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<p><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">This story has it all, love, loss, and an awkward AF family dinner. Reddit user </span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Elijah2022xx/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">u/Elijah2022xx</a><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;"> recently had a confrontation with his brother&#39;s live-in girlfriend over her decision to keep the urn of her deceased husband in the home they share together. Sharing his opinion got him in some hot water with his brother and now he&#39;s turning to Reddit to ask:</span></p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/shtses/aita_for_telling_my_brothers_girlfriend_that_it/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for telling my brother&#39;s girlfriend that it was weird for her to keep an urn of her late husband&#39;s ashes in the house?</h2><p>He writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Okay, So this happened last night while me (M23) and my family were visiting my brother&#39;s (M30) girlfriend&#39;s (F30) house for the first time.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We were all sitting at dinner table and I remembered when my brother&#39;s girlfriend, who&#39;s a widow, saying that she keeps an urn of her late husband&#39;s ashes in the house.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Conversation let from one thing to another then, I looked at my brother and asked him quietly if he was comfortable with having his girlfriend&#39;s late husband&#39;s urn in the house. he gave me a long stare so I figured the answer was yes but maybe, he couldn&#39;t tell his girlfriend about it fearing she&#39;d misunderstand maybe?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>So I brought it up with her and told her it was quite weird to have her late husband&#39;s urn in the house. She looked at me and was apparently caught off guard by what I said. she said that she didn&#39;t think so and that it wasn&#39;t like the urn was on display, also said this is her late husband&#39;s house and where the urn should be.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her it felt weird especially, since she just had my brother move in with her and he must be feeling uncomfortable with the idea, his girlfriend looked upset and got quiet.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My brother shouted, &quot;None of your goddamned business, shut your mouth Elijah, Jeezus!&quot; I responded with &quot;I mean..personally, I wouldn&#39;t be cool with my girl keeping an urn of her ex within close approximate, at best-best it&#39;d make me feel uncomfortable, at worst it&#39;d make me feel creeped out.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>His girlfriend then replied by saying that I have no business dating a widow then and I shrugged. She excused herself to the kitchen and stayed there, my brother went off on me calling me an obnoxious asshole for making dinner awkward and upsetting his girlfriend. I told him I was just giving my opinion but he lashed out more.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My parents and I left and they told me my brother&#39;s girlfriend was being hypersensitive, but I too went too far and upset my brother and probably sparked an argument between them and I should reach out to apologize but I&#39;m not sure.</p> </blockquote><p>What do you think about this brother&#39;s behavior? Is he &quot;The As*hole&quot; in this situation or not? He came back on Reddit to add more info to clarify his side of things:</p><blockquote> <p>[edit] Guys! please, One thing you should know is that I had no intentions of being hurtful. I do not hate my brother&#39;s girlfriend, in fact, we get along pretty well but I just wanted to add that I had no malicious intent here.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m not the type of guy who goes out of their way to act maliciously, but I feel kind of guilty for how the situation played out.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My parents are the ones who said she was being hypersensitive, not me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Yes, I overheard my brother venting about the urn when he first moved in just so you know.</p> </blockquote><p>As usual, the people of Reddit did not hold back from giving their honest opinion to this guy&#39;s question. They declared him &quot;The As*hole&quot; for two major reasons. First of all, the urn doesn&#39;t contain a random ex, it&#39;s her late husband, and second of all, it&#39;s not his place to get in the middle of his brother&#39;s relationship.</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Typical-Garlic-7308/">Typical-Garlic-7308</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>You should feel guilty. It wasn&rsquo;t her ex, it&rsquo;s her late HUSBAND. And how was this any of your business? What did you think you would accomplish? You sound extremely immature and rude. YTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Fit-Bear/">Fit-Bear</a> agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. News flash, dude. You are not always entitled to your opinion. This is none of your business whatsoever. Think about this whenever you open your mouth to speak...