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<p>A person&#39;s relationship with makeup is pretty much no one else&#39;s business. But what if their stance on the use of cosmetics starts bleeding into other people&#39;s lives?</p><p>A man has <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ovw4gf/aita_for_asking_my_wife_to_lighten_up_about_makeup/">taken to Reddit</a> to ask if he&#39;s wrong for telling his wife to &quot;lighten up&quot; about makeup after she ranted against it at a dinner party. The plot twist: he <em>also</em> got on her case about not wearing make up on their wedding day, which seems like a big no-no.</p><p>So does she need to chill out or does he? Here&#39;s the full story.</p><h2>He calls her refusal to wear makeup an &quot;issue&quot;:</h2><blockquote> <p>My (32M) wife (29F) and I have been together for 5 years, married for just over 2. One issue that&rsquo;s cropped up over our entire relationship is her refusal to ever wear makeup. I think she&rsquo;s beautiful without it, but there have been times and occasions where it was expected/appropriate for her to wear makeup and she refused.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>He seems peeved she didn&#39;t wear it on their wedding day:</h2><blockquote> <p>For example, she didn&rsquo;t wear any makeup on our wedding day. Both of our mothers tried to convince her, but she said she&rsquo;s never worn makeup and she wasn&rsquo;t going to start on a day that she was supposed to enjoy.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They tried to tell her the pictures wouldn&rsquo;t come out as good, and honestly they were kind of right - she&rsquo;s got huge bags under her eyes and I think the photos would&rsquo;ve been nicer if she&rsquo;d just put on concealer or something.</p> </blockquote><h2>And she can&#39;t hide her disdain for makeup:</h2><blockquote> <p>Now it&rsquo;s come up again with my family - we were at a family dinner last night with my parents, sister and her husband, and my niece and nephew. My niece is 11 and has just started getting into makeup - she watches lots of YouTube tutorials and stuff like that. She asked my wife at dinner if she ever wore makeup and my wife said &ldquo;no, I don&rsquo;t bother with it.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>This sparked a bit of an argument:</h2><blockquote> <p>My niece asked why and she gave a little speech about makeup being a waste of money and that she&rsquo;d feel like she was lying to herself if she wore it and that she was &ldquo;happy with the face I have.&rdquo; My sister got mad and said that she wore makeup a lot of the time and didn&rsquo;t feel like she was lying to herself and that it actually made her feel good.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My wife responded &ldquo;oh yeah. I bet you could quit anytime you want.&rdquo; And then kinda laughed, which set my sister off and let&rsquo;s just say the rest of the evening was not enjoyable.</p> </blockquote><h2>He asked her to be &quot;less militant&quot;:</h2><blockquote> <p>When we got home, I asked my wife if she would please be less militant about makeup. I said it wouldn&rsquo;t kill her to wear it and I admit I did accuse her of being overbearing about her stance.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She basically said that she never started conversations about makeup but that it&rsquo;s always other people bugging her to wear it and I said &ldquo;maybe they have a point and you&rsquo;re being hardline over something really stupid and you need to get over yourself&rdquo; and she got upset and called me a d*** for thinking she needed makeup and then we had to go cool down separately.</p> </blockquote><h2>Now he&#39;s wondering if he&#39;s the a-hole:</h2><blockquote> <p>AITA for thinking she&rsquo;s being ridiculous about makeup and telling her to get over her aversion?</p> </blockquote><h2>The people of the internet declared that while the wife maybe shouldn&#39;t have snapped, it&#39;s understandable &mdash; because her husband kinda sucks.</h2><p>xenomouse asks:</p><blockquote> <p>did you wear concealer under your eyes at your wedding? I&rsquo;m just saying, you would have looked a lot better in the pictures if you did.</p> </blockquote><p>polywha agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s such a disgusting double standard that women have to put on paint to make themselves more attractive to other people but guys can just roll out of bed and expect the world to accept them. Until men start wearing makeup regularly and shaving their legs their opinion on whether or not a woman does it does not matter in the slightest.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>0biterdicta thinks the wife has a point:</p><blockquote> <p>No wonder she&#39;s so defensive if everyone in her life keeps attacking her.</p> </blockquote><p>LilLate explains why his wife might have freaked:</p><blockquote> <p>Your niece asked your wife&#39;s perspective. That is how your wife feels about makeup and it isn&#39;t wrong just because sister feels differently. She was asked her opinion and she gave it, and then sister completely jumped all over her opinion and your wife cut that s*** down... because she and everyone else knows... you weren&#39;t going to come to her defense.</p> </blockquote><p>They continue:</p><blockquote> <p>You suck as a husband. Instead of preventing people from pushing your wife into feeling insecure with her natural looks and telling her to wear makeup, you join with them in their pestering and tell her she has no right to be so &quot;hardline&quot; on her opinion. You know what would really improve those wedding photos? A better groom.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Individual-Highway64 agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>Coming from a girl who spends a lot of money and time on make up and enjoys it to the fullest, it&#39;s not up to anybody else to tell someone they should use more (or less) make up.</p> <p>Your sister probably saw it as a personal attack, but your wife simply stated her personal stance.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>How would you feel if she told you she would appreciate it if you would start covering your face in products so she wouldnt see your real face as much?</p> </blockquote><p>OpheliaBelladonna thinks the wife might have overreacted:</p><blockquote> <p>Just like OP has no right to decide what&#39;s on her face, his wife has no right to ridicule or suggest changes to women wearing makeup. Boom, circle of suckitude.</p> </blockquote><p>girlwithdog_79 agreed:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She was rude to your sister and niece. Makeup can be a fun and creative outlet. Your wife knew your niece has taken an interest in it and decided to put her down.</p> <p>&quot;I&#39;m just not really into it but I&#39;m sure you&#39;re good at it.&quot; Is a polite and adequate answer.</p> </blockquote><h2>Either way, people seem to agree that the husband needs the biggest attitude adjustment here.</h2><p>Like, let your girlfriend wear what she wants, dude.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for telling wife who hates makeup to 'lighten up.'

