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Glossophobia, fear of public speaking, is a common ailment, and to one bride, it&#39;s a disqualifying one.With only a month to go before her wedding, a bride posted on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mxm4gr/aita_for_switching_my_maid_of_honor_after_my/">&quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;</a>, inquiring whether she was a jerk for demoting her Maid of Honor who struggles with anxiety and does not want to make a speech at the reception. Rather than having someone else speak, she stripped the title away from a person who was presumably her closest friend and pretty much shamed her to strangers online.The bride wrote:<blockquote> I am getting married next month. My fianc&eacute; and I were expecting speeches from the best man, maid of honor, and our fathers/mothers. I let my maid of honor know about 6 months in advance that she would need to give a speech. Just last week, she came forward and said she has had bad anxiety giving speeches, to the point of panic, and didn&#39;t want to give a speech at my wedding. So I told her that the speech is really important to me, and I would be choosing another bridesmaid to be the maid of honor. Well...she was clearly upset but just said &quot;ok...&quot; and that was it. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>She tried to justify it by explaining how important the speeches are to her.<blockquote> I was looking forward to the speeches and they mean a lot to me. On top of that, I just think it would be uncomfortable if the best man was giving a speech, and then the maid of honor never spoke. People would be wondering &quot;why isnt she giving a speech too??&quot;. AITA in this situation for trying to just make my wedding the way I&#39;d like? </blockquote>The bride was met with a resounding &quot;Yes! You&#39;re The A**hole!&quot;&quot;YTA (You&#39;re The A**hole). Choosing a maid of honor used to be about the relationship you had with her, not for what she could do for you in regard to wedding plans/prep/speeches/whatever,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RB1327/">RB1327</a> wrote&quot;YTA for downgrading your friend for this reason, as it kinda sounds like you&#39;re wanting praise and attention, and that you&#39;re prioritising that over your friend&#39;s comfort. You&#39;re already having other speeches,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/involuntary_cynic/">involuntary_cynic</a> added. &quot;If it&#39;s that important, why not have two [Maids of Honor] rather than downgrading your friend?&quot;<div className="ad-splitter"></div>After reading the comments, the bride added a tag to her original post:<blockquote> I&#39;m getting a pretty overwhelming YTA response and I do feel quite guilty... I am still making sure to include the previous chosen maid of honor as a bridesmaid and I will be talking with her to make sure she&#39;s still okay in that roll. I&#39;m also trying to be very understanding of her anxiety issues, but it&#39;s just been extremely difficult for me to choose a maid of honor and see this whole thing through. I&#39;ve been extremely stressed from my kids and work, so having this additional stressor made things much more challenging for me. </blockquote>Hmm, &quot;extremely stressed from my lids and work&quot;? Sounds like she could be struggling with anxiety. Good thing she isn&#39;t planning on making a speech.<div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride asks if she was wrong to demote maid of honor for having public speaking anxiety.

Glossophobia, fear of public speaking, is a common ailment, and to one bride, it&#39;s a disqualifying one.With only a month to go before her wedding, a bride posted on &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;, inquiring whether she was a jerk for demoting her Maid of Honor who struggles with anxiety and does not want to make a speech at the reception. Rather than having someone else speak, she stripped the title away from a person who was presumably her closest friend and pretty much shamed her to strangers online.The bride wrote: I am getting married next month. My fianc&eacute; and I were expecting speeches from the best man, maid of honor, and our fathers/mothers. I let my maid of honor know about 6 months in advance that she would need to give a speech. Just last week, she came forward and said she has had bad anxiety giving speeches, to the point of panic, and didn&#39;t want to give a speech at my wedding. So I told her that the speech is really important to me, and I would be choosing another bridesmaid to be the maid of honor. Well...she was clearly upset but just said &quot;ok...&quot; and that was it. She tried to justify it by explaining how important the speeches are to her. I was looking forward to the speeches and they mean a lot to me. On top of that, I just think it would be uncomfortable if the best man was giving a speech, and then the maid of honor never spoke. People would be wondering &quot;why isnt she giving a speech too??&quot;. AITA in this situation for trying to just make my wedding the way I&#39;d like? The bride was met with a resounding &quot;Yes! You&#39;re The A**hole!&quot;&quot;YTA (You&#39;re The A**hole). Choosing a maid of honor used to be about the relationship you had with her, not for what she could do for you in regard to wedding plans/prep/speeches/whatever,&quot; RB1327 wrote&quot;YTA for downgrading your friend for this reason, as it kinda sounds like you&#39;re wanting praise and attention, and that you&#39;re prioritising that over your friend&#39;s comfort. You&#39;re already having other speeches,&quot; involuntary_cynic added. &quot;If it&#39;s that important, why not have two [Maids of Honor] rather than downgrading your friend?&quot;After reading the comments, the bride added a tag to her original post: I&#39;m getting a pretty overwhelming YTA response and I do feel quite guilty... I am still making sure to include the previous chosen maid of honor as a bridesmaid and I will be talking with her to make sure she&#39;s still okay in that roll. I&#39;m also trying to be very understanding of her anxiety issues, but it&#39;s just been extremely difficult for me to choose a maid of honor and see this whole thing through. I&#39;ve been extremely stressed from my kids and work, so having this additional stressor made things much more challenging for me. Hmm, &quot;extremely stressed from my lids and work&quot;? Sounds like she could be struggling with anxiety. Good thing she isn&#39;t planning on making a speech.

Glossophobia, fear of public speaking, is a common ailment, and to one bride, it&#39;s a disqualifying one.  With only a month to go before her wedding, a bride posted on &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;, inquiring whether she was a jerk for...