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<p>It&#39;s never fun to find out someone you know is being cheated on &mdash; especially when you have to decide whether to get involved or not.</p><p>One woman <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eohob3/aita_for_cat_fishing_my_sisters_fiance_on_a/">asked for advice on Reddit </a>after her plan to expose her sister&#39;s potentially cheating fianc&eacute; backfired horribly. Now that her sister&#39;s turning on her, she&#39;s wondering: was it an a**hole move to get involved in the first place?</p><h2>It all started when the woman was swiping on a dating app and found a profile of her sister&#39;s fianc&eacute; under a fake name:</h2><blockquote> <p>I was a bit taken aback at first because they&rsquo;ve been together for 8 years. I didn&rsquo;t want to mention anything to her straight away and start a &lsquo;storm in a teacup&rsquo; as they say, and I thought maybe it was an old account that he had forgotten to delete, or maybe not even him at all and just a striking look a like.</p> </blockquote><h2>She decided to channel her inner Nancy Drew.</h2><blockquote> <p>So I made a fake account using a random woman&#39;s photo and fake name. I matched with my sisters fiance and sent him a message to see if he&rsquo;d respond. Surprisingly he responded within 30 minutes.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>He said he&rsquo;s single, I didn&rsquo;t want to waste time so I sent some pretty flirty and suggestive messages which he also did in return. I asked him if he&rsquo;d like to meet up someday for a coffee and &lsquo;fun&rsquo; after if the coffee date went well and he agreed.</p> </blockquote><h2>They agreed to a date, and she hid out to see if her sister&#39;s fianc&eacute; would really show up:</h2><blockquote> <p>Our coffee date was yesterday and sure enough, my sisters fianc&eacute; did indeed show up. I didn&rsquo;t actually meet him, just told him a meeting point then cancelled at the very last minute as he got there. I felt as though I had enough proof to show my sister.</p> </blockquote><h2>Armed with receipts, she confronted her sis:</h2><blockquote> <p>This morning I asked her to come over and I told her everything. She was upset and didn&rsquo;t believe me at first so I showed her his profile and the messages. Well, this is where all hell broke loose.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Her sister decided that she must be in love with the fianc&eacute;:</h2><blockquote> <p>She saw my sexually suggestive messages to him and the flirting and accused me of trying to steal him away from her. I told her I wasn&rsquo;t interested in him in that way, I was just trying to see if it WAS him and if he IS actively using the app. I was just trying to catch him out.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She said with the stuff I was saying, of course any guy is going to respond if a girl is throwing herself at them like that. She completely missed the point of him even being on the dating app to begin with.</p> </blockquote><h2>Now the sisters aren&#39;t speaking and she&#39;s wondering if she messed up:</h2><blockquote> <p>She ended up calling me a homewrecking whore and stormed out of my house. I was only trying to help.. now I haven&rsquo;t heard from her since. Should I have gone about it a different way or not even gotten involved? AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Most agree that while the woman&#39;s methods were un-Orthodox, and possible a little extra, her heart was in the right place.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eohob3/aita_for_cat_fishing_my_sisters_fiance_on_a/fecu16s/">Nobeanzspilled</a> thinks her sister will get over it in time:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>your sister is in denial. Honestly, she will probably thank you eventually. Good luck to you both.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eohob3/aita_for_cat_fishing_my_sisters_fiance_on_a/fectw59/">Cocophanical</a> says the engaged sister is definitely in the wrong:</p><blockquote> <p>i&rsquo;d seriously question your sisters conduct on this one... if you wanted to steal him away, you would&rsquo;ve met him and stolen him as he&rsquo;s clearly up for that! Her reaction could&rsquo;ve been out of shock, embarrassment or even jealousy though so I&rsquo;d forgive her immediate reaction, maybe give her some time to let it soak in and she&rsquo;ll come back from the ledge.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Maybe sending a text with all of the detail prefaced with an apology that you didn&rsquo;t bring her in earlier on this but you didn&rsquo;t want to cause any drama if it was a storm in a teacup.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>But <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eohob3/aita_for_cat_fishing_my_sisters_fiance_on_a/fecugdy/">unlikelyguacamole</a> thinks everyone should cut the sister some slack:</p><blockquote> <p>You are obviously very caring. If they&#39;ve been dating for 8 years it must have been shocking and excruciating and humiliating for your sister though. She must feel just sick. The way she reacted was inappropriate, but understandable given the circumstances. Sorry for your sisters loss.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eohob3/aita_for_cat_fishing_my_sisters_fiance_on_a/fecxxvl/">bionicfeetgrl</a> floats a persuasive theory: maybe the sister knew the truth all along.</p><blockquote> <p>NTA but if they&rsquo;ve been together for 8 years, you didn&rsquo;t tell your sister anything she didn&rsquo;t know. She&rsquo;s just super embarrassed cuz now you know. It&rsquo;s HIGHLY likely he&rsquo;s cheated before, she&rsquo;s forgiven him and she kept it quiet.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At some point they&rsquo;ll break up. Be cool and don&rsquo;t &ldquo;I told you so...&rdquo;. It&rsquo;s gonna be hard enough for her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Either way, most people agree OP shouldn&#39;t feel bad &mdash; and the sister will be back someday.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if it was wrong to catfish sister's fiancé after seeing him on dating app.

