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<p>Is it okay to fight pettiness with pettiness? And at what point does pettiness become an economic necessity?</p><p>Months after the broke up and she moved across the country, a woman is having a hard time getting her belongings back from her ex-fianc&eacute;, and she&#39;s contemplating heading to the pawn shop.</p><p>She asked <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oojeqr/aita_for_selling_my_engagment_ring/">&quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>So little back story my ex fiance and I broke up in October of 2020. I had previously lived with him and left some of my stuff in his state thinking I&#39;d be back. Well, we came up with an agreement I keep the engagment ring and he keeps one of my items that he really enjoyed using. I recently was able to finally go and send his stuff back and told him I would do so if he would pay for my stuff to be sent back and I would pay for his. I asked him to pay for a box and shipping fees the same as I would have to pay. I didn&#39;t get a response for a while then he messages me saying he will send my stuff when I send his and give him tracking information. I then went out of town and his stuff was in the back of my mind.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The ex-fianc&eacute; stopped being petty for a few minutes before changing his mind.</p><blockquote> <p>Well finally 2 weeks ago he texts me after having me blocked for months saying he&#39;s tired of having my stuff and he&#39;s throwing it all out. I respond immediatly because he woke me up at 4 am to this message and say I am out of town and will be home in 2 days and will send him tracking information then. I return home, buy a box, take pictures of all his clothes and the ring, and I tape it up. When I go to send it to him he had blocked me once again.</p> </blockquote><p>Her friends say it&#39;s time to cut her losses and buy new stuff...with the bling money:</p><blockquote> <p>My friends believe at this point because of him blocking and unblocking me as well as him throwing my stuff out I should just go with them to sell the ring and donate his clothes and just move on. At this point I&#39;ve already blocked him realizing he would text when he wanted to argue as well as in our relationship he was very controlling and is still trying to control certain things in my life. I can&#39;t just go get my stuff because I live about half way across the country from him now. So would I be an a**hole for selling the engagment ring and spending the money on all my lost stuff he threw away?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The Reddit Jury near-unanimously agrees with the friends, and declared the a**hole to be the ex (duh!).</p><p>&quot;NTA. Sounds like you had an understanding and he didn&#39;t follow through. Do what you gotta do,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PamphletHamlet21/">PamphletHamlet21</a> encouraged.</p><p>&quot;Sell it and be done with him,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CT0760/">CT0760</a> agreed.</p><p>&quot;NTA - Be the bigger person and send him his stuff, but keep the ring, as per your agreement and be done with him,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jennabear82/">Jennabear82</a> added.</p><p>More litigious Redditors warned about a potential lawsuit, which would not be ideal.</p><p>&quot;This is a slippery slope. You better have proof that he said you can keep the ring, because if you don&#39;t and he files a lawsuit against you, you&#39;re going to loose. The ring is his until you say I do. The ring is considered a conditional gift. The condition that would make it yours is getting married,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sloooo71164/">sloooo71164</a> explained. :If you didn&#39;t get married, the conditions of the gift were not met and the ring goes back to him. No proof of an agreement is a [he said/she said] and the court will award him the ring or the amount it&#39;s worth if you no longer have it.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The OP replied that she does &quot;have in a text that he said I could keep the ring as long as I let him have a specific thing of mine.&quot; &quot;Due to this I believe the courts would go ahead and say it is mine because I let him keep that and I still have the ring,&quot; she wrote.</p><p>In that case, sell! If I were her friend, I&#39;d tell her to use the money to buy new stuff...and what&#39;s left over on drinks. She deserves it.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if it’s wrong to sell engagement ring after ex won't return her stuff.

Is it okay to fight pettiness with pettiness? And at what point does pettiness become an economic necessity?Months after the broke up and she moved across the country, a woman is having a hard time getting her belongings back from her ex-fianc&eacute;, and she&#39;s contemplating heading to the pawn shop.She asked &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;: So little back story my ex fiance and I broke up in October of 2020. I had previously lived with him and left some of my stuff in his state thinking I&#39;d be back. Well, we came up with an agreement I keep the engagment ring and he keeps one of my items that he really enjoyed using. I recently was able to finally go and send his stuff back and told him I would do so if he would pay for my stuff to be sent back and I would pay for his. I asked him to pay for a box and shipping fees the same as I would have to pay. I didn&#39;t get a response for a while then he messages me saying he will send my stuff when I send his and give him tracking information. I then went out of town and his stuff was in the back of my mind. The ex-fianc&eacute; stopped being petty for a few minutes before changing his mind. Well finally 2 weeks ago he texts me after having me blocked for months saying he&#39;s tired of having my stuff and he&#39;s throwing it all out. I respond immediatly because he woke me up at 4 am to this message and say I am out of town and will be home in 2 days and will send him tracking information then. I return home, buy a box, take pictures of all his clothes and the ring, and I tape it up. When I go to send it to him he had blocked me once again. Her friends say it&#39;s time to cut her losses and buy new stuff...with the bling money: My friends believe at this point because of him blocking and unblocking me as well as him throwing my stuff out I should just go with them to sell the ring and donate his clothes and just move on. At this point I&#39;ve already blocked him realizing he would text when he wanted to argue as well as in our relationship he was very controlling and is still trying to control certain things in my life. I can&#39;t just go get my stuff because I live about half way across the country from him now. So would I be an a**hole for selling the engagment ring and spending the money on all my lost stuff he threw away? The Reddit Jury near-unanimously agrees with the friends, and declared the a**hole to be the ex (duh!).&quot;NTA. Sounds like you had an understanding and he didn&#39;t follow through. Do what you gotta do,&quot; PamphletHamlet21 encouraged.&quot;Sell it and be done with him,&quot; CT0760 agreed.&quot;NTA - Be the bigger person and send him his stuff, but keep the ring, as per your agreement and be done with him,&quot; Jennabear82 added.More litigious Redditors warned about a potential lawsuit, which would not be ideal.&quot;This is a slippery slope. You better have proof that he said you can keep the ring, because if you don&#39;t and he files a lawsuit against you, you&#39;re going to loose. The ring is his until you say I do. The ring is considered a conditional gift. The condition that would make it yours is getting married,&quot; sloooo71164 explained. :If you didn&#39;t get married, the conditions of the gift were not met and the ring goes back to him. No proof of an agreement is a [he said/she said] and the court will award him the ring or the amount it&#39;s worth if you no longer have it.&quot;The OP replied that she does &quot;have in a text that he said I could keep the ring as long as I let him have a specific thing of mine.&quot; &quot;Due to this I believe the courts would go ahead and say it is mine because I let him keep that and I still have the ring,&quot; she wrote.In that case, sell! If I were her friend, I&#39;d tell her to use the money to buy new stuff...and what&#39;s left over on drinks. She deserves it.

Is it okay to fight pettiness with pettiness? And at what point does pettiness become an economic necessity?  Months after the broke up and she moved across the country, a woman is having a hard time getting her belongings back from her...