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<p>Someone on the internet forgot about one of the biggest perks of male privilege: never having to turn your body into an incubator for future generations of children.</p><p>A man <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/">posted on the Reddit page &quot;Unpopular Opinions&quot;</a> saying that, after watching his wife&#39;s body be taken over by another human who she&#39;s <em>never even met yet</em>, for <em>almost an entire calendar year</em>, he wished <a href="https://www.someecards.com/life/life/pregnant-woman-infertile-relatives-insensitive/">he could be the one to get pregnant</a>.</p><p>The man&#39;s fanfic started like this:</p><blockquote> <p>I think pregnancy is wonderful. I know it&#39;s not all lollipops and rainbows. I supported my wife every single day through her pregnancy and I helped her through the nausea, the body aches, and the terrible pain of giving birth. I know there are risks and complications and it&#39;s not something everyone wants to do. I wish I could do it, though.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Buddy... supporting someone through nausea, body aches and the terrible pain of giving birth ain&#39;t the same as actually enduring those things. But go on:</p><blockquote> <p>[My wife] loved being pregnant. Every day we talked about the baby growing in her womb that we couldn&#39;t wait to meet. I kissed her belly hundreds of times. And I fell in love with her all over again every time I looked at her. Her hand was pretty much glued to her belly, always rubbing it and humming a song. The bond that is formed between the mother and child is simply beautiful.</p> </blockquote><p>OMG, get a room!</p><blockquote> <p>The hardest part about it is that I&#39;ll never be able to realize this wish and I never had a choice in the matter. Women can choose (in most cases) whether or not they want to become pregnant.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Many many <em>many</em> women cannot choose whether or not to become pregnant, especially if they live in conservative or impoverished places without access to birth control, but okay.</p><p>Here&#39;s where he really goes wild:</p><blockquote> <p>And I don&#39;t know how the logistics of it all would work, anyway. Maybe if we lived in a world where both men and women were built with the capability to have babies, kind of like seahorses. I know it&#39;s not realistic, but if it were possible to give me a uterus transplant I&#39;d consider it. I would go through considerable pain and effort if it meant I could get pregnant.</p> </blockquote><p>Clearly, this man has a very idealized version of pregnancy thanks to his wife&#39;s relatively smooth experience. And he doesn&#39;t seem to understand the anxiety, difficulty and other issues surrounding fertility for many, many women &mdash; not to mention the social pressure on women to treat pregnancy like the best months of your life when, for some, it can really suck.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>But he&#39;s upset no one is taking his wish to get pregnant &quot;seriously.&quot; (Also, he added in an edit that he does not have gender dysphoria and doesn&#39;t want to transition.)</p><blockquote> <p>Every guy I&#39;ve ever told has either looked at me like I&#39;m insane or just straight-up laughed at me. Women I&#39;ve told seem to understand, but nobody really takes it seriously except for my wife. She knows it&#39;s not a joke and that it&#39;s an actual dream of mine. Any guys out there agree with me?</p> </blockquote><h2>Reddit lovingly informed him that his idea of what pregnancy&#39;s actually like might be a tiny, tiny bit skewed.</h2><p> </p><p>And his &quot;unpopular opinion&quot; was voted &quot;96% unpopular.&quot;</p><p>Many people responded &quot;WTF?&quot; but <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyg0ofe/">PapaBlaze420</a> stuck up for him, saying, &quot;This man just wants to be a seahorse, it&#39;s 2019 by 2020 he could have a baby. Let him.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Women who&#39;ve been pregnant clued him in. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyenkvf/">Mtheorye</a> wrote:</p><blockquote> <p>when I&rsquo;m pregnant I got so sick I ripped my throat open vomiting and puked up blood for months. Then I got a picc line into my heart because I could not keep down water. At 36 weeks my kidneys shut down and then my others organs started. I was lucky enough to have an emergency c section on Christmas and my son and I both survived. After that I had to do chemo for endometriosis and have a hysterectomy that&rsquo;s when they take your uterus out of your vagina and sew up a new wall so your organs don&rsquo;t fall out your vag hole. Then I got a infection in my lymphatic system that lasted for 14 months. You don&rsquo;t really want this. It&rsquo;s not all cute farts and eating a lot.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyd9ieu/">iamasecretthrowaway</a> asked an important question:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;d happily shoot my uterus in the face, so I can&#39;t say I understand or relate. Out of curiosity, are you looking for the whole bleeding crotch experience too or just the pregnancy?</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eydnwrh/">Panpaan</a> pointed out that you can, you know, <em>die</em> from childbirth:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m currently pregnant with my second and it&rsquo;s been absolutely terrible each time. The oversights that nearly killed my in birth, in one of the highest rated US hospitals with experienced staff. Yeah, they missed my pre-eclampsia which is deadly. Then when they caught it they forgot to give me magnesium, an important life saving medicine. Then they also missed that I hemorrhaged.