It&#39;s never fun to find out someone you know is being cheated on &mdash; especially when you have to decide whether to get involved or not.One woman asked for advice on Reddit after her plan to expose her sister&#39;s potentially cheating fianc&eacute; backfired horribly. Now that her sister&#39;s turning on her, she&#39;s wondering: was it an a**hole move to get involved in the first place?It all started when the woman was swiping on a dating app and found a profile of her sister&#39;s fianc&eacute; under a fake name: I was a bit taken aback at first because they&rsquo;ve been together for 8 years. I didn&rsquo;t want to mention anything to her straight away and start a &lsquo;storm in a teacup&rsquo; as they say, and I thought maybe it was an old account that he had forgotten to delete, or maybe not even him at all and just a striking look a like. She decided to channel her inner Nancy Drew. So I made a fake account using a random woman&#39;s photo and fake name. I matched with my sisters fiance and sent him a message to see if he&rsquo;d respond. Surprisingly he responded within 30 minutes.  He said he&rsquo;s single, I didn&rsquo;t want to waste time so I sent some pretty flirty and suggestive messages which he also did in return. I asked him if he&rsquo;d like to meet up someday for a coffee and &lsquo;fun&rsquo; after if the coffee date went well and he agreed. They agreed to a date, and she hid out to see if her sister&#39;s fianc&eacute; would really show up: Our coffee date was yesterday and sure enough, my sisters fianc&eacute; did indeed show up. I didn&rsquo;t actually meet him, just told him a meeting point then cancelled at the very last minute as he got there. I felt as though I had enough proof to show my sister. Armed with receipts, she confronted her sis: This morning I asked her to come over and I told her everything. She was upset and didn&rsquo;t believe me at first so I showed her his profile and the messages. Well, this is where all hell broke loose. Her sister decided that she must be in love with the fianc&eacute;: She saw my sexually suggestive messages to him and the flirting and accused me of trying to steal him away from her. I told her I wasn&rsquo;t interested in him in that way, I was just trying to see if it WAS him and if he IS actively using the app. I was just trying to catch him out.  She said with the stuff I was saying, of course any guy is going to respond if a girl is throwing herself at them like that. She completely missed the point of him even being on the dating app to begin with. Now the sisters aren&#39;t speaking and she&#39;s wondering if she messed up: She ended up calling me a homewrecking whore and stormed out of my house. I was only trying to help.. now I haven&rsquo;t heard from her since. Should I have gone about it a different way or not even gotten involved? AITA? Most agree that while the woman&#39;s methods were un-Orthodox, and possible a little extra, her heart was in the right place.Nobeanzspilled thinks her sister will get over it in time: your sister is in denial. Honestly, she will probably thank you eventually. Good luck to you both. Cocophanical says the engaged sister is definitely in the wrong: i&rsquo;d seriously question your sisters conduct on this one... if you wanted to steal him away, you would&rsquo;ve met him and stolen him as he&rsquo;s clearly up for that! Her reaction could&rsquo;ve been out of shock, embarrassment or even jealousy though so I&rsquo;d forgive her immediate reaction, maybe give her some time to let it soak in and she&rsquo;ll come back from the ledge.  Maybe sending a text with all of the detail prefaced with an apology that you didn&rsquo;t bring her in earlier on this but you didn&rsquo;t want to cause any drama if it was a storm in a teacup. But unlikelyguacamole thinks everyone should cut the sister some slack: You are obviously very caring. If they&#39;ve been dating for 8 years it must have been shocking and excruciating and humiliating for your sister though. She must feel just sick. The way she reacted was inappropriate, but understandable given the circumstances. Sorry for your sisters loss. And bionicfeetgrl floats a persuasive theory: maybe the sister knew the truth all along. NTA but if they&rsquo;ve been together for 8 years, you didn&rsquo;t tell your sister anything she didn&rsquo;t know. She&rsquo;s just super embarrassed cuz now you know. It&rsquo;s HIGHLY likely he&rsquo;s cheated before, she&rsquo;s forgiven him and she kept it quiet.  At some point they&rsquo;ll break up. Be cool and don&rsquo;t &ldquo;I told you so...&rdquo;. It&rsquo;s gonna be hard enough for her. Either way, most people agree OP shouldn&#39;t feel bad &mdash; and the sister will be back someday.

It&#39;s never fun to find out someone you know is being cheated on &mdash; especially when you have to decide whether to get involved or not.  One woman asked for advice on Reddit after her plan to expose her sister&#39;s potentially...