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<p>Every parent needs time to decompress. Take a bubble bath, have some wine, maybe get lost in an internet conspiracy theory rabbit hole. Whatever they prefer.</p><p>But one mom is completely fed up as her husband has been coming home from work and spending increasingly long periods of time on the toilet. She suspects it&#39;s because he watches TikTok. And now it&#39;s interfering not only with her sanity, but their daughter&#39;s potty training.</p><p>She<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oyu2z6/aita_for_telling_my_husband_to_get_off_the_toilet/"> took to Reddit</a> to ask for advice in this probably all too common situation.</p><h2>The mom seems to take pretty good care of the ol&#39; homestead:</h2><blockquote> <p>Tonight my husband came home from work to a hot meal, a clean home, and a toddler that was pretty chill because we spent 3.5 hours doing a play date. I on the other hand am exhausted, I&rsquo;m pregnant (just found out yesterday so I&rsquo;m not far along) and we&rsquo;ve had talks about how I might need some more help with our almost 3 year old.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Her husband has a very specific after-work ritual:</h2><blockquote> <p>His routine is to come home from work, eat dinner, &ldquo;poop&rdquo; for 20 minutes and take about 10 minutes to get changed. Today though I was exhausted emotionally and physically after chasing around 2 toddlers and interacting with my friend and her sister (who I just met) so I stepped outside with the dog for 5 minutes while my daughter finished eating.</p> </blockquote><h2>He stayed in there for a while:</h2><blockquote> <p>My husband went to poop, and I come inside to watch the baby. 35 minutes later after being rolled on and jumped on my toddler starts freaking out because she has to pee (she&rsquo;s potty trained) and my husband is STILL on the toilet. Toddlers aren&rsquo;t known for their ability to hold it so I pick her up and go to take her down stairs to our bathroom.</p> </blockquote><h2>Forty minutes later, he was still on the john:</h2><blockquote> <p>But the baby gate is shut so I&rsquo;m juggling the 35lb toddler trying to open the gate as she is screaming &ldquo;I have to pee!&rdquo;. I open the gate and rush down the stairs and get her on the potty. It&rsquo;s been 40 minutes at this point.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Someone should&#39;ve maybe called a doctor:</h2><blockquote> <p>I ask my husband what&rsquo;s going on and he says he&rsquo;s &ldquo;having trouble&rdquo;. I tell him to get off the toilet because at this point he is just going to give himself hemorrhoids. He spent about 45 mins on the toilet! Now he&rsquo;s mad at me. He&rsquo;s hardly talking to me.</p> </blockquote><h2>It&#39;s even worse on the weekends:</h2><blockquote> <p>On the weekends he spends about 1-1.5 hours a day on the toilet usually in 3/4 trips. He&rsquo;s admitted he stays longer than he needs to so he can play on his phone. I have told him to see a doctor so many times if he actually has to go that much for that long. He refuses. He said it&rsquo;s &ldquo;normal&rdquo; for him. Meanwhile I have IBS (a medication side effect) and I don&rsquo;t spend nearly that much time on the toilet.</p> <p>So AITA for telling him to literally s*** or get off the pot?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>She clarified that she understands he needs time to himself, but:</h2><blockquote> <p>I 100% don&rsquo;t mind to give him some time to relax after work and have said this to him. He does work hard, and I do my best to respect that. But being pregnant again has me on the tired side and if I need a hand or a minute to take a breath I need him to be accessible in some way (and if that cuts into his break time he can go back to it). There&rsquo;s about 2-2.5 hours between when he comes home and when our kid goes to bed so he can have a quick decompress time and a longer one in a few hours.</p> </blockquote><h2>And in a comment, she added the clincher:</h2><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ve asked him to stop taking it and he refuses so that might be the case. The man is addicted to ticTok (or however it&rsquo;s spelled, I refuse to get it after seeing him waste hours just watching videos)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The people of the internet agree that while her husband may need downtime, this is an untenable situation.</h2><p>missmyjrav points out an interesting sociological observation:</p><blockquote> <p>I always wondered what takes men so long to poop so I asked several of my guy friends. They all confessed that men go to the bathroom to escape, they&rsquo;re not actually trying to s***.</p> </blockquote><p>bists has a good idea:</p><blockquote> <p>Turn the WiFi off when he goes to the toilet and see how long he takes then</p> </blockquote><p>Dragons_2706 also has advice:</p><blockquote> <p>This weekend, hand him your toddler to watch, go to the bathroom, lock the door and read a book or play games on your phone for an hour or two and see how he likes it... Also, you might want to tell him it&#39;s actually unhealthy to do anything else besides going to the bathroom quickly and getting off for his whole digestive system.... he SERIOUSLY needs a doctor btw if he spends that much time trying to poop</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Zealous_zebras sums it up:</p><blockquote> <p>Either he&rsquo;s using bathroom time to escape for some alone time, or he has some sort of medical or dietary issue going on. Regardless, he needs to get his shit together and stay out of the way of your toddler&rsquo;s tiny bladder.</p> </blockquote><h2>So according to the internet, this is Not Normal Behavior!</h2><p>Sorry, Dads.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom suspects husband is watching TikTok on toilet for an hour at a time, seeks advice

