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<p>Adopting a subculture solely to annoy a family member: is it pathetically petty or an ingenious <a href="https://www.someecards.com/love/news/guy-on-tinder-insulted-womans-dress/">form of revenge</a>? Or maybe somewhere in between?</p><p>That&#39;s what one woman asked Reddit &mdash; and they basically gave her the green light. The woman, known as <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Dark_black123/" target="_blank">Dark_black123</a>, posted on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the A**hole?&quot; subreddit asking if she was, in fact, the a**hole for <a href="https://www.someecards.com/life/holidays/what-is-when-is-world-goth-day-may-22-fun-holiday/" target="_blank">dressing like a goth</a> only when she&#39;s around her mom.</p><p>The deets:</p><blockquote> <p>Okay so my mom was super restrictive about what I wore. As a kid and teenager. I was only allowed to wear pink baby blue and red. Worst it all had to be one color and the same 2 outfits. A polo shirt with a skirt or a sweater with a long dress. No winter jackets or pants which wasn&#39;t a big deal because I live in NC but still. I also had to wear pigtails all the time. I had to wear this outfit at all times except when in bed.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>She goes on to explain that after her parents&#39; divorce, her mom would her to &quot;send her pictures of myself every hour or so and if I wasn&#39;t dressed up to her standard she would ground me for two weeks when I went back to her house.&quot;</p><p>Unsurprisingly, under all this pressure, OP &quot;had a breakdown&quot; around 16 and ended up throwing her mom&#39;s strict clothing rules out the window. This is when she found her style and her goth renaissance began.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><div><div class="video-correcting-container" style="left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 0px;position: relative;padding-bottom: 56.2493%;"><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/xUA7aMf1vG7WQtEgI8" width="511" height="200" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen style="top: 0px;left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 100%;position: absolute;"></iframe></div></div></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>&quot;Around this time I got into the whole Industrial cyber goth thing,&quot; she wrote. &quot;Ended up dying my hair black, wearing all black and getting a ton of piercings.&quot;</h2><p>Since then, she&#39;s incorporated colors ilke white and purple back into her wardrobe, although black is still her preferred hue. But now, she admits, she amps up the goth side of her aesthetic a <em>lot</em> when she visits her mom.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><div><div class="video-correcting-container" style="left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 0px;position: relative;padding-bottom: 56.2493%;"><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/26FeU4NpVHVxEqh5S" width="480" height="270" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen style="top: 0px;left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 100%;position: absolute;"></iframe></div></div></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>&quot;When I visit my mom now I make sure to be as goth as possible and sometimes go overboard like painting my skin white and stuff,&quot; she said. &quot;And I know it drives her insane but I only visit her when she has other family members over. She doesn&#39;t really have the balls to say anything when other people are around.&quot;</p><p>So her question to the internet is: does this make her an a**hole?</p><h2>The answer is a resounding &quot;no.&quot; And also &quot;LOL your mom sounds like the worst.&quot;</h2><p>&quot;That&#39;s terrible how she treated you,&quot; user <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cf4659/aita_for_being_a_goth_only_around_my_mother/eu75k16/">Masterblast961</a> wrote. &quot;Petty revenge for now isn&#39;t bad. But you should talk to her about it.&quot;</p><p>&quot;Dude I&#39;m proud,&quot; wrote another redditor, with another adding, &quot;Yeah it&#39;s hardcore.&quot;</p><p>Other users gave very thoughtful answers.</p><p>&quot;Your mother is clearly conflicted on many levels, I am sorry you had to go through this,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cf4659/aita_for_being_a_goth_only_around_my_mother/eu75qa5/">dohako</a>. &quot;What you now do is merely a defense mechanism to avoid her from triggering you an what must have been a fairly traumatic past.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cf4659/aita_for_being_a_goth_only_around_my_mother/eu76f2p/">TealWastlander</a> wins the award for most insightful comment:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You don&rsquo;t owe it to her to change your appearance to meet her standards. Especially if you don&rsquo;t live with her. You are not doing anything wrong by being yourself. She&rsquo;s 100% in the wrong for trying to control you to an excessive extent when you&rsquo;re either almost or are an adult woman.</p> <p>Personally I feel like she should be honoured to even have you visit tbh. I would never visit a parent tried to lockdown who I am as a person, especially when they aren&rsquo;t even my full-time caretaker. Put on extra dark black lipstick next time you see her for me.</p> </blockquote><p>So there you have it, folks. If your parent was controlling for no reason, the internet has officially decreed there&#39;s no harm in dressing like Lydia Deetz as revenge.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><div><div class="video-correcting-container" style="left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 0px;position: relative;padding-bottom: 56.2493%;"><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/3oEduIOpXCpGxagbQY" width="480" height="286" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen style="top: 0px;left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 100%;position: absolute;"></iframe></div></div></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman dresses goth solely to annoy mom who forced preppy clothes on her all her life.

