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<p>It&#39;s a classic He Posted, She Posted.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eoley4/aita_i_38_m_for_telling_my_fiancee_f_27her/">A guy&#39;s post on Reddit </a>complaining about his fianc&eacute;&#39;s dream wedding dress resulted in the wedding being called off.</p><p>The saga begins&mdash;like most internet dramas do&mdash;with a man kvetching about his partner, a woman who is a decade younger. Because his fianc&eacute; Emma has a Reddit account, he made a throwaway profile called &quot;<a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/josh8449/">josh8449</a>.&quot; He might have been smart enough to change his name, but not smart enough to change hers.</p><p>The dude, who claims to be 38, asked, &quot;Am I the a-hole for telling my fiancee [a 27-year-old female] her wedding dress choice is way too extravagant and suggesting alternatives?&quot;</p><p>He opens the post by explaining how fiscally responsible he is, especially compared to his betrothed:</p><blockquote> <p>We are getting married in July of this year, the venue is booked and the wedding is pretty much sorted. Emma has been researching dresses and has a little scrap book of lots of dresses she likes for ideas but is now looking to buy.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>All that&#39;s left to get is the bridesmaid dresses and her wedding dress. We jointly put aside 10k each for the wedding, everything is paid and we have 6k left over which i think could go towards the honeymoon on top of the honeymoon fund we already had.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We aren&#39;t the extravagant type at all, then comes the time for Emma to pick her dress. I know everything is more expensive when it has the term wedding attached to it what i wasn&#39;t expecting was an $950 dress plus $120 veil!</p> </blockquote><p>He then explains just how little his outfit will cost (it&#39;s free), and just how much of a &quot;diva&quot; Emma is being by wanting a wedding dress that&#39;s over $100 and fitted:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m using my dad&#39;s old tux he used for his wedding to my mom, just had it taken in a little, Emma can&#39;t use her mum&#39;s dress as her and her mum both say the style hasn&#39;t aged well which is fair. I had a quick Google around at dresses online and there were so many! And so many just like the one emma wants for like $50 to $100.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m not trying to get her to cheap out on her dress but she will literally wear it once, one dress for over $1000 is just insane that would fund our honeymoon . I tried to show her some dresses i found on a recommended app called Wish and others on websites but she was having none of it. She is very slender but apparently wants it specially fitted?</p> </blockquote><p>While Emma argues that it&#39;s her prerogative to buy a wedding dress-price level wedding dress because it&#39;s her own money, Josh argues that it&#39;s not exactly <em>her </em>money because it&#39;ll become his money as soon as they are wed.</p><blockquote> <p>It turned nasty unfortunately because i said i refuse to drop such a large amount of money on a dress and she argued that she is using her own money for the dress. Which isn&#39;t strictly true as we ate about to marry and our finances will be joined.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Then her mom had to get involved, they offered to pay for the dress but it&#39;s not a case of not being able to afford it. It&#39;s a dress! there are identical one&#39;s online at a fraction of the cost. I thought she would be ecstatic to learn there are identical dresses for a fraction of the cost but she was really angry and upset.</p> </blockquote><p>Now here&#39;s the part where he asks if he&#39;s an a-hole:</p><blockquote> <p>AITA here? Is there something I am seriously missing because after we argued about the dress Emma has been extremely cold towards me. Then yesterday she said if i want her to cheap out on her wedding dress on her wedding day that she needs to really consider if we are a good match for marriage.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m blown away that she would say that over a dress, I told her she&#39;s like a toddler throwing a tantrum over a sparkly toy she can&#39;t have, that was a mistake as she left to stay with her parent&#39;s, who called to tell me I am much more than an a**hole.</p> <p>AITA here?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The AITA jury responded with a resounding &quot;YES!&quot;</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;[You&#39;re The A**hole]. You say you don&#39;t want her to cheap out, but then you say you want her to buy a $50 -$100 wedding dress. That&#39;s cheap. That&#39;s cheap even for a regular dress.