Is it wrong to play favorites among nieces and nephews, and to prioritize the neice for purely decorate reasons? That's what this "Am I The A**hole?" boils down to, and it's interesting insight into the psyche of a woman who is a Bridezilla by virtue of being a terrible aunt.
The couple wanted a child-free wedding, with the exception of the groom's little sister, who would serve as flower girl. When the sister dropped out, the bride reached out to her brother whose ten-year-old daughter fits the role, but his other kids are still very much not invited.
In five months, my (25F) fiancé (26M) and I will be getting married. We are obviously ecstatic, but the planning has been chaotic.
From the start, we agreed that we didn't want any children there except for my fiancé's little sister, who I thought was going to be my flower girl. My brother (35M) and I have never been close because of our age gap, so it really wasn't a big deal when he decided to stay home with his kids (12M, 10F, 8M) instead of coming.
Well, my fiancé's little sister decided she didn't want to be the Flower Girl, which has left me scrambling for another one. All of my female relatives are either my age or older, and my fiancé doesn't have any other sisters and it would be awkward asking a cousin of his, so I decided to ask my brother if his daughter would like to do it.