</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Is what you&#39;re about to say helpful? Is what you&#39;re about to say necessary? Is what you&#39;re about to say kind? If the answer to all or even two of these is &quot;no&quot; then keep your mouth shut.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Pantherosy/">Pantherosy</a> makes a hilarious point:</p><blockquote> <p>Are they worried she&#39;s going to start cheating on her boyfriend with the urn??</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Alex-LeMonte/">Alex-LeMonte</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA, seriously read the room.....</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Also why did you feel the need to meddle in your bros relationship, and then double down repeatedly</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Dewhickey76/">Dewhickey76</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Super insensitive and extremely immature. It&#39;s awfully childish to be &quot;creeped out&quot; at the presence of an urn in the home. OP&#39;s attitude about the entire situation reminds me of a preteen bratty kid.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pottymouthpup/">pottymouthpup</a> makes a good point:</p><blockquote> <p>Can we also point out that these are not the ashes of her &quot;ex&quot; as op kept saying. She is a widow, that loss will stay with her forever. The urn is in the house; OP confirmed it isn&#39;t &quot;on display&quot; as a shrine to her late husband.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/walnutwithteeth/">walnutwithteeth</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. An absolutely massive one. It&#39;s not her &#39;ex.&#39; She didn&#39;t dump him. He didn&#39;t leave her. He was her husband and he died. That love doesn&#39;t just disappear.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You don&#39;t just erase all memory of a loving marriage. Who else should have his ashes but his wife? Why would you even think to question her or pass a comment on this? Do you have no social skills or empathy at all?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Your brother already knows her past and accepts it and it&#39;s precisely F all to do with you. Your parents are also AHs if they agree with you.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/whiskeyandcookies/">whiskeyandcookies</a> adds:</p><blockquote> <p>I have a friend who married a widow with a child. Together they celebrate his birthday, their anniversary, the day he died because they are adults. They even invite her deceased husband&#39;s family to events.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My friend understands what he meant to her. That was a huge piece of her life that was taken away in a horrible way.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>OP&rsquo;s brother needs to stop dating her, she deserves someone who treats her with respect. And OP, YTA</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Alex-LeMonte/">Alex-LeMonte</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA - WHAT DO YOU EXPECT HER TO DO WITH HER HUSBAND?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You are a mega asshole. You don&#39;t through people asses away because you have a boyfriend. That is somone she loves.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The way you went about it is completely hurtful, that is not a topic to even touch.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for telling brother's GF not to keep late husband's ashes.

This story has it all, love, loss, and an awkward AF family dinner. Reddit user u/Elijah2022xx recently had a confrontation with his brother&#39;s live-in girlfriend over her decision to keep the urn of her deceased husband in the home they share together. Sharing his opinion got him in some hot water with his brother and now he&#39;s turning to Reddit to ask:AITA (Am I the As*hole) for telling my brother&#39;s girlfriend that it was weird for her to keep an urn of her late husband&#39;s ashes in the house?He writes: Okay, So this happened last night while me (M23) and my family were visiting my brother&#39;s (M30) girlfriend&#39;s (F30) house for the first time.  We were all sitting at dinner table and I remembered when my brother&#39;s girlfriend, who&#39;s a widow, saying that she keeps an urn of her late husband&#39;s ashes in the house.  Conversation let from one thing to another then, I looked at my brother and asked him quietly if he was comfortable with having his girlfriend&#39;s late husband&#39;s urn in the house. he gave me a long stare so I figured the answer was yes but maybe, he couldn&#39;t tell his girlfriend about it fearing she&#39;d misunderstand maybe?  So I brought it up with her and told her it was quite weird to have her late husband&#39;s urn in the house. She looked at me and was apparently caught off guard by what I said. she said that she didn&#39;t think so and that it wasn&#39;t like the urn was on display, also said this is her late husband&#39;s house and where the urn should be.  