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Those cheap dresses you&#39;re finding online will look terrible in person and are the source of so many disappointed women and jokes. Wedding dresses and their tailoring are expensive. $1000 is actually a low priced dress,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/milee30/">milee30</a> calmly explained.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;Regardless of dress type, though, your reaction to her - calling her names and deciding you have veto power - is the real problem. You should be solving this issue together. If you can&#39;t, maybe it&#39;s not time to get married yet.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>Now here&#39;s the part where it gets juicier than your average post: despite the fool-proof method of describing their exact situation under a different username, Emma saw the post, so Josh provided an update:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>EDIT: Emma found this thread, it was a mistake to post here and im sorry i posted our problems on reddit, [I Am The A**hole]</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://twitter.com/redditships/status/1217541850451660802?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1217541850451660802&amp;ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Fpublish.twitter.com%2F%3Fquery%3Dhttps%253A%252F%252Ftwitter.com%252Fredditships%252Fstatus%252F1217541850451660802%26widget%3DTweet">A Redditor claiming to be Emma posted on r/Relationships </a>explaining why she called off the wedding, and that the original poster lied about her age.</p><p>The now-deleted post is called &quot;Me [23 F] with my fiancee [43 M] of 1 and a half years, he has humiliated me just a few months before our wedding over my dress and I don&#39;t know what to do.&quot;</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;I picked a very simple and traditional gown that was already discounted as it is a...sample gown. My absolute idiot of a fiancee decided to post to a subreddit asking for opinions, or more likely validation, on whether I was being unreasonable,&quot; she wrote. &quot;My dress is under 1000 dollars but will come to around 1500 with alterations.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>She found the thread not only because it included her real name, but &quot;his throwaway was his real name followed by his alarm pin!&quot;</p><p>Josh denied making the post, but Emma said that it&#39;s not the first time he kvetched about her on Reddit.</p><p>&quot;He got utterly [hammered] last night and called my parents, my dad had to hang up on him because he was screaming down the phone and my mom was disgusted,&quot; she added.</p><div> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-conversation="none"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">The full update post: <a href="https://t.co/63EJYAR1Eq">pic.twitter.com/63EJYAR1Eq</a></p> &mdash; relationships.txt (@redditships) <a href="https://twitter.com/redditships/status/1217541850451660802?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 15, 2020</a></blockquote> <script async="" charset="utf-8" src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js"></script></div><p>The whole story is sad and scary, and this Josh guy frankly sucks.</p><p>Emma deserves an age-appropriate dude who won&#39;t undermine her at every turn, while trying to rally the internet against her.</p><p>As do you, dear reader. Nobody deserves a Josh.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for refusing to let fiancé buy the wedding dress she wants.

It&#39;s a classic He Posted, She Posted.A guy&#39;s post on Reddit complaining about his fianc&eacute;&#39;s dream wedding dress resulted in the wedding being called off.The saga begins&mdash;like most internet dramas do&mdash;with a man kvetching about his partner, a woman who is a decade younger. Because his fianc&eacute; Emma has a Reddit account, he made a throwaway profile called &quot;josh8449.&quot; He might have been smart enough to change his name, but not smart enough to change hers.The dude, who claims to be 38, asked, &quot;Am I the a-hole for telling my fiancee [a 27-year-old female] her wedding dress choice is way too extravagant and suggesting alternatives?&quot;He opens the post by explaining how fiscally responsible he is, especially compared to his betrothed: We are getting married in July of this year, the venue is booked and the wedding is pretty much sorted. Emma has been researching dresses and has a little scrap book of lots of dresses she likes for ideas but is now looking to buy.  All that&#39;s left to get is the bridesmaid dresses and her wedding dress. We jointly put aside 10k each for the wedding, everything is paid and we have 6k left over which i think could go towards the honeymoon on top of the honeymoon fund we already had.  