;s wedding was held in the morning we thought we could celebrate our anniversary in the afternoon and evening.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He realized something:</h2><blockquote> <p>I informed him of this and he said that he would just call me when he could then. That&rsquo;s when I realized none of his fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s family or his fianc&eacute; had any idea that he had thrown me out and that he had told them I moved away for college. I gathered this through talking to his fianc&eacute; and his family.</p> </blockquote><h2>He decided to tell the truth to his dad&#39;s fianc&eacute;:</h2><blockquote> <p>I objected because I realized that this man was in love with my father but my father had lied to him and I felt like he deserved to know before they got married. I apologized and then explained the situation and then left. A lot of my family members said I was an a**hole and that I could have waited until they got married but I don&rsquo;t think the fianc&eacute; deserved to marry someone who lied about something so big, especially something that was homophobic and they&rsquo;re a homosexual couple.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He clarified that he voiced his concerns <em>before</em> the wedding:</h2><blockquote> <p>I objected before the ceremony even started. The morning of the wedding when the fianc&eacute; asked me about college, I was like uh I&rsquo;ve never been to college. That&rsquo;s when I realized what my father had done so I told him at breakfast before we had even left for the venue.</p> </blockquote><h2>He says he couldn&#39;t have done it any sooner than he did:</h2><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;d never met the fianc&eacute; nor his family until the day before the wedding and only briefly. I didn&rsquo;t really sit down and talk to any of them until the morning of the ceremony.</p> </blockquote><h2>The wedding was called off:</h2><blockquote> <p>I only heard the fall out through my aunt because I left with my husband but apparently my father and his ex-fianc&eacute; got into a massive argument and the wedding was called off. I don&rsquo;t speak to either parties now though I did message the fianc&eacute; on Facebook to apologize later that day cause I felt bad about ruining his wedding but he said he was glad that I told him.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The people of the internet largely say he did the right thing.</h2><p> </p><p>Anxious_Bat042 disagrees:</p><blockquote> <p>[You&#39;re no the a-hole] at all his poor fianc&eacute; needed to realize what a monster he was about to marry</p> </blockquote><p>Splatterfilm thinks he did the right thing:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m glad the fianc&eacute; broke it off. The relatives saying you should have waited until after the wedding REALLY miss the point. People need to make informed decisions and can&rsquo;t do that without all the information. The fianc&eacute; did not want to marry a hypocrite, liar, and rotten parent. You saved that man a world of grief and the cost of a divorce.</p> </blockquote><p>A few people, like yssic_1961, disagreed:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>You were being petty ( I understand why you would be) and with true drama you decided to bring down your father. So the answer to your question is yes you are [the a-hole]. Seek counseling and work on having a relationship with your father. Peace.</p> </blockquote><p>Serendipity-junction, though, says his dad has no excuse for his behavior:</p><blockquote> <p>It doesn&#39;t matter if he was dealing with his own identity, he still hurt you in figuring himself out and wanted to play act like he didn&#39;t put a minor in a precarious place at 15. These actions aren&#39;t undone just because he&#39;s being brave. Bravery would be him mending fences and fessing up ahead of the actual wedding</p> </blockquote><h2>So there you have it. This is one instance where it&#39;s a-okay to mess with someone else&#39;s wedding.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Gay son asks if he was wrong to ruin dad's gay marriage due to homophobic past.

