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<p>Teenage boys don&#39;t have the best reputation when it comes to video game moderation. And one mom decided to take a stand against her son&#39;s friend&#39;s over-the-line gaming habit by calling the cops on the kid.</p><p>The mom <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/p27dba/aita_for_calling_the_police_on_my_sons_friend/">posted on Reddit</a> to ask if she&#39;d gone too far when, after her son&#39;s friend wouldn&#39;t leave their house because he was so enthralled in his game, she called the police.</p><h2>She points out that the friend is brat right out of the gate:</h2><blockquote> <p>My son, Brian [13] has a friend, Tom [13] who I really dislike. To put it in the gentlest possible terms, Tom has never been disciplined a single day in his life, and is under the impression that there are and never will be any consequences for his actions.</p> </blockquote><h2>She still supports their friendship, though:</h2><blockquote> <p>However, since Brian is on the spectrum, very few other children want to hang out with him. I have tried to tell him that Tom is using him for his Nintendo Switch, but he is unable to process that. Every time Tom comes over, he&#39;ll hog the Switch to play one of the games (often times a single player game).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>She noticed that he pretty much ignores her son:</h2><blockquote> <p>Over the weekend, Tom came over for a sleepover. As usual, he raced right up to Brian&#39;s room, turned on the game, and sat there for hours. He played until 3am on Sunday morning, and then he woke up at 10am, and without joining us for breakfast, started playing more.</p> </blockquote><h2>Her son tried to get him to leave:</h2><blockquote> <p>At around 12, Brian had reached his limit and told Tom that it was time to go home. He was tuned out completely. Brian then came to me asking what he should do, and I told him to be more assertive. An hour later, he came back, basically in tears, saying that no matter what he said, Tom was just ignoring him or giving him short &quot;a little more&quot; answers.</p> </blockquote><h2>She couldn&#39;t get him to leave, either:</h2><blockquote> <p>I walked in to find Tom, as usual, mouth breathing at the screen. I told him I had to drive him home, and Tom responded that he&#39;d walk (it&#39;s like two miles). Then I told him that he had to go home, and the kid legitimately looked me in the eye and said &quot;No, I don&#39;t think I will.&quot; He actually tried to pull off the Captain America line. I then called his mother who didn&#39;t pick up.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>She unplugged the game:</h2><blockquote> <p>Finally, I unplugged the machine from the wall causing his game to turn off, but he attached the controller to the handheld part and sat on Brian&#39;s beanbag chair, again impervious to anything we said.</p> </blockquote><h2>And then she snapped:</h2><blockquote> <p>At my limit, I went into the other room and called the police. Since we live in a small town, the police officer (a good friend of ours) came right over. He walked up to Tom and said the there had been complaints of trespassing, which Tom responded to by saying he was invited. The officer looked at me, and I assured him that we had asked him to go home.</p> </blockquote><h2>The cop finally got him to leave:</h2><blockquote> <p>Then the officer asked if he wanted to be charged with misdemeanor trespassing. Tom finally got his act together and was taken home by the police, but on his way out I told him that he was never going to step foot in my house again. I told him not to talk to Brian at school and not to text Brian privately.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Tom&#39;s mom was not happy:</h2><blockquote> <p>An hour later Tom&#39;s mother called me and shrieked over the phone until hoarse about how horribly I had treated her son. I stayed calm and told her I had called her, but she said she was busy in a meeting and couldn&#39;t talk. I guarantee that Tom fed her some lie-filled story, but I didn&#39;t have the energy, told her to get her s*** together as a parent, and just hung up on her.</p> </blockquote><h2>Now she&#39;s wondering if she did overreact:</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve received dozens of anger-filled texts, both from Tom&#39;s mother and numbers I don&#39;t know. I wouldn&#39;t care what those trashy parents think, but I wonder if they have a point.</p> </blockquote><h2>The people of the internet are pretty divided on this one.</h2><p>Memento_Mori420 says:</p><blockquote> <p>You took all the proper steps. At that point it was down to calling the police or physically dragging the little brat out of your home. Both for the child&#39;s safety and for you not getting sued, calling the police was the right thing to do.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>AblazedSapphire pointed out how messed up Tom&#39;s actions are:</p><blockquote> <p>I have a brother who is also on the spectrum and it would make me very angry if someone he considered a friend would take advantage of him like that. Obviously calling the police seems a little extreme, but Tom wasn&#39;t listening to any reason and he needed to learn that his actions have consequences.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You have a right to protect your son and if calling your police friend to give Tom some form of discipline was the only method, then I agree.</p> </blockquote><p>calamity_avalley agrees this was warranted:</p><blockquote> <p>The kid was never in real danger, but the visit from the cop may make him think twice about his behaviour in the future! (though that&#39;s optimistic). You&#39;ve done nothing wrong.