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<p>We all know the first rule of attending a wedding is that you don&#39;t wear a white dress, so help you god.</p><p>The second rule is that you don&#39;t wear a white pantsuit. The third rule is that you don&#39;t wear anything in a light pastel shade that could be construed as white through a telescope from 500 miles away.</p><p>Basically, don&#39;t even wear anything approaching the white family, or else the bride has license to throw you out of her Special Day and/or accuse you of trying to upstage her for the rest of your lives.</p><p>If you <em>do</em> find yourself in a pinch with nothing to wear but a light-yellow jumpsuit, you should probably go back to square one and buy something else, no matter how fugly.</p><p>But another option is to text the bride and ask her if it&#39;s okay. One woman learned the hard way that some brides will either lie to you about the appropriateness of said jumpsuit, or forget they ever approved it.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>A woman <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/">took to Reddit to ask for advice</a> after her bride-approved outfit caused her to be gossiped about all wedding long, and even on Facebook afterward.</p><p>Her question: is she the a-hole for wearing a nearly white outfit that the bride herself had approved? And furthermore, is she an a-hole for calling the birde out about lying on social media afterward?</p><h2>It all started with a yellow jumpsuit that looked brighter online.</h2><p>&quot;I ordered a nice yellow jumpsuit for the wedding from a trusted retailer,&quot; the woman wrote, continuing:</p><blockquote> <p>When it came, it was much paler than the picture, basically a straw yellow. I started to worry as I&rsquo;d read those stories about guests wanting to steal the thunder by wearing white/traditional wedding dress colours at weddings, and I messaged my friend to ask if she was wearing white. She said she was, and asked why. I sent a picture of the jumpsuit and said that this was what I&rsquo;d been sent in place of a much brighter colour. She said that it looked fine, and she&rsquo;d shut anyone up if they tried to make a deal about it on the day.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>With the bride&#39;s fervent blessing, she thought she&#39;d be good to go. But at the wedding, she overheard people talking smack:</h2><blockquote> <p>On the day itself, I didn&rsquo;t actually get any comments about it directly, which was a relief. However, when I went to the bathroom, I encountered two of the bridesmaids gossiping about how that girl in the jumpsuit (so, me) had the nerve to wear it, especially after the bride had told her directly it wasn&rsquo;t suitable. To frame this as it happened, I was in a cubicle when they came in and started chatting. I came out of the cubicle, and said that no such conversation had happened, and if the bride really had an issue she should have told me months ago when we talked about it. They basically scoffed and said they&rsquo;d believe me when they saw the &lsquo;receipts&rsquo;.</p> </blockquote><h2>To make matters worse, they gave her the stink eye:</h2><blockquote> <p>I saw them later on in the evening with the bride, and all three of them were giving me the stink eye.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Then, the bride posted what the woman perceived to be a subliminal dis against her on Facebook:</h2><blockquote> <p>Yesterday, the bride posted a thank you message on Facebook, with the comment that &lsquo;even scene-stealing wannabes&rsquo; couldn&rsquo;t spoil the day. I was going to leave it, but one of the bridesmaids commented with a poorly-taken picture of me from behind with drawn-on devil horns and tail.</p> </blockquote><h2>So she posted the receipts:</h2><blockquote> <p>I reacted on impulse, and posted screenshots of the conversation where the bride had told me that my outfit was fine, with a comment saying that it was a shame that the bride couldn&rsquo;t tell me to my face there was an issue, and that since I&rsquo;d been asked for &lsquo;receipts&rsquo;, here they were. The comment got a few further comments saying that the tea had been spilled and that this is what happens when people don&rsquo;t know all the facts, as well as the inevitable ones saying that I was being childish and creating a drama.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So now she&#39;s wondering: was she in the wrong?</h2><blockquote> <p>I do view this as stooping down to the level of those who couldn&rsquo;t even tell me straight there was an issue (I mean I had another dress in my car just in case I got comments) in how I reacted, but I also think I was defending my reputation and honour among people I&rsquo;ve known for over two decades. The peace-keeping side of me wants to apologise to the bride, but my heart knows she won&rsquo;t offer the same olive branch, especially now people know she was two-faced in this situation.</p> </blockquote><h2>Most agree that the bride overreacted.</h2><p>One person pointed out that a jumpsuit is far enough from a wedding gown that it shouldn&#39;t have mattered:</p><blockquote> <p>I fail to see how a pale yellow jumpsuit would be a huge distraction from a bride in all her wedding gown get up anyways? People were trashing you, you responded and defended yourself. - <span style="display: none;"> </span><span style="display: none;"> </span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/fcfyf3t/">CogginNoggin</a></p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>But some said the woman should&#39;ve just worn something else:</p><blockquote> <p>I mean, the bride saying it&#39;s ok weeks before the event won&#39;t save you from the MOH deciding to &quot;accidentally&quot; spill a glass of red wine on you to punish you for the infraction, and it won&#39;t stop other people from gossiping about how you were trying to upstage the bride on her special day. The smart thing to do would&#39;ve been to wear a different outfit or have the jumpsuit dyed to the colour she originally wanted it to be.