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<p>The &quot;Am I The Asshole?&quot; forum is the modern day equivalent of going to a priest for Confession, even as the <a href="https://www.huffpost.com/entry/hot-priest-on-fleabag_n_5ce6e48ce4b0cce67c877390">Hot Priest from <em>Fleabag</em></a> has inspired many to fantasize about the Confession Booth. Rather than seek absolution from a clergyman (and therefore, god), people seek absolution on Reddit, and their stories are fascinating to peek into.</p><p>The latest scandalous, allegedly real tale comes from <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ckk464/aita_for_telling_my_brother_that_his_parents_met/">ReadyMaintenance</a>, who is concerned whether they are an a-hole for telling his or her brother that he was product of an affair.</p><h2>Here&#39;s the backstory:</h2><blockquote> <p>My mom discovered my dad was cheating when I was 15. They divorced, my dad married the woman who was then-pregnant with the child they had conceived through the affair. Over time, my mom<strong> </strong>forgave them and I did too. I&rsquo;m not all buddy buddy with my step-mom but I don&rsquo;t hate her like I did when I was a teenager. I also love my brother that came from that relationship to bits and pieces. He&rsquo;s now 20, I am 35. We are very close, despite our age gap. He had no idea of what happened to cause his conception or his parents getting together.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The kid is either bad at math, or doesn&#39;t spend time thinking about his parents doing it. It&#39;s probably the latter.</p><h2>Now it was discovered that the brother&#39;s mother&mdash;and the original poster&#39;s stepmom&mdash;was cheating on their dad.</h2><blockquote> <p>Recently, it came out that my step-mom has been having an affair. It was very public, very nasty and overall just very dramatic. My brother is so upset and was constantly at my place, ranting about how his mom was so terrible and &quot;how could she do this to Dad? Why was Dad staying with her?&quot; He was a mess and I was trying to console him. After a few visits he asked why I was so calm. I blew it off and said &quot;Well, she&rsquo;s not my mom&quot; and he said &quot;Yeah, but it&rsquo;s your dad.&quot; I said he could handle himself. He pressed saying from the minute I found out, I didn&rsquo;t seem surprised. I just ignored him and tried to go on, but he was being pushy. He brought it up over a few days and started asking if his mom had cheated in the past, I said to ask her. He said she wouldn&rsquo;t discuss it. I said, ask Dad then. He won&rsquo;t either. &quot;Fine, then let&rsquo;s discuss something else.&quot; No, he wanted to know. After a week at least of him not letting the subject drop, I finally told him. I said I didn&rsquo;t know if she had cheated on our dad, but that she had helped my dad cheat on my mom. I didn&rsquo;t add that&rsquo;s how he was conceived, I didn&rsquo;t put in a timeline (he doesn&rsquo;t know when my parents divorced so he won&rsquo;t be able to put it together). I said, it was all in the past. He said clearly not, as she was still doing it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The brother seems to be taking it in stride, but now their dad is super angry.</h2><blockquote> <p>My dad is pissed at me, saying I had no right to say it. I said he wouldn&rsquo;t stop asking and it&rsquo;s not as if he has a squeaky clean image of his mom right now as it is. My brother&rsquo;s not even mad at my dad right now, just his mom and I have been trying to convince him to just calm down and talk to her.</p> <p>Was I an ass for exposing this?</p> </blockquote><p>Reddit Court has adjourned, and the majority opinion is that ReadyMaintenance is innocent of assholery.</p><p>Judge <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/yourturnAJ/">yourturnAJ</a> with the majority opinion (1,200 upvotes):</p><blockquote> <p>[Not the Asshole] Your dad cheated on your mom with your stepmom, and your dad is surprised that his shitty choice is coming back to bite him when his new wife (the stepmom) is revealed to be having an affair? Essentially, history just repeated itself. You are nothing other than a person stuck in the middle of adults acting like children. Nothing more, nothing less.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>When a commenter accused the poster of being &quot;a-hole adjacent&quot; for &quot;laying the bait,&quot; they added some context.</p><p>&quot;My brother started the entire conversation by asking why I was calm, then asked if it had happened before?&quot; ReadyMaintenance wrote. &quot;Should i have pretended to be shocked?&quot;</p><p>It&#39;s a shame that the sibling had to step up and do what the boy (well, 20-year-old&#39;s) parents wouldn&#39;t do. Their dad had two decades to address it on his own terms, but when an adult is asking, it&#39;s better not to lie.</p><p>The verdict: NOT THE ASSHOLE.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Sibling asks if they were wrong to tell their half-brother he was the product of an affair.

