12 married people share their best advice about arguing. 'Don't go to bed mad' is BS.

For a newly engaged couple, there's a lot of fun stuff on the horizon — but probably also a lot of fights.

Luckily, the internet is full of people who've seen their fair share of marital issues and gotten through on the other side — and some who didn't! And all of them have some pretty interesting insight into how you can argue smarter, not harder, with your partner.

A recent Reddit thread tackled the question of advice for newly engaged couples — and quickly became a sounding board for how to handle conflict without destroying your marriage. Because apparently marriage = conflict. Who knew!

Whether you're getting married or not, these people know WTF they're talking about.