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<p>Being Old Money is truly its own world with a specific set of norms and traditions. Because the powers that be in Old Money circles are well...old, they are not the most accepting bunch.</p><p>When a teenager came out to her mom, her mom was loving and accepting&mdash;but worried about how her grandparents would react. The wealthy older couple had previously dissolved the trust of a grandchild who came out as gay, and the mom doesn&#39;t want her daughter to be denied the sizable sum because her parents are homophobes.</p><p>She asked <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/p1g483/aita_for_telling_my_daughter_to_wait_to_publicly/">&quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;</a> if she was a jerk to propose a compromise. She explained:</p><blockquote> <p>BACKGROUND: My parents are very wealthy, but are also very homophobic. They have decided to split their estate amongst 8 of their grandchildren, leaving the 9th one out because he came out as gay a few years ago. He has cut complete contact with them.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>None of the money in their estate will come to me or my siblings, and we are all OK with that decision since we are all pretty well-off. The money will be left in a trust which only the grandkids can access after they turn 18. 3 of their grandkids have already turned 18 so they have complete access to their trust. Once given access to the trust, they cannot take back the money.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So a few weeks ago my daughter (she is an only child and turned 16 a few days back) told me, my husband and a couple of close friends that she was bisexual. She also said she would like to wait before publicly coming out till she is ready. Both me and my husband whole heartedly accepted this decision, and we can see she has become much more happy after she told us this.</p> </blockquote><p>Her daughter feels ready to come out publicly, but she wants to make sure that she understands the stakes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Yesterday she told us that she would like to go public with this announcement, posting it on her instagram story and the likes. I told her to wait till she is 18 because I am 100% sure my parents would dissolve her trust and distribute amongst the rest of her cousins. I absolutely DO NOT want her to loose out on this money. It can set her off financially for life. When I told her this, she got mad at me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She said &quot;Why are you trying to suppress who I am? Why are you trying to hide my identity?&quot; and called me an a**hole. I was taken aback by this and said &quot;I am only doing this because I care about you.&quot; She left home and is now staying with one of her friends. My husband is on my side, but I still think I may be the a**hole. So reddit, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The Reddit Jury ruled that the mom is Not The A**hole, as she has her daughter&#39;s best interest at heart.</p><p>&quot;NTA (Not The A**hole). Kids don&rsquo;t understand money because they don&rsquo;t have financial responsibilities. 21 yr old version of her will look back and realize it was purely financial and not tied to her actual sexuality,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kevinlevin1111/">kevinlevin1111</a> wrote. &quot;[Grandparents] shouldn&rsquo;t be so harsh but good on you for securing her bag. Weird she can&rsquo;t understand that but again that&rsquo;s the part where she&rsquo;s a child.&quot;</p><p>A commenter who identifies as pansexual agrees. &quot;I turned 16 a month ago, I&#39;m pansexual, and I live in a homophobic country and have extremely wealthy grandparents, so I&#39;m in the <em>EXACT SAME POSITION</em> as your daughter,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/bigkoalafications/">bigkoalafications</a> explained. &quot;Please show her a documentary or something about the student loan crisis and tell her that 2 years of waiting to <em>publicly</em> (she can still have same-sex relationships in secret for two years) come out is nothing compared to the decades of trying to pay off student loan, mortgages, etc.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>&quot;Yeah I&#39;m bi and I&#39;d happy be closeted if I had that kinda money coming in 2 years,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Happy-Investment/">Happy-Investment</a> agreed. &quot;When I was 16 I thought I knew everything, If I could go back in time and tell her how I turned out she&#39;d be horrified.&quot;</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ItsAJAgain/">ItsAJAgain</a> summed it up: &quot;NTA ask your daughter, would she rather be bisexual or rich and bisexual.&quot; Really makes you think.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she’s wrong to tell bisexual daughter to stay in the closet until 18.

Being Old Money is truly its own world with a specific set of norms and traditions. Because the powers that be in Old Money circles are well...old, they are not the most accepting bunch.When a teenager came out to her mom, her mom was loving and accepting&mdash;but worried about how her grandparents would react. The wealthy older couple had previously dissolved the trust of a grandchild who came out as gay, and the mom doesn&#39;t want her daughter to be denied the sizable sum because her parents are homophobes.She asked &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot; if she was a jerk to propose a compromise. She explained: BACKGROUND: My parents are very wealthy, but are also very homophobic. They have decided to split their estate amongst 8 of their grandchildren, leaving the 9th one out because he came out as gay a few years ago. He has cut complete contact with them.  None of the money in their estate will come to me or my siblings, and we are all OK with that decision since we are all pretty well-off. The money will be left in a trust which only the grandkids can access after they turn 18. 3 of their grandkids have already turned 18 so they have complete access to their trust. Once given access to the trust, they cannot take back the money.  So a few weeks ago my daughter (she is an only child and turned 16 a few days back) told me, my husband and a couple of close friends that she was bisexual. She also said she would like to wait before publicly coming out till she is ready. Both me and my husband whole heartedly accepted this decision, and we can see she has become much more happy after she told us this. Her daughter feels ready to come out publicly, but she wants to make sure that she understands the stakes: Yesterday she told us that she would like to go public with this announcement, posting it on her instagram story and the likes. I told her to wait till she is 18 because I am 100% sure my parents would dissolve her trust and distribute amongst the rest of her cousins. I absolutely DO NOT want her to loose out on this money. It can set her off financially for life. When I told her this, she got mad at me.  She said &quot;Why are you trying to suppress who I am? Why are you trying to hide my identity?&quot; and called me an a**hole. I was taken aback by this and said &quot;I am only doing this because I care about you.&quot; She left home and is now staying with one of her friends. My husband is on my side, but I still think I may be the a**hole. So reddit, AITA? The Reddit Jury ruled that the mom is Not The A**hole, as she has her daughter&#39;s best interest at heart.&quot;NTA (Not The A**hole). Kids don&rsquo;t understand money because they don&rsquo;t have financial responsibilities. 21 yr old version of her will look back and realize it was purely financial and not tied to her actual sexuality,&quot; kevinlevin1111 wrote. &quot;[Grandparents] shouldn&rsquo;t be so harsh but good on you for securing her bag. Weird she can&rsquo;t understand that but again that&rsquo;s the part where she&rsquo;s a child.&quot;A commenter who identifies as pansexual agrees. &quot;I turned 16 a month ago, I&#39;m pansexual, and I live in a homophobic country and have extremely wealthy grandparents, so I&#39;m in the EXACT SAME POSITION as your daughter,&quot; bigkoalafications explained. &quot;Please show her a documentary or something about the student loan crisis and tell her that 2 years of waiting to publicly (she can still have same-sex relationships in secret for two years) come out is nothing compared to the decades of trying to pay off student loan, mortgages, etc.&quot;&quot;Yeah I&#39;m bi and I&#39;d happy be closeted if I had that kinda money coming in 2 years,&quot; Happy-Investment agreed. &quot;When I was 16 I thought I knew everything, If I could go back in time and tell her how I turned out she&#39;d be horrified.&quot;ItsAJAgain summed it up: &quot;NTA ask your daughter, would she rather be bisexual or rich and bisexual.&quot; Really makes you think.

Being Old Money is truly its own world with a specific set of norms and traditions. Because the powers that be in Old Money circles are well...old, they are not the most accepting bunch.  When a teenager came out to her mom, her mom was...