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How much say does a man have in decisions about a baby he has no intention of raising?A new mom posted on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vgino3/aita_for_naming_my_son_the_same_name_my_baby/">&quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;</a> after her Baby Daddy freaked out because she named the kid Mark, which happens to be his father&#39;s name.She wrote:<blockquote> I had a baby 2 weeks ago. I am not together with his bio dad, and he wants nothing to do with our son. He met him, and we are talking custody agreements, but he really just wants a weekend a month when he&#39;s older. I named my son Mark. I love the name, always have. Mark&#39;s bio dad hates his father, and his father is also named Mark (coincidence, I didn&#39;t choose the name because of that). </blockquote>The Baby Daddy had a fit, and preemptively blamed the name for the bad relationship he&#39;ll have with the kid he&#39;s not interested in for at least a decade.<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> He demanded I pick any other name (this was at the end of my pregnancy). I told him that if he plans to be really involved and actually raise the child, I will consider using Mark as a middle name, but if he just plans to be a &quot;dad&quot; once a month then I&#39;m not considering his feelings here. </blockquote><blockquote> He says I am an AH and also the name I chose is the reason he will never bond to his son. AitA? </blockquote>The commenters ruled the mom to be Not The A**hole, but had different perspectives about the Baby Daddy&#39;s behavior.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/IllDivide3316/">IllDivide3316</a> said that the bio dad&#39;s opinion doesn&#39;t matter, as he has no interest in being involved.<blockquote> NTA -- If he doesn&#39;t intend to be around, then what does he care? I say name baby &quot;Marky Mark.&quot; </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/righteousredo/">righteousredo</a> writes that the Baby Daddy should get over it.<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> NTA (Not The A**hole) People are all so hung up on names. It&#39;s just a name. Who cares over an irresponsible man that won&#39;t even be involved? Just go on with your life and forget him. He can call him &quot;buddy&quot; or &quot;bud&quot; or any other nickname if it really bothers him. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Multi_Pass/">Multi_Pass</a> asked her to consider his perspective.<blockquote> NTA You can name your child whatever you want, however, this is not just your child. If this guy has trauma surrounding his father, naming your son the same name will not help this situation. I&#39;m not saying you have to put your feeling over his, but you knew that this would be an issue, and it could have an adverse effect on your son. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/yenderling1/">yenderling1</a> implored her to think about Mark, and weigh how important it is to her that that&#39;s his name.<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> You&rsquo;re naming your child the name that his bio dad will always have negative feelings towards. This is bigger than you just liking the way a name sounds. Imagine how this will affect your kid, don&rsquo;t be selfish. </blockquote>We wish Mark the best, whatever his name may be.<div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to give son the same name as bio dad's father, who he hates.

How much say does a man have in decisions about a baby he has no intention of raising?A new mom posted on &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot; after her Baby Daddy freaked out because she named the kid Mark, which happens to be his father&#39;s name.She wrote: I had a baby 2 weeks ago. I am not together with his bio dad, and he wants nothing to do with our son. He met him, and we are talking custody agreements, but he really just wants a weekend a month when he&#39;s older. I named my son Mark. I love the name, always have. Mark&#39;s bio dad hates his father, and his father is also named Mark (coincidence, I didn&#39;t choose the name because of that). The Baby Daddy had a fit, and preemptively blamed the name for the bad relationship he&#39;ll have with the kid he&#39;s not interested in for at least a decade. He demanded I pick any other name (this was at the end of my pregnancy). I told him that if he plans to be really involved and actually raise the child, I will consider using Mark as a middle name, but if he just plans to be a &quot;dad&quot; once a month then I&#39;m not considering his feelings here.  He says I am an AH and also the name I chose is the reason he will never bond to his son. AitA? The commenters ruled the mom to be Not The A**hole, but had different perspectives about the Baby Daddy&#39;s behavior.IllDivide3316 said that the bio dad&#39;s opinion doesn&#39;t matter, as he has no interest in being involved. NTA -- If he doesn&#39;t intend to be around, then what does he care? I say name baby &quot;Marky Mark.&quot; righteousredo writes that the Baby Daddy should get over it. NTA (Not The A**hole) People are all so hung up on names. It&#39;s just a name. Who cares over an irresponsible man that won&#39;t even be involved? Just go on with your life and forget him. He can call him &quot;buddy&quot; or &quot;bud&quot; or any other nickname if it really bothers him. Multi_Pass asked her to consider his perspective. NTA You can name your child whatever you want, however, this is not just your child. If this guy has trauma surrounding his father, naming your son the same name will not help this situation. I&#39;m not saying you have to put your feeling over his, but you knew that this would be an issue, and it could have an adverse effect on your son. yenderling1 implored her to think about Mark, and weigh how important it is to her that that&#39;s his name. You&rsquo;re naming your child the name that his bio dad will always have negative feelings towards. This is bigger than you just liking the way a name sounds. Imagine how this will affect your kid, don&rsquo;t be selfish. We wish Mark the best, whatever his name may be.

How much say does a man have in decisions about a baby he has no intention of raising?  A new mom posted on &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot; after her Baby Daddy freaked out because she named the kid Mark, which happens to be his father&#39;s...