Adopting a subculture solely to annoy a family member: is it pathetically petty or an ingenious form of revenge? Or maybe somewhere in between?That&#39;s what one woman asked Reddit &mdash; and they basically gave her the green light. The woman, known as Dark_black123, posted on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the A**hole?&quot; subreddit asking if she was, in fact, the a**hole for dressing like a goth only when she&#39;s around her mom.The deets: Okay so my mom was super restrictive about what I wore. As a kid and teenager. I was only allowed to wear pink baby blue and red. Worst it all had to be one color and the same 2 outfits. A polo shirt with a skirt or a sweater with a long dress. No winter jackets or pants which wasn&#39;t a big deal because I live in NC but still. I also had to wear pigtails all the time. I had to wear this outfit at all times except when in bed. She goes on to explain that after her parents&#39; divorce, her mom would her to &quot;send her pictures of myself every hour or so and if I wasn&#39;t dressed up to her standard she would ground me for two weeks when I went back to her house.&quot;Unsurprisingly, under all this pressure, OP &quot;had a breakdown&quot; around 16 and ended up throwing her mom&#39;s strict clothing rules out the window. This is when she found her style and her goth renaissance began.&quot;Around this time I got into the whole Industrial cyber goth thing,&quot; she wrote. &quot;Ended up dying my hair black, wearing all black and getting a ton of piercings.&quot;Since then, she&#39;s incorporated colors ilke white and purple back into her wardrobe, although black is still her preferred hue. But now, she admits, she amps up the goth side of her aesthetic a lot when she visits her mom.&quot;When I visit my mom now I make sure to be as goth as possible and sometimes go overboard like painting my skin white and stuff,&quot; she said. &quot;And I know it drives her insane but I only visit her when she has other family members over. She doesn&#39;t really have the balls to say anything when other people are around.&quot;So her question to the internet is: does this make her an a**hole?The answer is a resounding &quot;no.&quot; And also &quot;LOL your mom sounds like the worst.&quot;&quot;That&#39;s terrible how she treated you,&quot; user Masterblast961 wrote. &quot;Petty revenge for now isn&#39;t bad. But you should talk to her about it.&quot;&quot;Dude I&#39;m proud,&quot; wrote another redditor, with another adding, &quot;Yeah it&#39;s hardcore.&quot;Other users gave very thoughtful answers.&quot;Your mother is clearly conflicted on many levels, I am sorry you had to go through this,&quot; wrote dohako. &quot;What you now do is merely a defense mechanism to avoid her from triggering you an what must have been a fairly traumatic past.&quot;And TealWastlander wins the award for most insightful comment: NTA. You don&rsquo;t owe it to her to change your appearance to meet her standards. Especially if you don&rsquo;t live with her. You are not doing anything wrong by being yourself. She&rsquo;s 100% in the wrong for trying to control you to an excessive extent when you&rsquo;re either almost or are an adult woman. Personally I feel like she should be honoured to even have you visit tbh. I would never visit a parent tried to lockdown who I am as a person, especially when they aren&rsquo;t even my full-time caretaker. Put on extra dark black lipstick next time you see her for me. So there you have it, folks. If your parent was controlling for no reason, the internet has officially decreed there&#39;s no harm in dressing like Lydia Deetz as revenge.

Adopting a subculture solely to annoy a family member: is it pathetically petty or an ingenious form of revenge? Or maybe somewhere in between?  That&#39;s what one woman asked Reddit &mdash; and they basically gave her the green light....