</p> </blockquote><p>TibbleTabbs1114 lays it all out:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>He was asked to leave by your son. Then he was told to leave by your son. Then he was told to leave by you and refused. It&#39;s good he finally got to see that someone was not going to take his bad behavior. His mother needs to be a better parent.</p> </blockquote><p>And wovenbasket69 points out the friend&#39;s mom probably didn&#39;t get the full story:</p><blockquote> <p>hopefully the kid remembers that some people will not tolerate disrespect. his parents should be ashamed of how their child acted in somebody else&rsquo;s home. that being said, if i got the biased half story that the mom probably received i would be LIVID</p> </blockquote><p>KatzonMarz, though, is one of the few who thinks the cops didn&#39;t need to be involved:</p><blockquote> <p>Unless they are a physical threat to your life I really don&#39;t think you should&#39;ve called the cops on a kid. You could&#39;ve removed the switch from his hands, and put up any other items he wanted, or bombarded the mother with calls etc. I just feel like there were more options here. Like I&#39;m not saying his behavior wasn&#39;t horrendous, but at the end of the day he&#39;s barely even a teenager.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And 24272 points out that she&#39;d probably be furious if she were the other mom:</p><blockquote> <p>What if the roles were reversed and OPs son refused to leave a friend&#39;s house, the mother has tried once to contact OP and then just decides to call the police instead? Bet she would not be happy with her son being treated that way either.</p> </blockquote><p>timelording agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>you should&rsquo;ve tried calling Tom&rsquo;s mom a second time or followed up with a text. Before calling the cops. It&rsquo;s not unreasonable for someone to miss a call because they were in a meeting.</p> </blockquote><p>Bu tshayna324 points out that physically removing the kid on her own wasn&#39;t exactly a great option:</p><blockquote> <p>I want to say calling the police is a little extreme, but that being said I also don&rsquo;t know any other alternatives besides physically removing the kid from your house and I&rsquo;m sure the mom would not have liked that! Definitely NTA.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>But sam-mulder points out that she took the &quot;nuclear option&quot;:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m sorry, you called the police on a 13 year old for trespassing after calling his mother once? You chose the nuclear option here. The kid wasn&rsquo;t being violent or destructive, he was just being &hellip; annoying?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I completely understand the social fallout you&rsquo;re experiencing over this. Hopefully you&rsquo;ll get some better coping skills for your son&rsquo;s sake. You already said he has trouble making friends. Do you really think parents are going be clamoring to send their kids to your house now when all it apparently takes is one missed call from you to get law enforcement involved?</p> </blockquote><h2>So clearly, while most people understand where this mom was coming from, this might not have been the best solution in the long run.</h2><p>Tom sucks, but her kid&#39;s social life might suffer.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to call cops on 13 y/o who wouldn't leave house.

Teenage boys don&#39;t have the best reputation when it comes to video game moderation. And one mom decided to take a stand against her son&#39;s friend&#39;s over-the-line gaming habit by calling the cops on the kid.The mom posted on Reddit to ask if she&#39;d gone too far when, after her son&#39;s friend wouldn&#39;t leave their house because he was so enthralled in his game, she called the police.She points out that the friend is brat right out of the gate: My son, Brian [13] has a friend, Tom [13] who I really dislike. To put it in the gentlest possible terms, Tom has never been disciplined a single day in his life, and is under the impression that there are and never will be any consequences for his actions. She still supports their friendship, though: However, since Brian is on the spectrum, very few other children want to hang out with him. I have tried to tell him that Tom is using him for his Nintendo Switch, but he is unable to process that. Every time Tom comes over, he&#39;ll hog the Switch to play one of the games (often times a single player game). She noticed that he pretty much ignores her son: Over the weekend, Tom came over for a sleepover. As usual, he raced right up to Brian&#39;s room, turned on the game, and sat there for hours. He played until 3am on Sunday morning, and then he woke up at 10am, and without joining us for breakfast, started playing more. Her son tried to get him to leave: At around 12, Brian had reached his limit and told Tom that it was time to go home. He was tuned out completely. Brian then came to me asking what he should do, and I told him to be more assertive. An hour later, he came back, basically in tears, saying that no matter what he said, Tom was just ignoring him or giving him short &quot;a little more&quot; answers. She couldn&#39;t get him to leave, either: I walked in to find Tom, as usual, mouth breathing at the screen. I told him I had to drive him home, and Tom responded that he&#39;d walk (it&#39;s like two miles). Then I told him that he had to go home, and the kid legitimately looked me in the eye and said &quot;No, I don&#39;t think I will.