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<p>People <a href="https://www.someecards.com/news/news/student-wrong-womans-engagement-ring-gold-digging/">have a lot of opinions about</a> women who dare to have <em>their own </em>opinions about their engagement rings.</p><p>And today on Reddit, one soon-to-be bride is hand-wringing about whether her hope for a slightly nicer engagement ring makes her a terrible person.</p><p>The woman<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cvdkij/aita_for_wanting_a_more_extravagant_engagement/"> posted on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the A-hole?&quot; section, </a>&quot;AITA for wanting a more extravagant engagement ring?&quot;</p><h2>Before you grab your pitchfork, hear her out.</h2><p>This woman and her fianc&eacute; have already agreed to get married, but he&#39;s not giving her the ring until a ceremony later on, as this is the way it&#39;s done in his culture. He believes that she has no preferences about the ring, and is probably going to go as cheap as possible:</p><blockquote> <p>Now during the ceremony he is to give me a ring. I don&rsquo;t normally place any value or importance on shiny, expensive luxury items and he knows this. So he just assumed I didn&rsquo;t care about an engagement ring either. His plan as of now is to go to an accessory shop and get any cheap ring that won&rsquo;t make my finger go green.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>But the more she thinks about it, the more she wants a higher-end bauble.</h2><p>&quot;To my own surprise even, I&rsquo;ve been quite sad about this,&quot; she writes. &quot;To me this ring holds so much meaning and I want to wear it for the rest of my life.&quot;</p><p>She&#39;s done some research on possible rings, and they&#39;re all &quot;way more expensive&quot; than what her fianc&eacute; was planning.</p><p>&quot;I don&rsquo;t want any diamond ring because I find their pricing absurd, frankly, but would love a moissanite one because I love the look of it,&quot; she writes. &quot;With the style I like it would come to about 600-900 dollars.&quot;</p><h2>The bride-to-be adds that she&#39;d help pay for the ring upgrade, and that she&#39;s willing to wait a while for it.</h2><blockquote> <p>I don&rsquo;t expect him to pay for it alone and would happily give him half (or more, since I&rsquo;d be the one enjoying it haha). With all the costs surrounding our engagement ceremony it would be more financial pressure, which is why I was thinking we could get a &ldquo;cheap&rdquo; ring for the ceremony and then replace it with the one I want some months down the line when we can comfortably afford it together.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>So onto the question: is she an a-hole?</p><blockquote> <p>One part me thinks it&rsquo;s okay for me to want to be picky and want to spend more on something I hopefully will wear for the rest of my life. Another part feels like a massive asshole for I guess feeling what he&rsquo;s thought of isn&rsquo;t good enough and putting more financial pressure on us. So. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>It turns out, for once, the people of Reddit are on the bride&#39;s side.</h2><p>Many pointed to the relatively low price she mentioned. Yes, $900 is a lot of money &mdash; but in the grand scheme of engagement rings, it&#39;s on the very low side.</p><p>&quot;I was about to call you an a-hole based on that title, thinking you wanted like a $75k ring but $600? Literally anyone with a job and a hair of financial prudence can afford that. He should have put more effort in,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cvdkij/aita_for_wanting_a_more_extravagant_engagement/ey3gzg5/">FlowrollMB</a>.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Another user said neither the bride and her groom are a-holes here, since he was acting on the belief that she didn&#39;t care &mdash; and she still hasn&#39;t corrected him:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;d say [no a-holes here] considering he didn&#39;t know (just like op apparently didn&#39;t either), and she doesn&#39;t sound like she have told him. But op is definitely [not the a-hole], especially since she is thinking about paying</p> </blockquote><p>OP weighed in to confirm that she&#39;d pay, and add that money&#39;s tight for both of them:</p><blockquote> <p>Yeah normally it wouldn&rsquo;t be an issue for us either but the engagement is a huge production as it is, due to tradition especially for him and his family. We&rsquo;re hemorrhaging money to get everyone here and situated amongst other things. So I understand we wouldn&rsquo;t be able to just drop close to a thousand bucks on a ring without seriously having to cut back on more important things, we just didn&rsquo;t budget for it. So waiting to get it would be way more sensible.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cvdkij/aita_for_wanting_a_more_extravagant_engagement/ey3hre1/">Paper_straws </a>cautioned against letting the ring ceremony pass without the bride telling the groom she wants something more:</p><blockquote> <p>Make sure you let him know before the ceremony though, because once you already get one ring there is a high chance that you won&rsquo;t get another.</p> </blockquote><p>And OP responded, &quot;Yeah I think I&rsquo;ll bring it up tomorrow! I&rsquo;ve just been so nervous to bring this up and sound like a brat.&quot;</p><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cvdkij/aita_for_wanting_a_more_extravagant_engagement/ey3hwl1/">wigglebuttbiscuits</a> spoke for everyone when saying this bride-to-be is being incredibly realistic and prudent with her request:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m sure people will find a way to tell you you&rsquo;re the asshole because iTs aBoUt tHe mARrIaGe but you want a nice but modestly priced ring and are down to pay half. Your fianc&eacute; is likely to be down with this and just doesn&rsquo;t realize you care. Go for it!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So there you have it, OP. Go forth and request the ring you want!</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for wanting 'more extravagant' engagement ring.

