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<p>We all know wedding food is overpriced and usually not that great. But is this couple&#39;s solution a little too extra?</p><p>A future bride and groom are embroiled in an argument with their parents over whether or not it&#39;s okay to serve Chipotle at their nuptials. Even with extra guac, this would be quite a thrifty solution &mdash; but the parents aren&#39;t into it.</p><p>They <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eecof0/wibta_for_serving_chipotle_at_my_wedding/">posted on Reddit</a> about the dilemma:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m getting married in April, and when my fiance and I started planning our wedding, we were shocked by how expensive all of the different components were, especially catering. We live in a high cost of living area, and the cheapest catering quotes we were able to get were still well over $100 per person. We&#39;re inviting 75 people and the thought of spending $8,000 or more on food is pretty horrifying.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The couple doesn&#39;t want to shell out eight grand for lukewarm salmon, so they&#39;re getting creative:</h2><blockquote> <p>And then we started thinking &mdash; our first date was at a Chipotle, and it&#39;s been our go-to spot whenever we&#39;re in the mood to go out for lunch. We thought it would be a really fun idea to have them cater our wedding, and we could tie it all together with cute little signs with sayings like &quot;life is burrito-ful with you&quot; (maybe not quite that corny, but you get the idea). Even though we&#39;d have to rent tableware/glassware and hire some people to bus the tables, it would still be thousands of dollars cheaper than the lowest quote we got from the standard wedding caterers. Plus, it would be super easy to accommodate our vegetarian/vegan and gluten-free guests, and who doesn&#39;t like Chipotle?</p> </blockquote><h2>But one set of parents is horrified, while the other set of parents just thinks it&#39;s a little kooky:</h2><blockquote> <p>My parents have been pretty laid back about our decisions, but they are adamant that we cannot serve Chipotle and that it would be cheap and tacky and reflect badly on them/us. My mom in particular is worried that family traveling from out of state will find it insulting. My fiance&#39;s parents think it&#39;s a little strange but they&#39;re not nearly as opinionated and are basically just like &quot;do whatever you guys want.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The couple are paying for most of the wedding themselves, although both sets of parents are chipping in:</h2><blockquote> <p>If it matters, my fiance and I are financing the majority of the wedding, but our parents have made some contributions as well. My parents have a family friend who runs a gorgeous event venue in our area and were able to negotiate a great deal for us, and they also offered to pay for the flowers and the cake, which we very much appreciate. My fiance&#39;s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner.</p> </blockquote><h2>The question on the bride and groom&#39;s minds:</h2><blockquote> <p>Would people really be that insulted by Chipotle at a wedding?</p> </blockquote><h2>With this being Reddit, many are on the couple&#39;s side.</h2><p>&quot;[No a-holes here],&quot; writes <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eecof0/wibta_for_serving_chipotle_at_my_wedding/fbsu2j8/">GlitteringHair7</a>, &quot;should I save the date?&quot;</p><p>But realistically, many predict that there will be some sideways glances and whispers if the couple do, indeed, go the Chipotle route. Says <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eecof0/wibta_for_serving_chipotle_at_my_wedding/fbsuytl/">lisasimpsonfan</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Is it tacky? Maybe depending on the venue. If you are having this formal wedding with an expensive high end venue it&#39;s going to look cheap AF to everyone if all you serve is Chipotle. They might call it &quot;fast casual&quot; but really it&#39;s still fast food. You might as well buy a couple 6&#39; subs. Especially if you have family flying in and you serve fast food. OUCH. Now if you are doing more of a casual outdoor-sy type wedding then it&#39;s not so tacky. It really depends on the vibe of your wedding.</p> <p>Either way there are no assholes because it&#39;s your and your fiance&#39;s wedding day so it&#39;s your choice. Just be prepared to be judged.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>&quot;Just be prepared to be judged&quot; is probably a good rule of thumb for everything wedding related, TBH.</p><p>As <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eecof0/wibta_for_serving_chipotle_at_my_wedding/fbsvn9y/">Oliver_Green</a> pointed out, they can do whatever they want at their wedding:</p><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s your wedding. If you want to married in an all nude ceremony under the full moon with a choir of barn cats in heat, you do you. I served appetizers at my wedding, I promise you that decision has no bearing on the rest of my life.</p> <p>If your family cares more about the food you serve than about being present and happy for you, they can leave. Those types will find something to gossip about anyway, don&#39;t plan your wedding around the Jones&#39;s.</p> </blockquote><p>Which is true &mdash; but it still doesn&#39;t answer the question at hand: will people be insulted by the choice?</p><p>If they&#39;re bringing a high-cost gift, then yeah, they will probably not be stoked about the Chipotle. <a href="http://if it’s a formal wedding. I don’t understand why people are saying it’s fine because it’s “free food” when you have to give gifts/money at a wedding. I think you should mention the menu with your guests beforehand so they can adjust their gift value.">Heyitssani</a> suggested warning people beforehand:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>if it&rsquo;s a formal wedding. I don&rsquo;t understand why people are saying it&rsquo;s fine because it&rsquo;s &ldquo;free food&rdquo; when you have to give gifts/money at a wedding. I think you should mention the menu with your guests beforehand so they can adjust their gift value.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eecof0/wibta_for_serving_chipotle_at_my_wedding/fbto9t0/">Mydogsnamesleonidas</a> points out that food costs are an integral part of how people decide how much money to give a married couple:</p><blockquote> <p>Common practice is to give a gift the cost of your plate. Not saying they should give 5 dollars if they get served chipotle, but OP should keep in mind that though expensive up front, they will probably see a lot of this money returned through gifts.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eecof0/wibta_for_serving_chipotle_at_my_wedding/fbteg3l/">octopus_hug</a> points out that people who spend a lot of time and money to get there might be miffed:</p><blockquote> <p>if your wedding is anything but super casual. I&rsquo;d be pissed if I traveled from out of state to a formal wedding and they served me Chipotle. Is it a cash bar too?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So there you have it: it&#39;s fine to serve whatever you want at your wedding... but yes, people might be insulted by fast food.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Engaged couple ask if it's insulting to serve Chipotle at wedding.