&quot; He actually tried to pull off the Captain America line. I then called his mother who didn&#39;t pick up. She unplugged the game: Finally, I unplugged the machine from the wall causing his game to turn off, but he attached the controller to the handheld part and sat on Brian&#39;s beanbag chair, again impervious to anything we said. And then she snapped: At my limit, I went into the other room and called the police. Since we live in a small town, the police officer (a good friend of ours) came right over. He walked up to Tom and said the there had been complaints of trespassing, which Tom responded to by saying he was invited. The officer looked at me, and I assured him that we had asked him to go home. The cop finally got him to leave: Then the officer asked if he wanted to be charged with misdemeanor trespassing. Tom finally got his act together and was taken home by the police, but on his way out I told him that he was never going to step foot in my house again. I told him not to talk to Brian at school and not to text Brian privately. Tom&#39;s mom was not happy: An hour later Tom&#39;s mother called me and shrieked over the phone until hoarse about how horribly I had treated her son. I stayed calm and told her I had called her, but she said she was busy in a meeting and couldn&#39;t talk. I guarantee that Tom fed her some lie-filled story, but I didn&#39;t have the energy, told her to get her s*** together as a parent, and just hung up on her. Now she&#39;s wondering if she did overreact: I&#39;ve received dozens of anger-filled texts, both from Tom&#39;s mother and numbers I don&#39;t know. I wouldn&#39;t care what those trashy parents think, but I wonder if they have a point. The people of the internet are pretty divided on this one.Memento_Mori420 says: You took all the proper steps. At that point it was down to calling the police or physically dragging the little brat out of your home. Both for the child&#39;s safety and for you not getting sued, calling the police was the right thing to do. AblazedSapphire pointed out how messed up Tom&#39;s actions are: I have a brother who is also on the spectrum and it would make me very angry if someone he considered a friend would take advantage of him like that. Obviously calling the police seems a little extreme, but Tom wasn&#39;t listening to any reason and he needed to learn that his actions have consequences.  You have a right to protect your son and if calling your police friend to give Tom some form of discipline was the only method, then I agree. calamity_avalley agrees this was warranted: The kid was never in real danger, but the visit from the cop may make him think twice about his behaviour in the future! (though that&#39;s optimistic). You&#39;ve done nothing wrong. TibbleTabbs1114 lays it all out: He was asked to leave by your son. Then he was told to leave by your son. Then he was told to leave by you and refused. It&#39;s good he finally got to see that someone was not going to take his bad behavior. His mother needs to be a better parent. And wovenbasket69 points out the friend&#39;s mom probably didn&#39;t get the full story: hopefully the kid remembers that some people will not tolerate disrespect. his parents should be ashamed of how their child acted in somebody else&rsquo;s home. that being said, if i got the biased half story that the mom probably received i would be LIVID KatzonMarz, though, is one of the few who thinks the cops didn&#39;t need to be involved: Unless they are a physical threat to your life I really don&#39;t think you should&#39;ve called the cops on a kid. You could&#39;ve removed the switch from his hands, and put up any other items he wanted, or bombarded the mother with calls etc. I just feel like there were more options here. Like I&#39;m not saying his behavior wasn&#39;t horrendous, but at the end of the day he&#39;s barely even a teenager. And 24272 points out that she&#39;d probably be furious if she were the other mom: What if the roles were reversed and OPs son refused to leave a friend&#39;s house, the mother has tried once to contact OP and then just decides to call the police instead? Bet she would not be happy with her son being treated that way either. timelording agrees: you should&rsquo;ve tried calling Tom&rsquo;s mom a second time or followed up with a text. Before calling the cops. It&rsquo;s not unreasonable for someone to miss a call because they were in a meeting. Bu tshayna324 points out that physically removing the kid on her own wasn&#39;t exactly a great option: I want to say calling the police is a little extreme, but that being said I also don&rsquo;t know any other alternatives besides physically removing the kid from your house and I&rsquo;m sure the mom would not have liked that! Definitely NTA. But sam-mulder points out that she took the &quot;nuclear option&quot;: I&rsquo;m sorry, you called the police on a 13 year old for trespassing after calling his mother once? You chose the nuclear option here. The kid wasn&rsquo;t being violent or destructive, he was just being &hellip; annoying?  I completely understand the social fallout you&rsquo;re experiencing over this. Hopefully you&rsquo;ll get some better coping skills for your son&rsquo;s sake. You already said he has trouble making friends. Do you really think parents are going be clamoring to send their kids to your house now when all it apparently takes is one missed call from you to get law enforcement involved? So clearly, while most people understand where this mom was coming from, this might not have been the best solution in the long run.Tom sucks, but her kid&#39;s social life might suffer.

Teenage boys don&#39;t have the best reputation when it comes to video game moderation. And one mom decided to take a stand against her son&#39;s friend&#39;s over-the-line gaming habit by calling the cops on the kid.  The mom posted on...