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<p>It&#39;s nice to help your family with childcare if you can. But what if they don&#39;t want to repay the favor later on?</p><p>One mom is asking whether she&#39;s in the wrong for expecting free baby-sitting from the sister whose child she helped raise. She <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/n6nv46/aita_for_wanting_my_sister_to_babysit_my_daughter/">posted on Reddit&#39;s</a> &quot;Am I the a-hole?&quot; forum about the conundrum.</p><h2>The mom says her nephew was unexpected:</h2><blockquote> <p>My(32F) sister(37F) gave birth to my nephew Luke when she was 20 years old. It was an unexpected pregnancy and the father was married, so he didn&#39;t want any involvement his child. My parents and sister had to go to work so I was responsible to babysit Luke. It was never a burden, I have always loved kids and love my nephew dearly. So, for years i babysat every week, to the point that Luke calls me his second mother nowadays. Only when he was 12 my sister decided he was old enough to take care of himself so I stopped the babysitting.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Now, she&#39;s having a kid:</h2><blockquote> <p>Now I have a child (2F). Me and my husband having been very busy lately and stressful with work, so we decided to take a day off. I asked sis if she could babysit my daughter while we were off. She said ok, but I would need to pay her. I was very confused, even thought this was a joke but she was dead serious.</p> </blockquote><h2>Her sister listed reasons why she should get paid:</h2><blockquote> <p>I asked her about the time that I spent 13 years of my life babysitting her son for free since I was a teenager and she enumerated the reasons of why she is demanding payment: &bull; I was young, therefore more patient, while she is almost 40s; &bull; I have never complained and she didn&#39;t oblige me to babysit; &bull; She always brought gifts to me, so she considered this a payment.</p> </blockquote><h2>She was in disbelief:</h2><blockquote> <p>I was like what the hell??? I replied that sometimes she didn&#39;t even ASK me if I could take care of Luke, she just left me alone with him and only came back hours later. The &quot;payment&quot; was only some groceries, nothing expensive. And the babysitting also involved cooking, doctor appointments etc. I had to postpone a lot of plans too, because &quot;family comes first&quot;.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The sister hung up on her:</h2><blockquote> <p>She responded &quot;Ok. Go find someone else, then&quot; and hung up. I don&#39;t know if i am being [the a-hole] because I didn&#39;t demand payment at the time. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>The people of Reddit agree that her sister is the a-hole.</h2><p>Pinkie_Flamingo summed it up:</p><blockquote> <p>You have an extremely petty, selfish sister.</p> </blockquote><p>loulabug247 agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>all OP should say in response to the sis is, &quot;Sooooo it&#39;s ok for me to help raise you kid when I was a kid myself, however when I ask an adult you to watch my kid for one day it is too much and you deserve money?&quot; Honestly I turned young into kid to drive the point home that she had a non adult basically be a second mom to her kid with nothing in return.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>BotchedUpElia has an idea:</p><blockquote> <p>Ask her son if he would babysit and pay him. One day versus 12 years really isnt asking much at all.</p> </blockquote><p>SleuthingSloth009 also thinks the sister went too far:</p><blockquote> <p>Normally, I&#39;d be on your sister&#39;s side but you babysitting her kid for free for 13 years completely changes everything. If you do something for someone for free and they don&#39;t reciprocate then they&#39;re a**holes. 13 years of free babysitting and this is how she acts?! Wow! In your shoes, I&#39;d feel so offended that I&#39;d disown her. You saved her thousands (maybe even tens of thousands) of dollars and this is how she shows her gratitude?! Holy crap!</p> </blockquote><p>Malifecent_ad_ says:</p><blockquote> <p>Never babysit for her again if she wants to do something out of town or she has another kid. Hire a sitter instead. At least the sitter takes the job seriously.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So the verdict is: if someone baby-sits your kid for years, you owe them the same in return.</h2><p>Guess no good deed goes unpunished.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if her sister is wrong to demand money for babysitting her kid.

It&#39;s nice to help your family with childcare if you can. But what if they don&#39;t want to repay the favor later on?One mom is asking whether she&#39;s in the wrong for expecting free baby-sitting from the sister whose child she helped raise. She posted on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the a-hole?&quot; forum about the conundrum.The mom says her nephew was unexpected: My(32F) sister(37F) gave birth to my nephew Luke when she was 20 years old. It was an unexpected pregnancy and the father was married, so he didn&#39;t want any involvement his child. My parents and sister had to go to work so I was responsible to babysit Luke. It was never a burden, I have always loved kids and love my nephew dearly. So, for years i babysat every week, to the point that Luke calls me his second mother nowadays. Only when he was 12 my sister decided he was old enough to take care of himself so I stopped the babysitting. Now, she&#39;s having a kid: Now I have a child (2F). Me and my husband having been very busy lately and stressful with work, so we decided to take a day off. I asked sis if she could babysit my daughter while we were off. She said ok, but I would need to pay her. I was very confused, even thought this was a joke but she was dead serious. Her sister listed reasons why she should get paid: I asked her about the time that I spent 13 years of my life babysitting her son for free since I was a teenager and she enumerated the reasons of why she is demanding payment: &bull; I was young, therefore more patient, while she is almost 40s; &bull; I have never complained and she didn&#39;t oblige me to babysit; &bull; She always brought gifts to me, so she considered this a payment. She was in disbelief: I was like what the hell??? I replied that sometimes she didn&#39;t even ASK me if I could take care of Luke, she just left me alone with him and only came back hours later. The &quot;payment&quot; was only some groceries, nothing expensive. And the babysitting also involved cooking, doctor appointments etc. I had to postpone a lot of plans too, because &quot;family comes first&quot;. The sister hung up on her: She responded &quot;Ok. Go find someone else, then&quot; and hung up. I don&#39;t know if i am being [the a-hole] because I didn&#39;t demand payment at the time. AITA? The people of Reddit agree that her sister is the a-hole.Pinkie_Flamingo summed it up: You have an extremely petty, selfish sister. loulabug247 agrees: all OP should say in response to the sis is, &quot;Sooooo it&#39;s ok for me to help raise you kid when I was a kid myself, however when I ask an adult you to watch my kid for one day it is too much and you deserve money?&quot; Honestly I turned young into kid to drive the point home that she had a non adult basically be a second mom to her kid with nothing in return. BotchedUpElia has an idea: Ask her son if he would babysit and pay him. One day versus 12 years really isnt asking much at all. SleuthingSloth009 also thinks the sister went too far: Normally, I&#39;d be on your sister&#39;s side but you babysitting her kid for free for 13 years completely changes everything. If you do something for someone for free and they don&#39;t reciprocate then they&#39;re a**holes. 13 years of free babysitting and this is how she acts?! Wow! In your shoes, I&#39;d feel so offended that I&#39;d disown her. You saved her thousands (maybe even tens of thousands) of dollars and this is how she shows her gratitude?! Holy crap! Malifecent_ad_ says: Never babysit for her again if she wants to do something out of town or she has another kid. Hire a sitter instead. At least the sitter takes the job seriously. So the verdict is: if someone baby-sits your kid for years, you owe them the same in return.Guess no good deed goes unpunished.

It&#39;s nice to help your family with childcare if you can. But what if they don&#39;t want to repay the favor later on?  One mom is asking whether she&#39;s in the wrong for expecting free baby-sitting from the sister whose child she...