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<p>The holidays are stressful enough without adding &quot;secret-keeping&quot; duties for a gender reveal on top of everything else.</p><p>One woman is seeking advice from the internet after she accidentally ruined her sister-in-law&#39;s gender reveal on Thanksgiving night. She <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e39ltj/aita_for_accidentally_ruining_a_gender_reveal/">asked the Reddit &quot;Am I the A-Hole?&quot; community</a> if she really is a terrible person for ruining this sacred event, or if her SIL is overreacting.</p><h2>Her story begins with an admission that gender reveals are ridiculous, but that she agreed to take part in one as a favor:</h2><blockquote> <p>I can&rsquo;t believe I&rsquo;m about to type this crap but my sister-in-law asked me to be the &ldquo;secret keeper&rdquo; for her baby (first one) and have a gender reveal at Thanksgiving. As in, the ultrasound tech would give them (the parents) an envelope which would be mailed to me, and then I planned a whole part of thanksgiving to be a big hoorah where they and everyone else find out what they&rsquo;re having. I planned this for weeks, I set it up days in advance, I took every precaution to not tell anyone what the baby was. I was gonna kill it!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Nevertheless, she accepted her mission with grace and dignity. But then...</h2><blockquote> <p>So the night before thanksgiving, I was going thru how the gender reveal would go and whatnot, how I had an indoor set up and then an outdoor setup since we were using smoke bombs for the big reveal. SIL asked me something about the smoke bombs and I said &ldquo;once you pull the pin, it&rsquo;ll smoke white for ten seconds, and then it&rsquo;ll smoke blue&rdquo; ... and before I could recover, we both realized I slipped!!!</p> </blockquote><h2>Boom, surprise ruined. The sister-in-law did <em>not</em> take it in stride.</h2><blockquote> <p>Then she locks herself in the bathroom, crying, saying it&rsquo;s all ruined and that she doesn&rsquo;t even want to do it now because there&rsquo;s no point, refuses to talk to me... I gave her some space, obviously felt HORRIBLE, I went back a while later and said how sorry I was and can&rsquo;t believe I just effing did that. I told her a story about how I &ldquo;ruined&rdquo; my own engagement but that we still got married... and there&rsquo;s still a baby coming!... and no one else knows! Like, there are people coming that will still play the guessing game, and no one will know that she found out... idk, I felt like shit and we were both crying and I thought it was fine.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The sister-in-law decided to seclude herself and rant about the problem on Facebook, like all emotionally mature people would.</h2><blockquote> <p>Then, we were supposed to go to dinner with our in laws and she didn&rsquo;t go. Ok great, clearly she doesn&rsquo;t want to sit thru dinner with me. I get it, it&rsquo;s still raw, she&rsquo;s upset. Whatever. But THEN, I get to dinner and see that she posted on Facebook about how her gender reveal was accidentally ruined and that &ldquo;just so everyone knows.. we already know...&rdquo; and #neverdoingagenderrevealagain&rdquo; and that &ldquo;it was supposed to be a special moment and it was ripped away and I&rsquo;ll never get it back&rdquo; and &ldquo;I wanted to find out, but not like this&rdquo; AND ON AND ON.</p> </blockquote><h2>She even called out her SIL.</h2><blockquote> <p>Someone asked, &ldquo;how was it ruined?&rdquo; And she answered that her sister in law (ME) accidentally said the color. Mind you, her parents didn&rsquo;t know, his parents didn&rsquo;t know, our other sister in law didn&rsquo;t know, and she really just wanted it on Facebook Live and to have the stupid pics anyways. I want to be supportive and excited because I know she&rsquo;s like that and I enjoy doing things like this for people but COME ON! No one would have known it was &ldquo;ruined&rdquo; if you hadn&rsquo;t posted that!! And everyone knows who the person that ruined it was! ME!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>And the final insult: she didn&#39;t tag her in the Facebook post about the reveal.</h2><blockquote> <p>We went thru with the reveal as planned, it was streamed live so her &ldquo;intimate&rdquo; gathering could get all the likes and comments. Normally she tags me and everyone in her posts but this time it was noticeably not tagged.