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<p>A man who&#39;s either very brave, very stupid or both dared to tell his wife that her friend&#39;s accidental pregnancy was not, in fact, an &quot;accident&quot; because she and her partner failed to use protection.</p><p>The couple are now stuck in a standoff and he&#39;s asked Reddit to adjudicate the issue. Is he the a-hole? Is he speaking the truth? Or are both things true at once?</p><p>The guy&#39;s <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/">post</a> reads:</p><blockquote> <p>Had this argument with my wife as her friend recently got pregnant by accident.</p> <p>My case was: if a heterosexual couple, who are both knowingly fertile and both know that neither practice any form of contraception, have sex where the man ejaculates inside the woman consensually, and the woman gets pregnant, they should not call the pregnancy an accident even though the baby was unplanned.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>This guy&#39;s a real philosopher. His argument continues:</p><blockquote> <p>That&#39;d be like mixing the ingredients for a cake together and putting it into a preheated oven then being surprised a cake came out.</p> <p>My wife told me what I said was misogynistic. AITA? Should I reconsider my viewpoint?</p> </blockquote><p>He adds that his wife is in on the post and maintains that she feels his words were misoygnistic.</p><blockquote> <p>Edit: I actually let my wife proof read this before I posted, and she was comfortable with how it was written. I&#39;m just as confused about the misogyny part as you guys.</p> </blockquote><p>So what&#39;s the internet say?</p><h2>The general consensus is that he&#39;s right &mdash; but he could probably think of a better use of the power of speech than voicing this particular viewpoint.</h2><p>&quot;You&#39;re right but I wouldn&#39;t die on this hill,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7grkgj/">ladysaraii</a>.</p><p>&quot;I do feel the need to advise you NOT to pursue this issue,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7grxvo/">tingtongting12</a>. &quot;It doesn&#39;t really concern the two of you (if your wife was the one who&#39;s &#39;accidentally&#39; pregnant, it be a different case) and it&#39;s not smart to get in an argument with your SO just because of other people&#39;s problems&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Many are lamenting the fact that some people don&#39;t seem to know where babies come from.</p><p>&quot;Use contraception or plan on a pregnancy,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7grf2d/">Kath1110</a> said.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7gswi0/">Gigi1302</a> agreed:</p><blockquote> <p>If 2 people are having a consensual sexual relationship, and not doing anything to prevent pregnancy, it wasnt an accident.</p> <p>It is an unplanned pregnancy. No accidents happened here. The woman didnt accidently fall on a penis ,vagina first , just as he ejaculated.</p> <p>Grown people need to act like grown people and accept what is happening.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7gvzqo/">KirklandSignatureDad</a> proves that the friend&#39;s questionable approach to birth control is more common than you&#39;d think:</p><blockquote> <p>i had a friend tell me that him and his wife werent trying for/expecting a baby when they first had a kid. i wanted to ask him if he understands how babies are made.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>But many don&#39;t agree with the misogynistic label.</h2><p>Says <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7gw8ae/">LDKCP</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I also wouldn&#39;t back down. If he&#39;s getting accused of misogyny over such a...logical and to me at least, uncontroversial opinion he has the right to defend that position.</p> <p>I don&#39;t even get why it&#39;s misogynistic really, he&#39;s criticism isn&#39;t solely blaming the woman for anything.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dw5man/aita_for_saying_a_pregnancy_isnt_an_accident_if/f7gygzm/">Veggiebuilder</a> speculates that his wife&#39;s accusations of sexism come from the annoying fact that people often consider birth control to be a woman&#39;s job.</p><blockquote> <p>My guess is it&#39;s somehow related to how birth control (with exception of condoms) falls entirely on the women and a lot of those birth control forms can have lots of negative affects on women and condoms can massively hinder some women&#39;s ability to enjoy sex.</p> <p>Still not too sure how you&#39;d get from there to misogyny but it&#39;s the closest related thing I can think of.</p> <p>OP just stated a fact that it wasn&#39;t an accident in the colloquial sense at least and it much more accurate to use unplanned.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>So there you have it. Use birth control, kids &mdash; and while you&#39;re at it, maybe don&#39;t start pointless fights with your partner.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy argues that pregnancy can't be called 'accidental' if it was the result of unprotected sex.