People have a lot of opinions about women who dare to have their own opinions about their engagement rings.And today on Reddit, one soon-to-be bride is hand-wringing about whether her hope for a slightly nicer engagement ring makes her a terrible person.The woman posted on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the A-hole?&quot; section, &quot;AITA for wanting a more extravagant engagement ring?&quot;Before you grab your pitchfork, hear her out.This woman and her fianc&eacute; have already agreed to get married, but he&#39;s not giving her the ring until a ceremony later on, as this is the way it&#39;s done in his culture. He believes that she has no preferences about the ring, and is probably going to go as cheap as possible: Now during the ceremony he is to give me a ring. I don&rsquo;t normally place any value or importance on shiny, expensive luxury items and he knows this. So he just assumed I didn&rsquo;t care about an engagement ring either. His plan as of now is to go to an accessory shop and get any cheap ring that won&rsquo;t make my finger go green. But the more she thinks about it, the more she wants a higher-end bauble.&quot;To my own surprise even, I&rsquo;ve been quite sad about this,&quot; she writes. &quot;To me this ring holds so much meaning and I want to wear it for the rest of my life.&quot;She&#39;s done some research on possible rings, and they&#39;re all &quot;way more expensive&quot; than what her fianc&eacute; was planning.&quot;I don&rsquo;t want any diamond ring because I find their pricing absurd, frankly, but would love a moissanite one because I love the look of it,&quot; she writes. &quot;With the style I like it would come to about 600-900 dollars.&quot;The bride-to-be adds that she&#39;d help pay for the ring upgrade, and that she&#39;s willing to wait a while for it. I don&rsquo;t expect him to pay for it alone and would happily give him half (or more, since I&rsquo;d be the one enjoying it haha). With all the costs surrounding our engagement ceremony it would be more financial pressure, which is why I was thinking we could get a &ldquo;cheap&rdquo; ring for the ceremony and then replace it with the one I want some months down the line when we can comfortably afford it together. So onto the question: is she an a-hole? One part me thinks it&rsquo;s okay for me to want to be picky and want to spend more on something I hopefully will wear for the rest of my life. Another part feels like a massive asshole for I guess feeling what he&rsquo;s thought of isn&rsquo;t good enough and putting more financial pressure on us. So. AITA? It turns out, for once, the people of Reddit are on the bride&#39;s side.Many pointed to the relatively low price she mentioned. Yes, $900 is a lot of money &mdash; but in the grand scheme of engagement rings, it&#39;s on the very low side.&quot;I was about to call you an a-hole based on that title, thinking you wanted like a $75k ring but $600? Literally anyone with a job and a hair of financial prudence can afford that. He should have put more effort in,&quot; wrote FlowrollMB.Another user said neither the bride and her groom are a-holes here, since he was acting on the belief that she didn&#39;t care &mdash; and she still hasn&#39;t corrected him: I&#39;d say [no a-holes here] considering he didn&#39;t know (just like op apparently didn&#39;t either), and she doesn&#39;t sound like she have told him. But op is definitely [not the a-hole], especially since she is thinking about paying OP weighed in to confirm that she&#39;d pay, and add that money&#39;s tight for both of them: Yeah normally it wouldn&rsquo;t be an issue for us either but the engagement is a huge production as it is, due to tradition especially for him and his family. We&rsquo;re hemorrhaging money to get everyone here and situated amongst other things. So I understand we wouldn&rsquo;t be able to just drop close to a thousand bucks on a ring without seriously having to cut back on more important things, we just didn&rsquo;t budget for it. So waiting to get it would be way more sensible. Paper_straws cautioned against letting the ring ceremony pass without the bride telling the groom she wants something more: Make sure you let him know before the ceremony though, because once you already get one ring there is a high chance that you won&rsquo;t get another. And OP responded, &quot;Yeah I think I&rsquo;ll bring it up tomorrow! I&rsquo;ve just been so nervous to bring this up and sound like a brat.&quot;And wigglebuttbiscuits spoke for everyone when saying this bride-to-be is being incredibly realistic and prudent with her request: I&rsquo;m sure people will find a way to tell you you&rsquo;re the asshole because iTs aBoUt tHe mARrIaGe but you want a nice but modestly priced ring and are down to pay half. Your fianc&eacute; is likely to be down with this and just doesn&rsquo;t realize you care. Go for it! So there you have it, OP. Go forth and request the ring you want!

People have a lot of opinions about women who dare to have their own opinions about their engagement rings.  And today on Reddit, one soon-to-be bride is hand-wringing about whether her hope for a slightly nicer engagement ring makes her a...