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<p>It is a moral conundrum: if a dog is a man&#39;s best friend, should its health take precedence over the wants of a human fianc&eacute;e? Alternatively, should the ability to save an animal&#39;s life be prioritized over buying flowers and stuff for a party?</p><p>An engaged couple are having a ruff ruff time (I&#39;m sorry!!!!) after the groom-to-be dipped into wedding funds to afford life-saving surgery for his German Shepard.</p><p>Posted it in Reddit&#39;s Relationship Advice forum, a groom-to-be with the username <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ckjpjz/my_fianc%C3%A9e_isnt_speaking_to_me_after_i_used_our/">Unsurebigbig</a> is, well, unsure.</p><h2>The German Shepard (a dog, not a person who herds goats in Germany) was diagnosed with cancer, and needed surgery to remove the tumor.</h2><blockquote> <p>My dog (German Shepard) began acting strangely a few months ago. First couple vet visits didn&rsquo;t show anything until eventually we felt a large lump under his fur which was later identified as a tumor. It was confirmed to be malignant and required surgery to remove completely.</p> <p>The vet I spoke to said it would likely cost over $5000 to remove it completely and there&rsquo;s no guarantee it will be a success. I don&rsquo;t know why the cost was so high, but it didn&rsquo;t matter to me. My dog is my dog and there is no question in my mind that paying for the surgery was the right thing to do.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The groom-to-be used his personal savings to pay for the procedure, and the bride pretty much argued that the dog&#39;s life is not worth saving.</h2><blockquote> <p>I paid for the surgery out of my own savings. This is important. My fianc&eacute;e and I have separate finances and my savings are easily 5x what she had saved up. When she found out how much the surgery cost, she went ballistic that I paid for the surgery without asking her when we&rsquo;re planning a wedding. She says that she will have to downsize her wedding to compensate, and that my dog is already so old (10) the money &ldquo;wouldn&rsquo;t go far.&rdquo; I can&rsquo;t even comprehend how she could say that to me.</p> </blockquote><p>Oh, honey. That seems like a problem beyond the wedding, are you sure that you share the same values?</p><h2>Anyhoo, the couple haven&#39;t been talking about anything other than the garbage.</h2><blockquote> <p>I honestly can&rsquo;t empathise with her here, which has caused a massive rift in a previously amazing relationship. My dog is my dog and he&rsquo;s a member of the family. I refuse to put a few thousand dollars over his well-being. My fiancee is acting as though I&rsquo;m being selfish and that our wedding should come first, since we&rsquo;re starting a family.</p> <p>She hasn&rsquo;t talked to me since other than to tell me to take out the garbage, clean the dishes, etc. If I try to engage conversation she will shut down or walk away. She refuses to talk this over unless I get on my knees, grovel and apologise. I can&rsquo;t bring myself to do this as a matter of principle and self respect.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">Where do you go from here?</span></h2><blockquote> <p><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">So my question for people here is how am I supposed to get her to talk to me and patch things up? I don&rsquo;t want to throwaway the relationship, but at the same time I feel this is something I cannot compromise on...</span></p> </blockquote><p>The groom very clearly painted his fianc&eacute;e as the villain, but Reddit&#39;s relationship gurus are critical of them both.</p><p>They should&rsquo;ve had a discussion about finances and the expense for surgery. Leaving her out of that conversation was a bad decision,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/chuckh8e/">chuckh8e</a> wrote.</p><p>One commenter, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SummerAndTinklesBFF/">SummerAndTinklesBFF</a>, came to the bride&#39;s defense:</p><blockquote> <p>It seems like she is more upset that he didn&rsquo;t even discuss it with her. He made a huge purchase without considering her feelings on the matter or even talking to her about it first. Everyone is saying she&rsquo;s horrible but at the same time he never even gave her the chance to think about it and say okay let&rsquo;s do the surgery, because on a realistic level, cancer in dogs is almost always a death sentence, chemo does not remove it, it only extends their lifespan by a short while and usually they are miserable, he&rsquo;s already 10 years old and many dogs that old of a large breed do not handle surgery well. There are lots of pros and cons.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>&quot;Clearly you have different values than your girlfriend, and I think that&#39;s worth thinking about before you marry her,&quot; said <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ckjpjz/my_fianc%C3%A9e_isnt_speaking_to_me_after_i_used_our/">FlamingoPants42.</a></p><p>When it comes to life-changing decisions like whom to marry, listen to FlamingoPants42.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks for advice after fiancé stops speaking to him because he used wedding funds for dog's surgery.

