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<blockquote> <h2>&ldquo;When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.&rdquo; -Maya Angelo</h2> </blockquote>Far too often we miss the warning signs when we first start dating someone. Maybe we&rsquo;re blinded by love (or lust.) Maybe our need to see the good in everyone causes us to make excuses for those little warning pangs we get when someone rubs us the wrong way. Being able to spot red flags early on in a relationship will save you months, maybe even years, of torment. So how do we pick up on red flags, and what are the biggest ones?<h2>Someone on Reddit <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/v21vid/what_is_a_red_flag_that_is_way_too_common_in/">asked,</a> &quot;What is a red flag that is way too common in dating?&quot; The replies are not only relatable, they may help you avoid crashing and burning with some toxic person in your next relationship.</h2> 1. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/this_name_is_banned/">this_name_is_banned</a><blockquote> When they keep talking about their ex., especially on the first date. Either they&#39;re still in love, or they hold too tightly to their baggage. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>2. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LaptopFracker/">LaptopFracker</a><blockquote> The inability to apologize for anything ever. Finding out what your weaknesses/fears are and using them to manipulate the relationship. </blockquote>3. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sideways_fridays/">sideways_fridays</a><blockquote> &quot;Testing&quot; or whatever its called. Manipulative &quot;I just wanted to see how you&#39;d react&quot; debauchery. </blockquote>4. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SuvenPan/">SuvenPan</a> <blockquote> If they repeatedly make fun of you in front of others and then say they were just joking. </blockquote>5. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Dirtym3xi/">Dirtym3xi</a><blockquote> Double standards. You can do whatever you want all you want, but if I do the exact same thing all hell breaks loose. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>6.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dalorna/">dalorna</a><blockquote> One self-entitlement phase I know is, &quot;I have no filter&quot;... This is a major red flag... A person who says that, is just a bad person and probably not worth your time. </blockquote>7. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/waqasnaseem07/">waqasnaseem07</a><blockquote> &quot;Do you like your friends more or me? - Jealousy or invasion of privacy too quickly </blockquote>8.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Loggerdon/">Loggerdon</a><blockquote> I picked up a pretty girl for a date. She looks amazing but when we get a couple blocks from her house she says &quot;I&#39;m feeling kind of like a bitch so if I act that way tonight you just have to put up with it&quot;. I nod and wordlessly make a left turn. Then another left turn. Then another left turn and we are back on her block. As I pull up to her house she says &quot;WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING!&quot;. I say (without looking at her) &quot;Well you said you weren&#39;t feeling well&quot; and I continue to stare straight ahead. Then she slowly gets out and as I pull away I hear her scream &quot;YOU&#39;RE A FUCKING ASSHOLE!&quot; I went straight to my buddy&#39;s house and we walked to the bar and got drunk. It was awesome. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>9. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Miserable-Balance-16/">Miserable-Balance-16</a><blockquote> Ooh, this is good. I RUN from people that say they get bored easily. I could live on a mountain top by myself with a book by myself. I don&rsquo;t need to be someone&rsquo;s performer/clown. </blockquote>10. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/blueeyesredlipstick/">blueeyesredlipstick</a><blockquote> Going out with someone who never asks you about yourself or listens to anything about you, even something as simple as how your day was. </blockquote><blockquote> What sucks is that you then spend a whole date listening to them talk, and they tend to think those dates went so well! They got to talk the whole time! </blockquote>11.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BUR6S/">BUR6S</a><blockquote> Those fucking videos of people &ldquo;pranking&rdquo; their SO telling them they cheated on them, and then laughing at their devastated reaction. That&rsquo;s an instant break-up if anybody did that to me. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>12.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/zazzlekdazzle/">zazzlekdazzle</a><blockquote> Tepid interest. </blockquote><blockquote> This sounds so obvious, but I think everyone has gone on way too many dates or generally let things go too far with someone you felt just wasn&#39;t really all into it. </blockquote><blockquote> Really, life is too short to have dates that aren&#39;t really interested in you. I know people who have had whole relationships like this, it can go on for months or even years with the other person (the non-tepid one) basically maintaining the relationship and doing all the work, waiting the other person to come around. </blockquote>13. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WeakUnderstander/">WeakUnderstander</a><blockquote> In the early stages of the relationship, an ex of mine asked me a question on the origin of a pop culture reference, which I answered. It left a weird feeling in my gut when he then said &ldquo;I already knew, I was just seeing if you did&rdquo; BUT I ignored it. Narcissism at its sleaziest in that man. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>14. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Festygrrl/">Festygrrl</a><blockquote> All of their exes are crazy. All of them.` </blockquote>15. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/That_GareBear/">That_GareBear</a><blockquote> Shitty people tend to hang with other shitty people. If you notice all of your S/Os friends are kinda shitty, then S/O may be kinda shitty but on good behavior for someone new. </blockquote>16.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Necromancer4276/">Necromancer4276</a><blockquote> Playing hard to get. Hard to get = hard to want. </blockquote>17. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/fan_of_hakiksexydays/">fan_of_hakiksexydays</a><blockquote> When they flip out if you don&#39;t answer every text within seconds. Or they flip out if you are busy with work or occasionally doing something that&#39;s not for them. Or you occasionally talk to your family or your friends. That&#39;s a sign of someone that thinks you are a possession and your time isn&#39;t valuable. It&#39;s also one of the signs of a narcissist. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

17 people share their biggest dating red flags.