Every parent needs time to decompress. Take a bubble bath, have some wine, maybe get lost in an internet conspiracy theory rabbit hole. Whatever they prefer.But one mom is completely fed up as her husband has been coming home from work and spending increasingly long periods of time on the toilet. She suspects it&#39;s because he watches TikTok. And now it&#39;s interfering not only with her sanity, but their daughter&#39;s potty training.She took to Reddit to ask for advice in this probably all too common situation.The mom seems to take pretty good care of the ol&#39; homestead: Tonight my husband came home from work to a hot meal, a clean home, and a toddler that was pretty chill because we spent 3.5 hours doing a play date. I on the other hand am exhausted, I&rsquo;m pregnant (just found out yesterday so I&rsquo;m not far along) and we&rsquo;ve had talks about how I might need some more help with our almost 3 year old. Her husband has a very specific after-work ritual: His routine is to come home from work, eat dinner, &ldquo;poop&rdquo; for 20 minutes and take about 10 minutes to get changed. Today though I was exhausted emotionally and physically after chasing around 2 toddlers and interacting with my friend and her sister (who I just met) so I stepped outside with the dog for 5 minutes while my daughter finished eating. He stayed in there for a while: My husband went to poop, and I come inside to watch the baby. 35 minutes later after being rolled on and jumped on my toddler starts freaking out because she has to pee (she&rsquo;s potty trained) and my husband is STILL on the toilet. Toddlers aren&rsquo;t known for their ability to hold it so I pick her up and go to take her down stairs to our bathroom. Forty minutes later, he was still on the john: But the baby gate is shut so I&rsquo;m juggling the 35lb toddler trying to open the gate as she is screaming &ldquo;I have to pee!&rdquo;. I open the gate and rush down the stairs and get her on the potty. It&rsquo;s been 40 minutes at this point. Someone should&#39;ve maybe called a doctor: I ask my husband what&rsquo;s going on and he says he&rsquo;s &ldquo;having trouble&rdquo;. I tell him to get off the toilet because at this point he is just going to give himself hemorrhoids. He spent about 45 mins on the toilet! Now he&rsquo;s mad at me. He&rsquo;s hardly talking to me. It&#39;s even worse on the weekends: On the weekends he spends about 1-1.5 hours a day on the toilet usually in 3/4 trips. He&rsquo;s admitted he stays longer than he needs to so he can play on his phone. I have told him to see a doctor so many times if he actually has to go that much for that long. He refuses. He said it&rsquo;s &ldquo;normal&rdquo; for him. Meanwhile I have IBS (a medication side effect) and I don&rsquo;t spend nearly that much time on the toilet. So AITA for telling him to literally s*** or get off the pot? She clarified that she understands he needs time to himself, but: I 100% don&rsquo;t mind to give him some time to relax after work and have said this to him. He does work hard, and I do my best to respect that. But being pregnant again has me on the tired side and if I need a hand or a minute to take a breath I need him to be accessible in some way (and if that cuts into his break time he can go back to it). There&rsquo;s about 2-2.5 hours between when he comes home and when our kid goes to bed so he can have a quick decompress time and a longer one in a few hours. And in a comment, she added the clincher: I&rsquo;ve asked him to stop taking it and he refuses so that might be the case. The man is addicted to ticTok (or however it&rsquo;s spelled, I refuse to get it after seeing him waste hours just watching videos) The people of the internet agree that while her husband may need downtime, this is an untenable situation.missmyjrav points out an interesting sociological observation: I always wondered what takes men so long to poop so I asked several of my guy friends. They all confessed that men go to the bathroom to escape, they&rsquo;re not actually trying to s***. bists has a good idea: Turn the WiFi off when he goes to the toilet and see how long he takes then Dragons_2706 also has advice: This weekend, hand him your toddler to watch, go to the bathroom, lock the door and read a book or play games on your phone for an hour or two and see how he likes it... Also, you might want to tell him it&#39;s actually unhealthy to do anything else besides going to the bathroom quickly and getting off for his whole digestive system.... he SERIOUSLY needs a doctor btw if he spends that much time trying to poop Zealous_zebras sums it up: Either he&rsquo;s using bathroom time to escape for some alone time, or he has some sort of medical or dietary issue going on. Regardless, he needs to get his shit together and stay out of the way of your toddler&rsquo;s tiny bladder. So according to the internet, this is Not Normal Behavior!Sorry, Dads.

Every parent needs time to decompress. Take a bubble bath, have some wine, maybe get lost in an internet conspiracy theory rabbit hole. Whatever they prefer.  But one mom is completely fed up as her husband has been coming home from work...