We aren&#39;t the extravagant type at all, then comes the time for Emma to pick her dress. I know everything is more expensive when it has the term wedding attached to it what i wasn&#39;t expecting was an $950 dress plus $120 veil! He then explains just how little his outfit will cost (it&#39;s free), and just how much of a &quot;diva&quot; Emma is being by wanting a wedding dress that&#39;s over $100 and fitted: I&#39;m using my dad&#39;s old tux he used for his wedding to my mom, just had it taken in a little, Emma can&#39;t use her mum&#39;s dress as her and her mum both say the style hasn&#39;t aged well which is fair. I had a quick Google around at dresses online and there were so many! And so many just like the one emma wants for like $50 to $100.  I&#39;m not trying to get her to cheap out on her dress but she will literally wear it once, one dress for over $1000 is just insane that would fund our honeymoon . I tried to show her some dresses i found on a recommended app called Wish and others on websites but she was having none of it. She is very slender but apparently wants it specially fitted? While Emma argues that it&#39;s her prerogative to buy a wedding dress-price level wedding dress because it&#39;s her own money, Josh argues that it&#39;s not exactly her money because it&#39;ll become his money as soon as they are wed. It turned nasty unfortunately because i said i refuse to drop such a large amount of money on a dress and she argued that she is using her own money for the dress. Which isn&#39;t strictly true as we ate about to marry and our finances will be joined.  Then her mom had to get involved, they offered to pay for the dress but it&#39;s not a case of not being able to afford it. It&#39;s a dress! there are identical one&#39;s online at a fraction of the cost. I thought she would be ecstatic to learn there are identical dresses for a fraction of the cost but she was really angry and upset. Now here&#39;s the part where he asks if he&#39;s an a-hole: AITA here? Is there something I am seriously missing because after we argued about the dress Emma has been extremely cold towards me. Then yesterday she said if i want her to cheap out on her wedding dress on her wedding day that she needs to really consider if we are a good match for marriage.  I&#39;m blown away that she would say that over a dress, I told her she&#39;s like a toddler throwing a tantrum over a sparkly toy she can&#39;t have, that was a mistake as she left to stay with her parent&#39;s, who called to tell me I am much more than an a**hole. AITA here? The AITA jury responded with a resounding &quot;YES!&quot; &quot;[You&#39;re The A**hole]. You say you don&#39;t want her to cheap out, but then you say you want her to buy a $50 -$100 wedding dress. That&#39;s cheap. That&#39;s cheap even for a regular dress.  Those cheap dresses you&#39;re finding online will look terrible in person and are the source of so many disappointed women and jokes. Wedding dresses and their tailoring are expensive. $1000 is actually a low priced dress,&quot; milee30 calmly explained.  &quot;Regardless of dress type, though, your reaction to her - calling her names and deciding you have veto power - is the real problem. You should be solving this issue together. If you can&#39;t, maybe it&#39;s not time to get married yet.&quot; Now here&#39;s the part where it gets juicier than your average post: despite the fool-proof method of describing their exact situation under a different username, Emma saw the post, so Josh provided an update: EDIT: Emma found this thread, it was a mistake to post here and im sorry i posted our problems on reddit, [I Am The A**hole] A Redditor claiming to be Emma posted on r/Relationships explaining why she called off the wedding, and that the original poster lied about her age.The now-deleted post is called &quot;Me [23 F] with my fiancee [43 M] of 1 and a half years, he has humiliated me just a few months before our wedding over my dress and I don&#39;t know what to do.&quot; &quot;I picked a very simple and traditional gown that was already discounted as it is a...sample gown. My absolute idiot of a fiancee decided to post to a subreddit asking for opinions, or more likely validation, on whether I was being unreasonable,&quot; she wrote. &quot;My dress is under 1000 dollars but will come to around 1500 with alterations.&quot; She found the thread not only because it included her real name, but &quot;his throwaway was his real name followed by his alarm pin!&quot;Josh denied making the post, but Emma said that it&#39;s not the first time he kvetched about her on Reddit.&quot;He got utterly [hammered] last night and called my parents, my dad had to hang up on him because he was screaming down the phone and my mom was disgusted,&quot; she added.  The full update post: pic.twitter.com/63EJYAR1Eq &mdash; relationships.txt (@redditships) January 15, 2020 The whole story is sad and scary, and this Josh guy frankly sucks.Emma deserves an age-appropriate dude who won&#39;t undermine her at every turn, while trying to rally the internet against her.As do you, dear reader. Nobody deserves a Josh.

It&#39;s a classic He Posted, She Posted.  A guy&#39;s post on Reddit complaining about his fianc&eacute;&#39;s dream wedding dress resulted in the wedding being called off.  The saga begins&mdash;like most internet dramas do&mdash;with a...