</p> <p>Fortunately, I managed not to die this time.</p> <p>But, I&rsquo;ll gladly give this dude my months of nausea, exhaustion and back pain. Then childbirth risks.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And OP answered no, but &quot;it&#39;s a package deal and I&#39;d take it if it meant I could be pregnant.&quot; Okay, pal, get your period all over your Catholic school uniform and get laughed at by the cutest boy in your class then get back to me.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyec6o3/">missingadogsomewhere</a> added:</p><blockquote> <p>Cramps are the worst pain I have ever experienced. Vomiting, fainting. It&rsquo;s made me suicidal before.</p> <p>Just kindly keep in mind OP that it&rsquo;s not just pregnancy... if you had been born female you might have found yourself hating it. I am fine being female &mdash; but my life would objectively be better if I were male. It would essentially be life WITHOUT a chronic pain condition. If I could get a hysterectomy tomorrow to permanently stop cramps I would. Pregnancy capabilities be damned.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyfvxwr/">DemocraticPumpkin</a> took a cheery view:</p><blockquote> <p>Woman here, I think abortion discussions would be so much easier if we could opt for men to provide the womb! I wish he could be pregnant. For me it&#39;s unpopular because I personally wouldn&#39;t enjoy being pregnant and would gladly hand it off to my partner if I could. But I understand some people enjoy it, and I&#39;m very happy that OP is one of them. So unpopular, but OP you have my support!</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eydueuy/">Luwuluwu</a> summed it up nicely, saying, &quot;I am a woman and I wish men could be pregnant instead of women. Pregnancy and giving birth are not rainbows and unicorns.&quot;</p><h2>Many men weighed in saying that after they witnessed childbirth, they had the opposite feeling.</h2><p>&quot;I don&rsquo;t know what to say, I see where your coming from but I sure as hell wouldn&rsquo;t want to go through that,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyd6sge/">EyeArDum</a>.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>&quot;First baby I saw my wife give birth to, I gained a while new appreciation for her and at the same time I remembered thinking &#39;thank God I&#39;m not a woman,&#39;&quot; wrote mantisfree.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eyepjxq/">Distance_Runner</a> weighed in with, &quot;I&rsquo;m a guy who&rsquo;s literally sitting in the delivery room as I type this with my wife in labor beside me. Yeah, f*ck that. This is one of the most insane unpopular opinions I&rsquo;ve read. Bravo OP&quot;</p><h2>But some said they got where OP was coming from.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eydsp87/">MrProspero</a> somehow put it a lot more eloquently and less creepily:</p><blockquote> <p>I kind of understand, I&#39;ve had the thought before that it kind of sucks that women can literally grow life inside of them and I can&#39;t.</p> <p>It&#39;s never going to come up (no womb transplants for me, I&#39;ll stick with only having surgeries that I absolutely need, thank you), so I don&#39;t really think about it, and it doesn&#39;t really bother me.</p> <p>But I feel pretty strongly that if I were born a woman, it would be something extremely important to me, even a bit sacred. It&#39;s like reaching out and touching God.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Still, you don&#39;t know what it would mean to you if you were a woman since you will never actually have to deal with the idea of physically having a child and giving birth. But anyway.</p><p>A user named <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cwnndk/im_a_guy_and_i_wish_i_could_be_pregnant/eye7ylp/">itchyspiderbutthole</a> (yes) said her husband felt the same way.</p><blockquote> <p>My husband feels like this too. I don&#39;t get why people think it&#39;s weird. There are women who aren&#39;t physically capable of getting pregnant, it&#39;s okay when they say they wish they could be pregnant. Why can&#39;t a man?</p> </blockquote><p>Good point! But people seem to be taking issue with the fact that this guy&#39;s unrealistic view of pregnancy. Also, he has never experienced the lifelong pressure and expectations that go along with owning a uterus. A woman with fertility problems is not the same as a man who watched his wife get pregnant and thought it seemed nice.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">Still, OP ended up editing his post to clarify that, no, he does not have an idealized version of pregnancy:</span></p><blockquote> <p>Some people are rightfully pointing out that my wife&#39;s pregnancy went smoothly and that we are very fortunate. I do not disagree. However, I disagree that I have an idealized view of pregnancy. Just because things went well for her does not mean they would for me and does not mean they go well for others, but it also does not invalidate my feelings. As I stated above, I am well-informed of the risks that come with pregnancy.</p> </blockquote><p>So uhhhh. Okay! Congrats on loving your wife and child either way.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Women explain difficulties of pregnancy to guy who said, 'I wish I could be pregnant.'