I told her it felt weird especially, since she just had my brother move in with her and he must be feeling uncomfortable with the idea, his girlfriend looked upset and got quiet.  My brother shouted, &quot;None of your goddamned business, shut your mouth Elijah, Jeezus!&quot; I responded with &quot;I mean..personally, I wouldn&#39;t be cool with my girl keeping an urn of her ex within close approximate, at best-best it&#39;d make me feel uncomfortable, at worst it&#39;d make me feel creeped out.&quot;  His girlfriend then replied by saying that I have no business dating a widow then and I shrugged. She excused herself to the kitchen and stayed there, my brother went off on me calling me an obnoxious asshole for making dinner awkward and upsetting his girlfriend. I told him I was just giving my opinion but he lashed out more.  My parents and I left and they told me my brother&#39;s girlfriend was being hypersensitive, but I too went too far and upset my brother and probably sparked an argument between them and I should reach out to apologize but I&#39;m not sure. What do you think about this brother&#39;s behavior? Is he &quot;The As*hole&quot; in this situation or not? He came back on Reddit to add more info to clarify his side of things: [edit] Guys! please, One thing you should know is that I had no intentions of being hurtful. I do not hate my brother&#39;s girlfriend, in fact, we get along pretty well but I just wanted to add that I had no malicious intent here.  I&#39;m not the type of guy who goes out of their way to act maliciously, but I feel kind of guilty for how the situation played out.  My parents are the ones who said she was being hypersensitive, not me.  Yes, I overheard my brother venting about the urn when he first moved in just so you know. As usual, the people of Reddit did not hold back from giving their honest opinion to this guy&#39;s question. They declared him &quot;The As*hole&quot; for two major reasons. First of all, the urn doesn&#39;t contain a random ex, it&#39;s her late husband, and second of all, it&#39;s not his place to get in the middle of his brother&#39;s relationship. Typical-Garlic-7308 writes: You should feel guilty. It wasn&rsquo;t her ex, it&rsquo;s her late HUSBAND. And how was this any of your business? What did you think you would accomplish? You sound extremely immature and rude. YTA. Fit-Bear agrees: YTA. News flash, dude. You are not always entitled to your opinion. This is none of your business whatsoever. Think about this whenever you open your mouth to speak...  Is what you&#39;re about to say helpful? Is what you&#39;re about to say necessary? Is what you&#39;re about to say kind? If the answer to all or even two of these is &quot;no&quot; then keep your mouth shut. Pantherosy makes a hilarious point: Are they worried she&#39;s going to start cheating on her boyfriend with the urn?? Alex-LeMonte says: YTA, seriously read the room.....  Also why did you feel the need to meddle in your bros relationship, and then double down repeatedly Dewhickey76 writes: Super insensitive and extremely immature. It&#39;s awfully childish to be &quot;creeped out&quot; at the presence of an urn in the home. OP&#39;s attitude about the entire situation reminds me of a preteen bratty kid. pottymouthpup makes a good point: Can we also point out that these are not the ashes of her &quot;ex&quot; as op kept saying. She is a widow, that loss will stay with her forever. The urn is in the house; OP confirmed it isn&#39;t &quot;on display&quot; as a shrine to her late husband. walnutwithteeth says: YTA. An absolutely massive one. It&#39;s not her &#39;ex.&#39; She didn&#39;t dump him. He didn&#39;t leave her. He was her husband and he died. That love doesn&#39;t just disappear.  You don&#39;t just erase all memory of a loving marriage. Who else should have his ashes but his wife? Why would you even think to question her or pass a comment on this? Do you have no social skills or empathy at all?  Your brother already knows her past and accepts it and it&#39;s precisely F all to do with you. Your parents are also AHs if they agree with you. whiskeyandcookies adds: I have a friend who married a widow with a child. Together they celebrate his birthday, their anniversary, the day he died because they are adults. They even invite her deceased husband&#39;s family to events.  My friend understands what he meant to her. That was a huge piece of her life that was taken away in a horrible way.  OP&rsquo;s brother needs to stop dating her, she deserves someone who treats her with respect. And OP, YTA Alex-LeMonte writes: YTA - WHAT DO YOU EXPECT HER TO DO WITH HER HUSBAND?  You are a mega asshole. You don&#39;t through people asses away because you have a boyfriend. That is somone she loves.  The way you went about it is completely hurtful, that is not a topic to even touch. 

This story has it all, love, loss, and an awkward AF family dinner. Reddit user u/Elijah2022xx recently had a confrontation with his brother&#39;s live-in girlfriend over her decision to keep the urn of her deceased husband in the home...