Groom asks if he was wrong to yell at sister for breastfeeding at his wedding.
Breastfeeding is a weirdly controversial topic. Babies need to eat, and parents that choose to breastfeed should be allowed to do it wherever they want. It's not a disgusting thing to do, nor do you have to stare and watch a parent breastfeed like a weird pervert. Yet people still think breastfeeding in public is obscene.
We see one pair of siblings fight over this topic on a popular Reddit thread in the Am I The A**hole Subreddit, where a man asks if he was wrong for telling his sister she embarassed him when she breastfed at his wedding.
AITA for calling out my sister for breastfeeding at my wedding?
OP is a new uncle!
My (34m) sister gave birth two months ago. She brought the baby to my wife (23f) and I's wedding.
And he seems to want to tell us that his sister is a good mom.
She breastfeeds whenever she goes. When we visit her house, she'll breastfeed in front of us. When we see our parents, she'll breastfeed. When we go out in public together, she'll sit on a bench in the park and breastfeed. When we're at a restaurant, she breastfeeds.
In hindsight, I don't think OP thought that was good mothering.
I've never spoken to her about it because I know she'll get mad and offended, but I lost my cool when she did that at my wedding. During the reception dinner, she just did it again. I kindly approached her and asked her why she didn't bring formula or at least bump milk out and put it in the bottle so she wouldn't have to do all this at that moment.
Yes, because nothing is more embarrassing than being a woman and having a body.
She said, 'because I don't have to. I feel comfortable breastfeeding. Getting milk out on my own is more painful'. She then said she couldn't do much about it because the baby had to have her milk.
I said she could make this sacrifice and compromise for one day instead of doing this in front of 250 guests at my wedding. I told her she should be more thoughtful of that instead of thoroughly embarrassing herself and us.
OP has a good wife and parents.
I told my wife the deal, and she said I'm an AH and should immediately apologize to my sister. My parents also sided with my sister, and now everyone thinks I'm an AH since I'm the only person with a problem with it.
I decided to call her out because I considered it bad etiquette and tacky to do that at a formal event and that she could find another solution for that night. AITA?
IT_Librarian thinks OP is lucky his sister even showed up.
YTA (You're the A**hole). Your sister deserves a hug and gratitude for making an effort to attend your wedding with a 2-month-old.
ivylass thinks everyone deserves to eat at a wedding.
YTA. I assume you fed your guests? That includes your nephew.
MelonSegment says age is not just a number.
YTA.
God, what is it with all the guys who marry women much younger than them? They all seem to be immature and controlling in the same way!
'Everyone thinks I'm the AH because I'm the only person who had a problem with it.' -- and they're right.