Someone on the internet forgot about one of the biggest perks of male privilege: never having to turn your body into an incubator for future generations of children.A man posted on the Reddit page &quot;Unpopular Opinions&quot; saying that, after watching his wife&#39;s body be taken over by another human who she&#39;s never even met yet, for almost an entire calendar year, he wished he could be the one to get pregnant.The man&#39;s fanfic started like this: I think pregnancy is wonderful. I know it&#39;s not all lollipops and rainbows. I supported my wife every single day through her pregnancy and I helped her through the nausea, the body aches, and the terrible pain of giving birth. I know there are risks and complications and it&#39;s not something everyone wants to do. I wish I could do it, though. Buddy... supporting someone through nausea, body aches and the terrible pain of giving birth ain&#39;t the same as actually enduring those things. But go on: [My wife] loved being pregnant. Every day we talked about the baby growing in her womb that we couldn&#39;t wait to meet. I kissed her belly hundreds of times. And I fell in love with her all over again every time I looked at her. Her hand was pretty much glued to her belly, always rubbing it and humming a song. The bond that is formed between the mother and child is simply beautiful. OMG, get a room! The hardest part about it is that I&#39;ll never be able to realize this wish and I never had a choice in the matter. Women can choose (in most cases) whether or not they want to become pregnant. Many many many women cannot choose whether or not to become pregnant, especially if they live in conservative or impoverished places without access to birth control, but okay.Here&#39;s where he really goes wild: And I don&#39;t know how the logistics of it all would work, anyway. Maybe if we lived in a world where both men and women were built with the capability to have babies, kind of like seahorses. I know it&#39;s not realistic, but if it were possible to give me a uterus transplant I&#39;d consider it. I would go through considerable pain and effort if it meant I could get pregnant. Clearly, this man has a very idealized version of pregnancy thanks to his wife&#39;s relatively smooth experience. And he doesn&#39;t seem to understand the anxiety, difficulty and other issues surrounding fertility for many, many women &mdash; not to mention the social pressure on women to treat pregnancy like the best months of your life when, for some, it can really suck.But he&#39;s upset no one is taking his wish to get pregnant &quot;seriously.&quot; (Also, he added in an edit that he does not have gender dysphoria and doesn&#39;t want to transition.) Every guy I&#39;ve ever told has either looked at me like I&#39;m insane or just straight-up laughed at me. Women I&#39;ve told seem to understand, but nobody really takes it seriously except for my wife. She knows it&#39;s not a joke and that it&#39;s an actual dream of mine. Any guys out there agree with me? Reddit lovingly informed him that his idea of what pregnancy&#39;s actually like might be a tiny, tiny bit skewed. And his &quot;unpopular opinion&quot; was voted &quot;96% unpopular.&quot;Many people responded &quot;WTF?&quot; but PapaBlaze420 stuck up for him, saying, &quot;This man just wants to be a seahorse, it&#39;s 2019 by 2020 he could have a baby. Let him.&quot;Women who&#39;ve been pregnant clued him in. Mtheorye wrote: when I&rsquo;m pregnant I got so sick I ripped my throat open vomiting and puked up blood for months. Then I got a picc line into my heart because I could not keep down water. At 36 weeks my kidneys shut down and then my others organs started. I was lucky enough to have an emergency c section on Christmas and my son and I both survived. After that I had to do chemo for endometriosis and have a hysterectomy that&rsquo;s when they take your uterus out of your vagina and sew up a new wall so your organs don&rsquo;t fall out your vag hole. Then I got a infection in my lymphatic system that lasted for 14 months. You don&rsquo;t really want this. It&rsquo;s not all cute farts and eating a lot. iamasecretthrowaway asked an important question: I&#39;d happily shoot my uterus in the face, so I can&#39;t say I understand or relate. Out of curiosity, are you looking for the whole bleeding crotch experience too or just the pregnancy? Panpaan pointed out that you can, you know, die from childbirth: I&rsquo;m currently pregnant with my second and it&rsquo;s been absolutely terrible each time. The oversights that nearly killed my in birth, in one of the highest rated US hospitals with experienced staff. Yeah, they missed my pre-eclampsia which is deadly. Then when they caught it they forgot to give me magnesium, an important life saving medicine. Then they also missed that I hemorrhaged. Fortunately, I managed not to die this time. But, I&rsquo;ll gladly give this dude my months of nausea, exhaustion and back pain. Then childbirth risks. And OP answered no, but &quot;it&#39;s a package deal and I&#39;d take it if it meant I could be pregnant.