</p> <p>So reddit, am I the a**hole for spilling the beans? Or is my SIL over dramatic and petty for blasting me all over social media??</p> <p>EDIT: I don&rsquo;t care about being tagged but it was getting misinterpreted. Hope this gives more context.</p> </blockquote><h2>The people have decreed that this woman is not the a-hole &mdash; her pregnant sister-in-law is.</h2><p>&quot;You made an honest mistake; she&rsquo;s overreacting to a ridiculous degree,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e39ltj/aita_for_accidentally_ruining_a_gender_reveal/f91ufas/">SidHoffman</a> wrote. Then they cautioned not to blame the whole thing on pregnancy hormones:</p><blockquote> <p>[W]hen my wife was pregnant I remember her getting emotionally worked up about weird, random things, but this is different because she&#39;s carrying the grudge for days and airing it publicly. Way over the line.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e39ltj/aita_for_accidentally_ruining_a_gender_reveal/f91uanj/">conspiring_b*tch</a> agreed, saying there&#39;s a huge difference between an accidental slip and airing out dirty laundry on Facebook:</p><blockquote> <p>yours was an accidental slip. Her facebook post was intentionally blasting you. She took it too far. It&rsquo;s understandable she was upset but to blast you like that was really bitchy.</p> </blockquote><p>Others speculated that it seems like the mom-to-be is too into the social media optics of her pregnancy. Said <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e39ltj/aita_for_accidentally_ruining_a_gender_reveal/f92ayjb/">blackforestgirl86</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>This whole time, all I could think was, lady, isn&#39;t having a baby enough reason for you to be happy? How can you let your joy over a child be ruined by an honest slip-up? Sure, might be upsetting in the moment but in this case it really seems it was more about the whole social media aspect of it than the baby itself...</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e39ltj/aita_for_accidentally_ruining_a_gender_reveal/f91xp0t/">Jackniferuby</a> says what seemingly everyone is thinking besides parents who throw gender reveals: No. One. Cares.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Honestly, no one but the parents give a sh*t what gender the baby is. This gender reveal thing is idiotic and attention seeking. I mean seriously she needs to get a grip, because if she is flipping out over this? NO WAY will she handle being a parent very well - being pregnant is the easy part!</p> </blockquote><p>So secret-keeper, wherever you are, don&#39;t stress!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's an a-hole for ruining Thanksgiving gender reveal.

The holidays are stressful enough without adding &quot;secret-keeping&quot; duties for a gender reveal on top of everything else.One woman is seeking advice from the internet after she accidentally ruined her sister-in-law&#39;s gender reveal on Thanksgiving night. She asked the Reddit &quot;Am I the A-Hole?&quot; community if she really is a terrible person for ruining this sacred event, or if her SIL is overreacting.Her story begins with an admission that gender reveals are ridiculous, but that she agreed to take part in one as a favor: I can&rsquo;t believe I&rsquo;m about to type this crap but my sister-in-law asked me to be the &ldquo;secret keeper&rdquo; for her baby (first one) and have a gender reveal at Thanksgiving. As in, the ultrasound tech would give them (the parents) an envelope which would be mailed to me, and then I planned a whole part of thanksgiving to be a big hoorah where they and everyone else find out what they&rsquo;re having. I planned this for weeks, I set it up days in advance, I took every precaution to not tell anyone what the baby was. I was gonna kill it! Nevertheless, she accepted her mission with grace and dignity. But then... So the night before thanksgiving, I was going thru how the gender reveal would go and whatnot, how I had an indoor set up and then an outdoor setup since we were using smoke bombs for the big reveal. SIL asked me something about the smoke bombs and I said &ldquo;once you pull the pin, it&rsquo;ll smoke white for ten seconds, and then it&rsquo;ll smoke blue&rdquo; ... and before I could recover, we both realized I slipped!!! Boom, surprise ruined. The sister-in-law did not take it in stride. Then she locks herself in the bathroom, crying, saying