 &ldquo;When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.&rdquo; -Maya Angelo Far too often we miss the warning signs when we first start dating someone. Maybe we&rsquo;re blinded by love (or lust.) Maybe our need to see the good in everyone causes us to make excuses for those little warning pangs we get when someone rubs us the wrong way. Being able to spot red flags early on in a relationship will save you months, maybe even years, of torment. So how do we pick up on red flags, and what are the biggest ones?Someone on Reddit asked, &quot;What is a red flag that is way too common in dating?&quot; The replies are not only relatable, they may help you avoid crashing and burning with some toxic person in your next relationship. 1. this_name_is_banned When they keep talking about their ex., especially on the first date. Either they&#39;re still in love, or they hold too tightly to their baggage. 2. LaptopFracker The inability to apologize for anything ever. Finding out what your weaknesses/fears are and using them to manipulate the relationship. 3. sideways_fridays &quot;Testing&quot; or whatever its called. Manipulative &quot;I just wanted to see how you&#39;d react&quot; debauchery. 4. SuvenPan  If they repeatedly make fun of you in front of others and then say they were just joking. 5. Dirtym3xi Double standards. You can do whatever you want all you want, but if I do the exact same thing all hell breaks loose. 6.dalorna One self-entitlement phase I know is, &quot;I have no filter&quot;... This is a major red flag... A person who says that, is just a bad person and probably not worth your time. 7. waqasnaseem07 &quot;Do you like your friends more or me? - Jealousy or invasion of privacy too quickly 8.Loggerdon I picked up a pretty girl for a date. She looks amazing but when we get a couple blocks from her house she says &quot;I&#39;m feeling kind of like a bitch so if I act that way tonight you just have to put up with it&quot;. I nod and wordlessly make a left turn. Then another left turn. Then another left turn and we are back on her block. As I pull up to her house she says &quot;WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING!&quot;. I say (without looking at her) &quot;Well you said you weren&#39;t feeling well&quot; and I continue to stare straight ahead. Then she slowly gets out and as I pull away I hear her scream &quot;YOU&#39;RE A FUCKING ASSHOLE!&quot; I went straight to my buddy&#39;s house and we walked to the bar and got drunk. It was awesome. 9. Miserable-Balance-16 Ooh, this is good. I RUN from people that say they get bored easily. I could live on a mountain top by myself with a book by myself. I don&rsquo;t need to be someone&rsquo;s performer/clown. 10. blueeyesredlipstick Going out with someone who never asks you about yourself or listens to anything about you, even something as simple as how your day was.  What sucks is that you then spend a whole date listening to them talk, and they tend to think those dates went so well! They got to talk the whole time! 11.BUR6S Those fucking videos of people &ldquo;pranking&rdquo; their SO telling them they cheated on them, and then laughing at their devastated reaction. That&rsquo;s an instant break-up if anybody did that to me. 12.zazzlekdazzle Tepid interest.  This sounds so obvious, but I think everyone has gone on way too many dates or generally let things go too far with someone you felt just wasn&#39;t really all into it.  Really, life is too short to have dates that aren&#39;t really interested in you. I know people who have had whole relationships like this, it can go on for months or even years with the other person (the non-tepid one) basically maintaining the relationship and doing all the work, waiting the other person to come around. 13. WeakUnderstander In the early stages of the relationship, an ex of mine asked me a question on the origin of a pop culture reference, which I answered. It left a weird feeling in my gut when he then said &ldquo;I already knew, I was just seeing if you did&rdquo; BUT I ignored it. Narcissism at its sleaziest in that man. 14. Festygrrl All of their exes are crazy. All of them.` 15. That_GareBear Shitty people tend to hang with other shitty people. If you notice all of your S/Os friends are kinda shitty, then S/O may be kinda shitty but on good behavior for someone new. 16.Necromancer4276 Playing hard to get. Hard to get = hard to want. 17. fan_of_hakiksexydays When they flip out if you don&#39;t answer every text within seconds. Or they flip out if you are busy with work or occasionally doing something that&#39;s not for them. Or you occasionally talk to your family or your friends. That&#39;s a sign of someone that thinks you are a possession and your time isn&#39;t valuable. It&#39;s also one of the signs of a narcissist. 

&ldquo;When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.&rdquo; -Maya Angelo   Far too often we miss the warning signs when we first start dating someone. Maybe we&rsquo;re blinded by love (or lust.) Maybe our need to see the...

17 people share their biggest dating red flags.

“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” -Maya Angelo

Someone on Reddit asked, "What is a red flag that is way too common in dating?" The replies are not only relatable, they may help you avoid crashing and burning with some toxic person in your next relationship.