&quot; Okay, pal, get your period all over your Catholic school uniform and get laughed at by the cutest boy in your class then get back to me.missingadogsomewhere added: Cramps are the worst pain I have ever experienced. Vomiting, fainting. It&rsquo;s made me suicidal before. Just kindly keep in mind OP that it&rsquo;s not just pregnancy... if you had been born female you might have found yourself hating it. I am fine being female &mdash; but my life would objectively be better if I were male. It would essentially be life WITHOUT a chronic pain condition. If I could get a hysterectomy tomorrow to permanently stop cramps I would. Pregnancy capabilities be damned. DemocraticPumpkin took a cheery view: Woman here, I think abortion discussions would be so much easier if we could opt for men to provide the womb! I wish he could be pregnant. For me it&#39;s unpopular because I personally wouldn&#39;t enjoy being pregnant and would gladly hand it off to my partner if I could. But I understand some people enjoy it, and I&#39;m very happy that OP is one of them. So unpopular, but OP you have my support! And Luwuluwu summed it up nicely, saying, &quot;I am a woman and I wish men could be pregnant instead of women. Pregnancy and giving birth are not rainbows and unicorns.&quot;Many men weighed in saying that after they witnessed childbirth, they had the opposite feeling.&quot;I don&rsquo;t know what to say, I see where your coming from but I sure as hell wouldn&rsquo;t want to go through that,&quot; wrote EyeArDum.&quot;First baby I saw my wife give birth to, I gained a while new appreciation for her and at the same time I remembered thinking &#39;thank God I&#39;m not a woman,&#39;&quot; wrote mantisfree.Distance_Runner weighed in with, &quot;I&rsquo;m a guy who&rsquo;s literally sitting in the delivery room as I type this with my wife in labor beside me. Yeah, f*ck that. This is one of the most insane unpopular opinions I&rsquo;ve read. Bravo OP&quot;But some said they got where OP was coming from.MrProspero somehow put it a lot more eloquently and less creepily: I kind of understand, I&#39;ve had the thought before that it kind of sucks that women can literally grow life inside of them and I can&#39;t. It&#39;s never going to come up (no womb transplants for me, I&#39;ll stick with only having surgeries that I absolutely need, thank you), so I don&#39;t really think about it, and it doesn&#39;t really bother me. But I feel pretty strongly that if I were born a woman, it would be something extremely important to me, even a bit sacred. It&#39;s like reaching out and touching God. Still, you don&#39;t know what it would mean to you if you were a woman since you will never actually have to deal with the idea of physically having a child and giving birth. But anyway.A user named itchyspiderbutthole (yes) said her husband felt the same way. My husband feels like this too. I don&#39;t get why people think it&#39;s weird. There are women who aren&#39;t physically capable of getting pregnant, it&#39;s okay when they say they wish they could be pregnant. Why can&#39;t a man? Good point! But people seem to be taking issue with the fact that this guy&#39;s unrealistic view of pregnancy. Also, he has never experienced the lifelong pressure and expectations that go along with owning a uterus. A woman with fertility problems is not the same as a man who watched his wife get pregnant and thought it seemed nice.Still, OP ended up editing his post to clarify that, no, he does not have an idealized version of pregnancy: Some people are rightfully pointing out that my wife&#39;s pregnancy went smoothly and that we are very fortunate. I do not disagree. However, I disagree that I have an idealized view of pregnancy. Just because things went well for her does not mean they would for me and does not mean they go well for others, but it also does not invalidate my feelings. As I stated above, I am well-informed of the risks that come with pregnancy. So uhhhh. Okay! Congrats on loving your wife and child either way.

Someone on the internet forgot about one of the biggest perks of male privilege: never having to turn your body into an incubator for future generations of children.  A man posted on the Reddit page &quot;Unpopular Opinions&quot; saying...