We all know wedding food is overpriced and usually not that great. But is this couple&#39;s solution a little too extra?A future bride and groom are embroiled in an argument with their parents over whether or not it&#39;s okay to serve Chipotle at their nuptials. Even with extra guac, this would be quite a thrifty solution &mdash; but the parents aren&#39;t into it.They posted on Reddit about the dilemma: I&#39;m getting married in April, and when my fiance and I started planning our wedding, we were shocked by how expensive all of the different components were, especially catering. We live in a high cost of living area, and the cheapest catering quotes we were able to get were still well over $100 per person. We&#39;re inviting 75 people and the thought of spending $8,000 or more on food is pretty horrifying. The couple doesn&#39;t want to shell out eight grand for lukewarm salmon, so they&#39;re getting creative: And then we started thinking &mdash; our first date was at a Chipotle, and it&#39;s been our go-to spot whenever we&#39;re in the mood to go out for lunch. We thought it would be a really fun idea to have them cater our wedding, and we could tie it all together with cute little signs with sayings like &quot;life is burrito-ful with you&quot; (maybe not quite that corny, but you get the idea). Even though we&#39;d have to rent tableware/glassware and hire some people to bus the tables, it would still be thousands of dollars cheaper than the lowest quote we got from the standard wedding caterers. Plus, it would be super easy to accommodate our vegetarian/vegan and gluten-free guests, and who doesn&#39;t like Chipotle? But one set of parents is horrified, while the other set of parents just thinks it&#39;s a little kooky: My parents have been pretty laid back about our decisions, but they are adamant that we cannot serve Chipotle and that it would be cheap and tacky and reflect badly on them/us. My mom in particular is worried that family traveling from out of state will find it insulting. My fiance&#39;s parents think it&#39;s a little strange but they&#39;re not nearly as opinionated and are basically just like &quot;do whatever you guys want.&quot; The couple are paying for most of the wedding themselves, although both sets of parents are chipping in: If it matters, my fiance and I are financing the majority of the wedding, but our parents have made some contributions as well. My parents have a family friend who runs a gorgeous event venue in our area and were able to negotiate a great deal for us, and they also offered to pay for the flowers and the cake, which we very much appreciate. My fiance&#39;s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. The question on the bride and groom&#39;s minds: Would people really be that insulted by Chipotle at a wedding? With this being Reddit, many are on the couple&#39;s side.&quot;[No a-holes here],&quot; writes GlitteringHair7, &quot;should I save the date?&quot;But realistically, many predict that there will be some sideways glances and whispers if the couple do, indeed, go the Chipotle route. Says lisasimpsonfan: Is it tacky? Maybe depending on the venue. If you are having this formal wedding with an expensive high end venue it&#39;s going to look cheap AF to everyone if all you serve is Chipotle. They might call it &quot;fast casual&quot; but really it&#39;s still fast food. You might as well buy a couple 6&#39; subs. Especially if you have family flying in and you serve fast food. OUCH. Now if you are doing more of a casual outdoor-sy type wedding then it&#39;s not so tacky. It really depends on the vibe of your wedding. Either way there are no assholes because it&#39;s your and your fiance&#39;s wedding day so it&#39;s your choice. Just be prepared to be judged. &quot;Just be prepared to be judged&quot; is probably a good rule of thumb for everything wedding related, TBH.As Oliver_Green pointed out, they can do whatever they want at their wedding: It&#39;s your wedding. If you want to married in an all nude ceremony under the full moon with a choir of barn cats in heat, you do you. I served appetizers at my wedding, I promise you that decision has no bearing on the rest of my life. If your family cares more about the food you serve than about being present and happy for you, they can leave. Those types will find something to gossip about anyway, don&#39;t plan your wedding around the Jones&#39;s. Which is true &mdash; but it still doesn&#39;t answer the question at hand: will people be insulted by the choice?If they&#39;re bringing a high-cost gift, then yeah, they will probably not be stoked about the Chipotle. Heyitssani suggested warning people beforehand: if it&rsquo;s a formal wedding. I don&rsquo;t understand why people are saying it&rsquo;s fine because it&rsquo;s &ldquo;free food&rdquo; when you have to give gifts/money at a wedding. I think you should mention the menu with your guests beforehand so they can adjust their gift value. And Mydogsnamesleonidas points out that food costs are an integral part of how people decide how much money to give a married couple: Common practice is to give a gift the cost of your plate. Not saying they should give 5 dollars if they get served chipotle, but OP should keep in mind that though expensive up front, they will probably see a lot of this money returned through gifts. And octopus_hug points out that people who spend a lot of time and money to get there might be miffed: if your wedding is anything but super casual. I&rsquo;d be pissed if I traveled from out of state to a formal wedding and they served me Chipotle. Is it a cash bar too? So there you have it: it&#39;s fine to serve whatever you want at your wedding... but yes, people might be insulted by fast food.

We all know wedding food is overpriced and usually not that great. But is this couple&#39;s solution a little too extra?  A future bride and groom are embroiled in an argument with their parents over whether or not it&#39;s okay to serve...