When your parent is getting married, it&#39;s supposed to be a joyful occasion. But what if that parent is a total hypocrite?A man whose father kicked him out of the house for being gay has asked if he was wrong for telling his father&#39;s fianc&eacute; about it &mdash; and yes, the father&#39;s fianc&eacute; is a man.His homophobic dad is now gay.The son took to Reddit to ask if he was the a-hole in the situation. Here&#39;s the whole story.The man says his dad kicked him out at 15: My father threw my out of the house at fifteen for coming out as gay. On my wedding day, my father had an invitation to his own wedding hand delivered to me by one of those hired delivery people.  My father sent his wedding invitation to my wedding. My actual wedding. His wedding date? The anniversary of when I started dating my husband. Both dates he knew because of my uncle. He decided to ignore the invitation: I threw the invitation away and didn&rsquo;t even think about it until my aunt, his sister, reached out and told me he wanted to talk and apologize for everything and that he wanted me to be at his wedding. I told her that I&rsquo;d consider it and talked to my husband about it. He&rsquo;s the one who convinced me to go and said we should just see what he says. They decided to show up a day early: We drove down a day early and my father basically avoided us all day. I know weddings are a busy time but every time one of us tried to speak to him, he had to go somewhere and then he said he&rsquo;d talk to me after the wedding.  The problem with this was that their reception wasn&rsquo;t supposed to end until 2 and they had flight for 3:30 to their honeymoon so I knew he wouldn&rsquo;t be able to talk to me then and me and my husband were going to leave the reception as soon as was appropriate to go around our hometown to places we haunted in high school when we first started dating. Because my father&rsquo;s wedding was held in the morning we thought we could celebrate our anniversary in the afternoon and evening. He realized something: I informed him of this and he said that he would just call me when he could then. That&rsquo;s when I realized none of his fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s family or his fianc&eacute; had any idea that he had thrown me out and that he had told them I moved away for college. I gathered this through talking to his fianc&eacute; and his family. He decided to tell the truth to his dad&#39;s fianc&eacute;: I objected because I realized that this man was in love with my father but my father had lied to him and I felt like he deserved to know before they got married. I apologized and then explained the situation and then left. A lot of my family members said I was an a**hole and that I could have waited until they got married but I don&rsquo;t think the fianc&eacute; deserved to marry someone who lied about something so big, especially something that was homophobic and they&rsquo;re a homosexual couple. He clarified that he voiced his concerns before the wedding: I objected before the ceremony even started. The morning of the wedding when the fianc&eacute; asked me about college, I was like uh I&rsquo;ve never been to college. That&rsquo;s when I realized what my father had done so I told him at breakfast before we had even left for the venue. He says he couldn&#39;t have done it any sooner than he did: I&rsquo;d never met the fianc&eacute; nor his family until the day before the wedding and only briefly. I didn&rsquo;t really sit down and talk to any of them until the morning of the ceremony. The wedding was called off: I only heard the fall out through my aunt because I left with my husband but apparently my father and his ex-fianc&eacute; got into a massive argument and the wedding was called off. I don&rsquo;t speak to either parties now though I did message the fianc&eacute; on Facebook to apologize later that day cause I felt bad about ruining his wedding but he said he was glad that I told him. The people of the internet largely say he did the right thing. Anxious_Bat042 disagrees: [You&#39;re no the a-hole] at all his poor fianc&eacute; needed to realize what a monster he was about to marry Splatterfilm thinks he did the right thing: I&rsquo;m glad the fianc&eacute; broke it off. The relatives saying you should have waited until after the wedding REALLY miss the point. People need to make informed decisions and can&rsquo;t do that without all the information. The fianc&eacute; did not want to marry a hypocrite, liar, and rotten parent. You saved that man a world of grief and the cost of a divorce. A few people, like yssic_1961, disagreed: You were being petty ( I understand why you would be) and with true drama you decided to bring down your father. So the answer to your question is yes you are [the a-hole]. Seek counseling and work on having a relationship with your father. Peace. Serendipity-junction, though, says his dad has no excuse for his behavior: It doesn&#39;t matter if he was dealing with his own identity, he still hurt you in figuring himself out and wanted to play act like he didn&#39;t put a minor in a precarious place at 15. These actions aren&#39;t undone just because he&#39;s being brave. Bravery would be him mending fences and fessing up ahead of the actual wedding So there you have it. This is one instance where it&#39;s a-okay to mess with someone else&#39;s wedding.

When your parent is getting married, it&#39;s supposed to be a joyful occasion. But what if that parent is a total hypocrite?  A man whose father kicked him out of the house for being gay has asked if he was wrong for telling his...