A man who&#39;s either very brave, very stupid or both dared to tell his wife that her friend&#39;s accidental pregnancy was not, in fact, an &quot;accident&quot; because she and her partner failed to use protection.The couple are now stuck in a standoff and he&#39;s asked Reddit to adjudicate the issue. Is he the a-hole? Is he speaking the truth? Or are both things true at once?The guy&#39;s post reads: Had this argument with my wife as her friend recently got pregnant by accident. My case was: if a heterosexual couple, who are both knowingly fertile and both know that neither practice any form of contraception, have sex where the man ejaculates inside the woman consensually, and the woman gets pregnant, they should not call the pregnancy an accident even though the baby was unplanned. This guy&#39;s a real philosopher. His argument continues: That&#39;d be like mixing the ingredients for a cake together and putting it into a preheated oven then being surprised a cake came out. My wife told me what I said was misogynistic. AITA? Should I reconsider my viewpoint? He adds that his wife is in on the post and maintains that she feels his words were misoygnistic. Edit: I actually let my wife proof read this before I posted, and she was comfortable with how it was written. I&#39;m just as confused about the misogyny part as you guys. So what&#39;s the internet say?The general consensus is that he&#39;s right &mdash; but he could probably think of a better use of the power of speech than voicing this particular viewpoint.&quot;You&#39;re right but I wouldn&#39;t die on this hill,&quot; wrote ladysaraii.&quot;I do feel the need to advise you NOT to pursue this issue,&quot; wrote tingtongting12. &quot;It doesn&#39;t really concern the two of you (if your wife was the one who&#39;s &#39;accidentally&#39; pregnant, it be a different case) and it&#39;s not smart to get in an argument with your SO just because of other people&#39;s problems&quot;Many are lamenting the fact that some people don&#39;t seem to know where babies come from.&quot;Use contraception or plan on a pregnancy,&quot; Kath1110 said.Gigi1302 agreed: If 2 people are having a consensual sexual relationship, and not doing anything to prevent pregnancy, it wasnt an accident. It is an unplanned pregnancy. No accidents happened here. The woman didnt accidently fall on a penis ,vagina first , just as he ejaculated. Grown people need to act like grown people and accept what is happening. KirklandSignatureDad proves that the friend&#39;s questionable approach to birth control is more common than you&#39;d think: i had a friend tell me that him and his wife werent trying for/expecting a baby when they first had a kid. i wanted to ask him if he understands how babies are made. But many don&#39;t agree with the misogynistic label.Says LDKCP: I also wouldn&#39;t back down. If he&#39;s getting accused of misogyny over such a...logical and to me at least, uncontroversial opinion he has the right to defend that position. I don&#39;t even get why it&#39;s misogynistic really, he&#39;s criticism isn&#39;t solely blaming the woman for anything. Veggiebuilder speculates that his wife&#39;s accusations of sexism come from the annoying fact that people often consider birth control to be a woman&#39;s job. My guess is it&#39;s somehow related to how birth control (with exception of condoms) falls entirely on the women and a lot of those birth control forms can have lots of negative affects on women and condoms can massively hinder some women&#39;s ability to enjoy sex. Still not too sure how you&#39;d get from there to misogyny but it&#39;s the closest related thing I can think of. OP just stated a fact that it wasn&#39;t an accident in the colloquial sense at least and it much more accurate to use unplanned. So there you have it. Use birth control, kids &mdash; and while you&#39;re at it, maybe don&#39;t start pointless fights with your partner.

A man who&#39;s either very brave, very stupid or both dared to tell his wife that her friend&#39;s accidental pregnancy was not, in fact, an &quot;accident&quot; because she and her partner failed to use protection.  The couple are now...