</p> <p>That said, I think OP&#39;s totally in the right to not tolerate the wedding party&#39;s mean girl bullshit and I also think NTA. - <span style="display: none;"> </span><span style="display: none;"> </span><span style="display: none;"> </span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/fcgjd4w/">HistoricalKoala</a></p> </blockquote><p>After all, it shouldn&#39;t be up to the bride to judge whether your outfit&#39;s appropriate:</p><blockquote> <p>If you have to ask the bride, it&rsquo;s probably a reason not to wear it.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m still going with NTA, and I obviously don&rsquo;t think anyone was justified in saying anything to OP. But the whole thing could have been avoided if OP simply saved or returned the jumpsuit and wore something that she knew was appropriate. - <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/fcgvwdt/">accountforbabystuff</a></p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And it wouldn&#39;t be crazy for the bride to just lie and say it&#39;s okay so that she doesn&#39;t seem like the bad guy:</p><blockquote> <p>Yeah, and maybe the bride didn&#39;t want to be a b*tchy bridezilla, and said there was no problem because she doesn&#39;t like confrontation. I think of this whenever someone proposes at a wedding and say &quot;I asked the bride and groom, they loved the idea!&quot;. Maybe they&#39;re just trying to be nice, and feel obligated to say it&#39;s fine because they&#39;re family/close friends and they feel bad/aren&#39;t good at setting boundaries</p> <p>If you have to ask, then just don&#39;t do it. It&#39;s someone else&#39;s wedding, for f*cks sake. No one will remember what you wore the next day, unless you wore something inappropriate. - <span style="display: none;"> </span><span style="display: none;"> </span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/fchd0vt/">jenroberts</a></p> </blockquote><p>Most agreed that the nasty behavior from the bride and her friends was immature and uncalled for:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>They literally took a picture of you without your consent and posted it on the internet. You have the right to defend yourself. - <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/fcg1ic5/">flamealchemist_</a></p> </blockquote><p>But they suggested apologizing because, again, unwritten rules of weddings:</p><blockquote> <p>I mean you knew it was off enough to bring another dress in the car. This was a situation where you should have gone with your gut. It was too light colored.</p> <p>The bride should have been straightforward but maybe she was trying to seem not like a bridezilla. Maybe your picture was not a good one. Maybe you two just aren&rsquo;t friends.</p> <p>Apologize because it&rsquo;s the right thing to do. You shouldn&rsquo;t withhold an apology because the other person might not reciprocate. - <span style="display: none;"> </span><span style="display: none;"> </span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eh7csf/aita_for_posting_messages_exposing_my_friend_as_a/fcfyny6/">AlmaReville</a></p> </blockquote><h2>So the takeaway is: if you have to ask whether your wedding outfit is appropriate, it&#39;s probably not. No matter what the bride says.</h2><p>The bride has enough on her plate without having to adjudicate other people&#39;s wardrobe issues. Wear something else!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman exposes bride who lied about approving her nearly white wedding outfit.

We all know the first rule of attending a wedding is that you don&#39;t wear a white dress, so help you god.The second rule is that you don&#39;t wear a white pantsuit. The third rule is that you don&#39;t wear anything in a light pastel shade that could be construed as white through a telescope from 500 miles away.Basically, don&#39;t even wear anything approaching the white family, or else the bride has license to throw you out of her Special Day and/or accuse you of trying to upstage her for the rest of your lives.If you do find yourself in a pinch with nothing to wear but a light-yellow jumpsuit, you should probably go back to square one and buy something else, no matter how fugly.But another option is to text the bride and ask her if it&#39;s okay. One woman learned the hard way that some brides will either lie to you about the appropriateness of said jumpsuit, or forget they ever approved it.A woman took to Reddit to ask for advice after her bride-approved outfit caused her to be gossiped about all wedding long, and even on Facebook afterward.Her question: is she the a-hole for wearing a nearly white outfit that the bride herself had approved? And furthermore, is she an a-hole for calling the birde out about lying on social media afterward?It all started with a yellow jumpsuit that looked brighter online.