It is a moral conundrum: if a dog is a man&#39;s best friend, should its health take precedence over the wants of a human fianc&eacute;e? Alternatively, should the ability to save an animal&#39;s life be prioritized over buying flowers and stuff for a party?An engaged couple are having a ruff ruff time (I&#39;m sorry!!!!) after the groom-to-be dipped into wedding funds to afford life-saving surgery for his German Shepard.Posted it in Reddit&#39;s Relationship Advice forum, a groom-to-be with the username Unsurebigbig is, well, unsure.The German Shepard (a dog, not a person who herds goats in Germany) was diagnosed with cancer, and needed surgery to remove the tumor. My dog (German Shepard) began acting strangely a few months ago. First couple vet visits didn&rsquo;t show anything until eventually we felt a large lump under his fur which was later identified as a tumor. It was confirmed to be malignant and required surgery to remove completely. The vet I spoke to said it would likely cost over $5000 to remove it completely and there&rsquo;s no guarantee it will be a success. I don&rsquo;t know why the cost was so high, but it didn&rsquo;t matter to me. My dog is my dog and there is no question in my mind that paying for the surgery was the right thing to do. The groom-to-be used his personal savings to pay for the procedure, and the bride pretty much argued that the dog&#39;s life is not worth saving. I paid for the surgery out of my own savings. This is important. My fianc&eacute;e and I have separate finances and my savings are easily 5x what she had saved up. When she found out how much the surgery cost, she went ballistic that I paid for the surgery without asking her when we&rsquo;re planning a wedding. She says that she will have to downsize her wedding to compensate, and that my dog is already so old (10) the money &ldquo;wouldn&rsquo;t go far.&rdquo; I can&rsquo;t even comprehend how she could say that to me. Oh, honey. That seems like a problem beyond the wedding, are you sure that you share the same values?Anyhoo, the couple haven&#39;t been talking about anything other than the garbage. I honestly can&rsquo;t empathise with her here, which has caused a massive rift in a previously amazing relationship. My dog is my dog and he&rsquo;s a member of the family. I refuse to put a few thousand dollars over his well-being. My fiancee is acting as though I&rsquo;m being selfish and that our wedding should come first, since we&rsquo;re starting a family. She hasn&rsquo;t talked to me since other than to tell me to take out the garbage, clean the dishes, etc. If I try to engage conversation she will shut down or walk away. She refuses to talk this over unless I get on my knees, grovel and apologise. I can&rsquo;t bring myself to do this as a matter of principle and self respect. Where do you go from here? So my question for people here is how am I supposed to get her to talk to me and patch things up? I don&rsquo;t want to throwaway the relationship, but at the same time I feel this is something I cannot compromise on... The groom very clearly painted his fianc&eacute;e as the villain, but Reddit&#39;s relationship gurus are critical of them both.They should&rsquo;ve had a discussion about finances and the expense for surgery. Leaving her out of that conversation was a bad decision,&quot; chuckh8e wrote.One commenter, SummerAndTinklesBFF, came to the bride&#39;s defense: It seems like she is more upset that he didn&rsquo;t even discuss it with her. He made a huge purchase without considering her feelings on the matter or even talking to her about it first. Everyone is saying she&rsquo;s horrible but at the same time he never even gave her the chance to think about it and say okay let&rsquo;s do the surgery, because on a realistic level, cancer in dogs is almost always a death sentence, chemo does not remove it, it only extends their lifespan by a short while and usually they are miserable, he&rsquo;s already 10 years old and many dogs that old of a large breed do not handle surgery well. There are lots of pros and cons. &quot;Clearly you have different values than your girlfriend, and I think that&#39;s worth thinking about before you marry her,&quot; said FlamingoPants42.When it comes to life-changing decisions like whom to marry, listen to FlamingoPants42.

It is a moral conundrum: if a dog is a man&#39;s best friend, should its health take precedence over the wants of a human fianc&eacute;e? Alternatively, should the ability to save an animal&#39;s life be prioritized over buying flowers and...