Having a housekeeper is a major privilege, and there can be some uncomfortable power dynamics to navigate because of it. One woman is taking to Reddit to ask for advice about whether she's being culturally insensitive to her housekeeper due to what she calls a "cultural difference."
Her friends say she's being an a-hole. She doesn't know if she is or not. Here's the story.
My husband and I hired a housekeeper and she’s from another country, one that is very heavily patriarchal.
I’ve noticed this really aggravating pattern that when I ask her to do something or make some change she’ll first confirm it’s ok with my husband before proceeding (and it’s not both ways, she doesn’t check with me before doing something he’s asked her to do.) She’ll also only ask him, not me,