The &quot;Am I The Asshole?&quot; forum is the modern day equivalent of going to a priest for Confession, even as the Hot Priest from Fleabag has inspired many to fantasize about the Confession Booth. Rather than seek absolution from a clergyman (and therefore, god), people seek absolution on Reddit, and their stories are fascinating to peek into.The latest scandalous, allegedly real tale comes from ReadyMaintenance, who is concerned whether they are an a-hole for telling his or her brother that he was product of an affair.Here&#39;s the backstory: My mom discovered my dad was cheating when I was 15. They divorced, my dad married the woman who was then-pregnant with the child they had conceived through the affair. Over time, my mom forgave them and I did too. I&rsquo;m not all buddy buddy with my step-mom but I don&rsquo;t hate her like I did when I was a teenager. I also love my brother that came from that relationship to bits and pieces. He&rsquo;s now 20, I am 35. We are very close, despite our age gap. He had no idea of what happened to cause his conception or his parents getting together. The kid is either bad at math, or doesn&#39;t spend time thinking about his parents doing it. It&#39;s probably the latter.Now it was discovered that the brother&#39;s mother&mdash;and the original poster&#39;s stepmom&mdash;was cheating on their dad. Recently, it came out that my step-mom has been having an affair. It was very public, very nasty and overall just very dramatic. My brother is so upset and was constantly at my place, ranting about how his mom was so terrible and &quot;how could she do this to Dad? Why was Dad staying with her?&quot; He was a mess and I was trying to console him. After a few visits he asked why I was so calm. I blew it off and said &quot;Well, she&rsquo;s not my mom&quot; and he said &quot;Yeah, but it&rsquo;s your dad.&quot; I said he could handle himself. He pressed saying from the minute I found out, I didn&rsquo;t seem surprised. I just ignored him and tried to go on, but he was being pushy. He brought it up over a few days and started asking if his mom had cheated in the past, I said to ask her. He said she wouldn&rsquo;t discuss it. I said, ask Dad then. He won&rsquo;t either. &quot;Fine, then let&rsquo;s discuss something else.&quot; No, he wanted to know. After a week at least of him not letting the subject drop, I finally told him. I said I didn&rsquo;t know if she had cheated on our dad, but that she had helped my dad cheat on my mom. I didn&rsquo;t add that&rsquo;s how he was conceived, I didn&rsquo;t put in a timeline (he doesn&rsquo;t know when my parents divorced so he won&rsquo;t be able to put it together). I said, it was all in the past. He said clearly not, as she was still doing it. The brother seems to be taking it in stride, but now their dad is super angry. My dad is pissed at me, saying I had no right to say it. I said he wouldn&rsquo;t stop asking and it&rsquo;s not as if he has a squeaky clean image of his mom right now as it is. My brother&rsquo;s not even mad at my dad right now, just his mom and I have been trying to convince him to just calm down and talk to her. Was I an ass for exposing this? Reddit Court has adjourned, and the majority opinion is that ReadyMaintenance is innocent of assholery.Judge yourturnAJ with the majority opinion (1,200 upvotes): [Not the Asshole] Your dad cheated on your mom with your stepmom, and your dad is surprised that his shitty choice is coming back to bite him when his new wife (the stepmom) is revealed to be having an affair? Essentially, history just repeated itself. You are nothing other than a person stuck in the middle of adults acting like children. Nothing more, nothing less. When a commenter accused the poster of being &quot;a-hole adjacent&quot; for &quot;laying the bait,&quot; they added some context.&quot;My brother started the entire conversation by asking why I was calm, then asked if it had happened before?&quot; ReadyMaintenance wrote. &quot;Should i have pretended to be shocked?&quot;It&#39;s a shame that the sibling had to step up and do what the boy (well, 20-year-old&#39;s) parents wouldn&#39;t do. Their dad had two decades to address it on his own terms, but when an adult is asking, it&#39;s better not to lie.The verdict: NOT THE ASSHOLE.

The &quot;Am I The Asshole?&quot; forum is the modern day equivalent of going to a priest for Confession, even as the Hot Priest from Fleabag has inspired many to fantasize about the Confession Booth. Rather than seek absolution from a...