it&rsquo;s all ruined and that she doesn&rsquo;t even want to do it now because there&rsquo;s no point, refuses to talk to me... I gave her some space, obviously felt HORRIBLE, I went back a while later and said how sorry I was and can&rsquo;t believe I just effing did that. I told her a story about how I &ldquo;ruined&rdquo; my own engagement but that we still got married... and there&rsquo;s still a baby coming!... and no one else knows! Like, there are people coming that will still play the guessing game, and no one will know that she found out... idk, I felt like shit and we were both crying and I thought it was fine. The sister-in-law decided to seclude herself and rant about the problem on Facebook, like all emotionally mature people would. Then, we were supposed to go to dinner with our in laws and she didn&rsquo;t go. Ok great, clearly she doesn&rsquo;t want to sit thru dinner with me. I get it, it&rsquo;s still raw, she&rsquo;s upset. Whatever. But THEN, I get to dinner and see that she posted on Facebook about how her gender reveal was accidentally ruined and that &ldquo;just so everyone knows.. we already know...&rdquo; and #neverdoingagenderrevealagain&rdquo; and that &ldquo;it was supposed to be a special moment and it was ripped away and I&rsquo;ll never get it back&rdquo; and &ldquo;I wanted to find out, but not like this&rdquo; AND ON AND ON. She even called out her SIL. Someone asked, &ldquo;how was it ruined?&rdquo; And she answered that her sister in law (ME) accidentally said the color. Mind you, her parents didn&rsquo;t know, his parents didn&rsquo;t know, our other sister in law didn&rsquo;t know, and she really just wanted it on Facebook Live and to have the stupid pics anyways. I want to be supportive and excited because I know she&rsquo;s like that and I enjoy doing things like this for people but COME ON! No one would have known it was &ldquo;ruined&rdquo; if you hadn&rsquo;t posted that!! And everyone knows who the person that ruined it was! ME! And the final insult: she didn&#39;t tag her in the Facebook post about the reveal. We went thru with the reveal as planned, it was streamed live so her &ldquo;intimate&rdquo; gathering could get all the likes and comments. Normally she tags me and everyone in her posts but this time it was noticeably not tagged. So reddit, am I the a**hole for spilling the beans? Or is my SIL over dramatic and petty for blasting me all over social media?? EDIT: I don&rsquo;t care about being tagged but it was getting misinterpreted. Hope this gives more context. The people have decreed that this woman is not the a-hole &mdash; her pregnant sister-in-law is.&quot;You made an honest mistake; she&rsquo;s overreacting to a ridiculous degree,&quot; SidHoffman wrote. Then they cautioned not to blame the whole thing on pregnancy hormones: [W]hen my wife was pregnant I remember her getting emotionally worked up about weird, random things, but this is different because she&#39;s carrying the grudge for days and airing it publicly. Way over the line. And conspiring_b*tch agreed, saying there&#39;s a huge difference between an accidental slip and airing out dirty laundry on Facebook: yours was an accidental slip. Her facebook post was intentionally blasting you. She took it too far. It&rsquo;s understandable she was upset but to blast you like that was really bitchy. Others speculated that it seems like the mom-to-be is too into the social media optics of her pregnancy. Said blackforestgirl86: This whole time, all I could think was, lady, isn&#39;t having a baby enough reason for you to be happy? How can you let your joy over a child be ruined by an honest slip-up? Sure, might be upsetting in the moment but in this case it really seems it was more about the whole social media aspect of it than the baby itself... And Jackniferuby says what seemingly everyone is thinking besides parents who throw gender reveals: No. One. Cares. Honestly, no one but the parents give a sh*t what gender the baby is. This gender reveal thing is idiotic and attention seeking. I mean seriously she needs to get a grip, because if she is flipping out over this? NO WAY will she handle being a parent very well - being pregnant is the easy part! So secret-keeper, wherever you are, don&#39;t stress!

The holidays are stressful enough without adding &quot;secret-keeping&quot; duties for a gender reveal on top of everything else.  One woman is seeking advice from the internet after she accidentally ruined her sister-in-law&#39;s gender...