&quot;I ordered a nice yellow jumpsuit for the wedding from a trusted retailer,&quot; the woman wrote, continuing: When it came, it was much paler than the picture, basically a straw yellow. I started to worry as I&rsquo;d read those stories about guests wanting to steal the thunder by wearing white/traditional wedding dress colours at weddings, and I messaged my friend to ask if she was wearing white. She said she was, and asked why. I sent a picture of the jumpsuit and said that this was what I&rsquo;d been sent in place of a much brighter colour. She said that it looked fine, and she&rsquo;d shut anyone up if they tried to make a deal about it on the day. With the bride&#39;s fervent blessing, she thought she&#39;d be good to go. But at the wedding, she overheard people talking smack: On the day itself, I didn&rsquo;t actually get any comments about it directly, which was a relief. However, when I went to the bathroom, I encountered two of the bridesmaids gossiping about how that girl in the jumpsuit (so, me) had the nerve to wear it, especially after the bride had told her directly it wasn&rsquo;t suitable. To frame this as it happened, I was in a cubicle when they came in and started chatting. I came out of the cubicle, and said that no such conversation had happened, and if the bride really had an issue she should have told me months ago when we talked about it. They basically scoffed and said they&rsquo;d believe me when they saw the &lsquo;receipts&rsquo;. To make matters worse, they gave her the stink eye: I saw them later on in the evening with the bride, and all three of them were giving me the stink eye. Then, the bride posted what the woman perceived to be a subliminal dis against her on Facebook: Yesterday, the bride posted a thank you message on Facebook, with the comment that &lsquo;even scene-stealing wannabes&rsquo; couldn&rsquo;t spoil the day. I was going to leave it, but one of the bridesmaids commented with a poorly-taken picture of me from behind with drawn-on devil horns and tail. So she posted the receipts: I reacted on impulse, and posted screenshots of the conversation where the bride had told me that my outfit was fine, with a comment saying that it was a shame that the bride couldn&rsquo;t tell me to my face there was an issue, and that since I&rsquo;d been asked for &lsquo;receipts&rsquo;, here they were. The comment got a few further comments saying that the tea had been spilled and that this is what happens when people don&rsquo;t know all the facts, as well as the inevitable ones saying that I was being childish and creating a drama. So now she&#39;s wondering: was she in the wrong? I do view this as stooping down to the level of those who couldn&rsquo;t even tell me straight there was an issue (I mean I had another dress in my car just in case I got comments) in how I reacted, but I also think I was defending my reputation and honour among people I&rsquo;ve known for over two decades. The peace-keeping side of me wants to apologise to the bride, but my heart knows she won&rsquo;t offer the same olive branch, especially now people know she was two-faced in this situation. Most agree that the bride overreacted.One person pointed out that a jumpsuit is far enough from a wedding gown that it shouldn&#39;t have mattered: I fail to see how a pale yellow jumpsuit would be a huge distraction from a bride in all her wedding gown get up anyways? People were trashing you, you responded and defended yourself. -   CogginNoggin But some said the woman should&#39;ve just worn something else: I mean, the bride saying it&#39;s ok weeks before the event won&#39;t save you from the MOH deciding to &quot;accidentally&quot; spill a glass of red wine on you to punish you for the infraction, and it won&#39;t stop other people from gossiping about how you were trying to upstage the bride on her special day. The smart thing to do would&#39;ve been to wear a different outfit or have the jumpsuit dyed to the colour she originally wanted it to be. That said, I think OP&#39;s totally in the right to not tolerate the wedding party&#39;s mean girl bullshit and I also think NTA. -    HistoricalKoala After all, it shouldn&#39;t be up to the bride to judge whether your outfit&#39;s appropriate: If you have to ask the bride, it&rsquo;s probably a reason not to wear it. I&rsquo;m still going with NTA, and I obviously don&rsquo;t think anyone was justified in saying anything to OP. But the whole thing could have been avoided if OP simply saved or returned the jumpsuit and wore something that she knew was appropriate. - accountforbabystuff And it wouldn&#39;t be crazy for the bride to just lie and say it&#39;s okay so that she doesn&#39;t seem like the bad guy: Yeah, and maybe the bride didn&#39;t want to be a b*tchy bridezilla, and said there was no problem because she doesn&#39;t like confrontation. I think of this whenever someone proposes at a wedding and say &quot;I asked the bride and groom, they loved the idea!&quot;. Maybe they&#39;re just trying to be nice, and feel obligated to say it&#39;s fine because they&#39;re family/close friends and they feel bad/aren&#39;t good at setting boundaries If you have to ask, then just don&#39;t do it. It&#39;s someone else&#39;s wedding, for f*cks sake. No one will remember what you wore the next day, unless you wore something inappropriate. -   jenroberts Most agreed that the nasty behavior from the bride and her friends was immature and uncalled for: They literally took a picture of you without your consent and posted it on the internet. You have the right to defend yourself. - flamealchemist_ But they suggested apologizing because, again, unwritten rules of weddings: I mean you knew it was off enough to bring another dress in the car. This was a situation where you should have gone with your gut. It was too light colored. The bride should have been straightforward but maybe she was trying to seem not like a bridezilla. Maybe your picture was not a good one. Maybe you two just aren&rsquo;t friends. Apologize because it&rsquo;s the right thing to do. You shouldn&rsquo;t withhold an apology because the other person might not reciprocate. -   AlmaReville So the takeaway is: if you have to ask whether your wedding outfit is appropriate, it&#39;s probably not. No matter what the bride says.The bride has enough on her plate without having to adjudicate other people&#39;s wardrobe issues. Wear something else!

We all know the first rule of attending a wedding is that you don&#39;t wear a white dress, so help you god.  The second rule is that you don&#39;t wear a white pantsuit. The third rule is that you don&#39;t wear anything in a light pastel...