A person&#39;s relationship with makeup is pretty much no one else&#39;s business. But what if their stance on the use of cosmetics starts bleeding into other people&#39;s lives?A man has taken to Reddit to ask if he&#39;s wrong for telling his wife to &quot;lighten up&quot; about makeup after she ranted against it at a dinner party. The plot twist: he also got on her case about not wearing make up on their wedding day, which seems like a big no-no.So does she need to chill out or does he? Here&#39;s the full story.He calls her refusal to wear makeup an &quot;issue&quot;: My (32M) wife (29F) and I have been together for 5 years, married for just over 2. One issue that&rsquo;s cropped up over our entire relationship is her refusal to ever wear makeup. I think she&rsquo;s beautiful without it, but there have been times and occasions where it was expected/appropriate for her to wear makeup and she refused. He seems peeved she didn&#39;t wear it on their wedding day: For example, she didn&rsquo;t wear any makeup on our wedding day. Both of our mothers tried to convince her, but she said she&rsquo;s never worn makeup and she wasn&rsquo;t going to start on a day that she was supposed to enjoy.  They tried to tell her the pictures wouldn&rsquo;t come out as good, and honestly they were kind of right - she&rsquo;s got huge bags under her eyes and I think the photos would&rsquo;ve been nicer if she&rsquo;d just put on concealer or something. And she can&#39;t hide her disdain for makeup: Now it&rsquo;s come up again with my family - we were at a family dinner last night with my parents, sister and her husband, and my niece and nephew. My niece is 11 and has just started getting into makeup - she watches lots of YouTube tutorials and stuff like that. She asked my wife at dinner if she ever wore makeup and my wife said &ldquo;no, I don&rsquo;t bother with it.&rdquo; This sparked a bit of an argument: My niece asked why and she gave a little speech about makeup being a waste of money and that she&rsquo;d feel like she was lying to herself if she wore it and that she was &ldquo;happy with the face I have.&rdquo; My sister got mad and said that she wore makeup a lot of the time and didn&rsquo;t feel like she was lying to herself and that it actually made her feel good.  My wife responded &ldquo;oh yeah. I bet you could quit anytime you want.&rdquo; And then kinda laughed, which set my sister off and let&rsquo;s just say the rest of the evening was not enjoyable. He asked her to be &quot;less militant&quot;: When we got home, I asked my wife if she would please be less militant about makeup. I said it wouldn&rsquo;t kill her to wear it and I admit I did accuse her of being overbearing about her stance.  She basically said that she never started conversations about makeup but that it&rsquo;s always other people bugging her to wear it and I said &ldquo;maybe they have a point and you&rsquo;re being hardline over something really stupid and you need to get over yourself&rdquo; and she got upset and called me a d*** for thinking she needed makeup and then we had to go cool down separately. Now he&#39;s wondering if he&#39;s the a-hole: AITA for thinking she&rsquo;s being ridiculous about makeup and telling her to get over her aversion? The people of the internet declared that while the wife maybe shouldn&#39;t have snapped, it&#39;s understandable &mdash; because her husband kinda sucks.xenomouse asks: did you wear concealer under your eyes at your wedding? I&rsquo;m just saying, you would have looked a lot better in the pictures if you did. polywha agrees: It&#39;s such a disgusting double standard that women have to put on paint to make themselves more attractive to other people but guys can just roll out of bed and expect the world to accept them. Until men start wearing makeup regularly and shaving their legs their opinion on whether or not a woman does it does not matter in the slightest. 0biterdicta thinks the wife has a point: No wonder she&#39;s so defensive if everyone in her life keeps attacking her. LilLate explains why his wife might have freaked: Your niece asked your wife&#39;s perspective. That is how your wife feels about makeup and it isn&#39;t wrong just because sister feels differently. She was asked her opinion and she gave it, and then sister completely jumped all over her opinion and your wife cut that s*** down... because she and everyone else knows... you weren&#39;t going to come to her defense. They continue: You suck as a husband. Instead of preventing people from pushing your wife into feeling insecure with her natural looks and telling her to wear makeup, you join with them in their pestering and tell her she has no right to be so &quot;hardline&quot; on her opinion. You know what would really improve those wedding photos? A better groom. Individual-Highway64 agrees: Coming from a girl who spends a lot of money and time on make up and enjoys it to the fullest, it&#39;s not up to anybody else to tell someone they should use more (or less) make up. Your sister probably saw it as a personal attack, but your wife simply stated her personal stance.  How would you feel if she told you she would appreciate it if you would start covering your face in products so she wouldnt see your real face as much? OpheliaBelladonna thinks the wife might have overreacted: Just like OP has no right to decide what&#39;s on her face, his wife has no right to ridicule or suggest changes to women wearing makeup. Boom, circle of suckitude. girlwithdog_79 agreed: She was rude to your sister and niece. Makeup can be a fun and creative outlet. Your wife knew your niece has taken an interest in it and decided to put her down. &quot;I&#39;m just not really into it but I&#39;m sure you&#39;re good at it.&quot; Is a polite and adequate answer. Either way, people seem to agree that the husband needs the biggest attitude adjustment here.Like, let your girlfriend wear what she wants, dude.

A person&#39;s relationship with makeup is pretty much no one else&#39;s business. But what if their stance on the use of cosmetics starts bleeding into other people&#39;s lives?  A man has taken to Reddit to ask if he&#39;s wrong for...