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<p>Is officiating a wedding a gift in itself? What is the monetary value of a personalized ceremony?</p><p>A person who is slated to officiate their friend&#39;s wedding is wondering what else they must provide in addition to doing the &quot;I Dos.&quot;</p><p>They explained the situation on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tke7i4/wibta_if_i_officiated_a_friends_wedding_for_free/">&quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>A good friend asked me to officiate her wedding, and I agreed. I didn&#39;t ask for payment and she didn&#39;t bring it up. I paid for my own room at the hotel &amp; contributed to the bachelorette party fund. I was planning on my crafting of a ceremony + officiating it would be my gift to the couple. I didn&#39;t attend the bridal shower (or buy a gift for that), because I live really, really far away.</p> </blockquote><p>One of the bridesmaids suggested that officiating the wedding is not the enough, and the rest of the party agrees.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Well, I casually mentioned this plan to my bff, who is one of the bridesmaids, who told me that it would be sh*tty to not also give a traditional gift. BFF blabbed to the rest of the bridal party, who all took it upon themselves to tell me that I really ought to give the bride a material gift and how it would be very shitty not to.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This kind of put me off, because the bridesmaids are all artsy/crafty types that are making gifts for the couple, too. It feels like a double standard.</p> </blockquote><p>With the bridal party making their point incredibly clear, the officiant turned to Reddit:</p><blockquote> <p>Am I going to come off as a huge a**hole if I don&#39;t buy (or make) a gift in addition to gifting my officiant services? I think that crafting a personalized ceremony for my dear friend (I&#39;ve known her half my life and the groom for their entire relationship) and officiating their wedding is a pretty decent gift. They are all Southerners (USA) and I was raised in a culture with pretty different etiquette, so I&#39;m not sure what to do here.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Ultimately, I want my friend - who is not materialistic at all - to feel happy and supported on her wedding day. Throwing some $$$ into the honeymoon fund account doesn&#39;t feel very personal. Not to mention, there are 250 guests at this wedding and I doubt she will even notice.</p> </blockquote><p>Commenters contradicted the bridal party and assured the officiant that being the officiant is sufficient (say that ten times fast).</p><p>&quot;NTA (Not The A**hole). I think officiating at a very personal wedding for 2 people you know well, is a great gift. Who needs more stuff anyway?&quot; <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ducky818/">Ducky818</a> ruled.</p><p>&quot;NTA. I have officiated for friends for free as my gift as well. I never saw an issue with it and neither did they. In fact, they were all very appreciative of the contribution since hiring an outside officiant cost money,&quot; <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Gizmoripley87/">Gizmoripley87</a> pointed out.</p><p>&quot;NTA you are traveling to this wedding and officiating for free, there&rsquo;s your gift. No one else&rsquo;s opinions really matter,&quot; <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/black_cat_2446/">black_cat_2446</a> summed it up.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Perhaps the bridesmaids were simply being salty because they were jealous that the officiant gets to be in all the pictures. There&#39;s no wedding gift better than the wedding itself.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Wedding officiant asks if they also have to get the couple a 'traditional gift.'

Is officiating a wedding a gift in itself? What is the monetary value of a personalized ceremony?A person who is slated to officiate their friend&#39;s wedding is wondering what else they must provide in addition to doing the &quot;I Dos.&quot;They explained the situation on &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;: A good friend asked me to officiate her wedding, and I agreed. I didn&#39;t ask for payment and she didn&#39;t bring it up. I paid for my own room at the hotel &amp; contributed to the bachelorette party fund. I was planning on my crafting of a ceremony + officiating it would be my gift to the couple. I didn&#39;t attend the bridal shower (or buy a gift for that), because I live really, really far away. One of the bridesmaids suggested that officiating the wedding is not the enough, and the rest of the party agrees. Well, I casually mentioned this plan to my bff, who is one of the bridesmaids, who told me that it would be sh*tty to not also give a traditional gift. BFF blabbed to the rest of the bridal party, who all took it upon themselves to tell me that I really ought to give the bride a material gift and how it would be very shitty not to.  This kind of put me off, because the bridesmaids are all artsy/crafty types that are making gifts for the couple, too. It feels like a double standard. With the bridal party making their point incredibly clear, the officiant turned to Reddit: Am I going to come off as a huge a**hole if I don&#39;t buy (or make) a gift in addition to gifting my officiant services? I think that crafting a personalized ceremony for my dear friend (I&#39;ve known her half my life and the groom for their entire relationship) and officiating their wedding is a pretty decent gift. They are all Southerners (USA) and I was raised in a culture with pretty different etiquette, so I&#39;m not sure what to do here.  Ultimately, I want my friend - who is not materialistic at all - to feel happy and supported on her wedding day. Throwing some $$$ into the honeymoon fund account doesn&#39;t feel very personal. Not to mention, there are 250 guests at this wedding and I doubt she will even notice. Commenters contradicted the bridal party and assured the officiant that being the officiant is sufficient (say that ten times fast).&quot;NTA (Not The A**hole). I think officiating at a very personal wedding for 2 people you know well, is a great gift. Who needs more stuff anyway?&quot; Ducky818 ruled.&quot;NTA. I have officiated for friends for free as my gift as well. I never saw an issue with it and neither did they. In fact, they were all very appreciative of the contribution since hiring an outside officiant cost money,&quot; Gizmoripley87 pointed out.&quot;NTA you are traveling to this wedding and officiating for free, there&rsquo;s your gift. No one else&rsquo;s opinions really matter,&quot; black_cat_2446 summed it up.Perhaps the bridesmaids were simply being salty because they were jealous that the officiant gets to be in all the pictures. There&#39;s no wedding gift better than the wedding itself.

Is officiating a wedding a gift in itself? What is the monetary value of a personalized ceremony?  A person who is slated to officiate their friend&#39;s wedding is wondering what else they must provide in addition to doing the &quot;I...