Man shows up to crush's house demanding she pay for cleaning costs from drunk puking.

No one wants vomit on their car.

And driving drunk people is a surefire way to risk vomit in your car.

This brings us to the question of the day: if someone pukes while they're blackout is it their responsibility to pay for damages, or is that simply the risk one takes when driving a wasted person around?

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he's wrong for driving to a woman's house to demand she pay him back for car damages.

He wrote:

AITA for paying a girl multiple visits to her place after she refused to pay for my car after she vomited in it?

The Saturday before last there was a party at my frat. I was told to not drink on my new mood stabilizers so I hadn’t drank any.

Near the end of the night, this one girl who I had been talking to got really really drunk, like too drunk to do anything so I decided it would be best to get her home safely. I offered her and her friends a ride home and they accepted.

It was about a 15-minute drive a few minutes into the drive one said was feeling ill. I pulled over but I couldn’t get her out because she was scared to get out on the side of the road at night.

After another 10 minutes, I stopped trying and got back on the road and got her friends to let her sit by the window and locked the window down. 4 or 5 minutes later, she puked. She didn’t even make an effort to throw her head out the window.

I got them home and walked them upstairs. I walked got the girl's social media so I could contact her because she was going to either pay for my car to be cleaned. Which I don’t think is unreasonable.

So I dropped them off and did my best to clean and got my car professionally cleaned the next day. I messaged her how much it would cost and she never responded. I sent her multiple messages and she never responded.

Eventually, she blocked me on everything and I have no way to contact her, well except one. Going back to their place. Which I did.

The first time I went someone answered the door and I asked for the girl and the person went to go get them for a few minutes and she “wasn’t there”. I visited 3 more times since then and the last time I caught her leaving and confronted her.

She called me a psycho, I told her that she f**ked up my car and I had to pay to get it clean so she needs to pay, and that I wouldn’t be coming here if she simply paid up.

We got into a huge argument before people started coming out and I decided to leave. I feel like she’s painting me as a bad guy when I’ve done nothing wrong and she’s actually the person who’s done bad sh*t. AITA?

This post quickly blew up, with commenters chomping at the bit to share their two cents.

KronkLaSworda wrote:

What you're doing is harassment. There is no other word for it. If you want your money back, then file a claim in small claims court. ESH.

StarlaBloom wrote:

ESH. The courteous thing for her to do would be to pay for cleaning your car. She sucks for avoiding you. However, you took it upon yourself to bring a clearly extremely drunk person into your car, knowing that she very well could get sick.

You were kind to bring her home, but you decided to take that risk. At this point, what you are doing is stalking. I recently learned that you reach a stalking level when 'more than 1 unwanted contact has been made.' You need to let it go.

stannenb wrote:

It’s really hard to be an AH after someone vomits in your car and refuses to pay for it, but, congratulations, you’ve succeeded. ESH.

haplography wrote:

ESH. She should have made some effort to help out with the cost even if she couldn't afford to come up with the money on the spot. You did her and her friends a favor and she took advantage of that.

However, when she blocked you on social media that was your cue to cut your losses. Instead, you showed up at her house MULTIPLE TIMES after she made it clear that she didn't intend to pay you.

You are essentially hoping that stalking and intimidation will inspire her to pay you but it won't.

You'll be lucky if she (or someone else) doesn't call the cops on you if you keep trying. You let her into your car as a nice gesture and you got burned for it, time to learn the lesson and move on.

walnutwithteeth wrote:

NTA but veering into AH territory by going to her property several times. Go via the small claims court if you want to pursue her for the costs. Going loco at her front door just makes you look a few sandwiches short of a picnic.

Deep_yellow_sky wrote:

ESH. She said should pay the cleaning fee, but there’s no way your behavior isn’t bordering on obsessive if you’ve visited 4 times and waited for her (or given the appearance you waited) at least once.

Accept the loss and move on before you invite more trouble into your life.

Looks like this is a lose lose all around, and the easiest recourse is to take the loss and walk.