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<h2>AITA for calling my husband &#39;insane&#39; for missing work just to teach me a lesson because I didn&#39;t iron his uniform?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (SAHM with 3 kids) was in the midst of doing laundry when my husband (breadwinner, works as a pilot) asked if I could iron his uniform before his shift. I didn&#39;t say &quot;yes&quot; because I was busy (laundry then kids homework then cooking etc...). I said I may not find the time to to do it. He turned around and walked away completely ignoring what I was saying.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>An hour later, he came downstairs freaking out asking why I didn&#39;t iron his uniform when he asked me to. I told him I was busy and reminded him of how I didn&#39;t say yes to his request.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He blew up saying that I obviously don&#39;t care about him displaying &quot;professionalism&quot; at work (um..it&#39;s just a uniform? It&#39;s not like it was dirty just needed some ironing). He lectured me about how his work is important and although I&#39;m a SAHM I still should make his job a priority.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>He decided to miss his shift as a way to &quot;teach me a lesson&quot; and show me how my lack of cooperation and my refusal to help him out could affect the money that keeps coming in. I called him &#39;insane&#39; for missing the shift, and he got offended and called me a hypocrite for calling him insane and acting all surprised when it was me who caused this situation to happen.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I mean I could have taken some time off doing my chores to iron his uniform, but still thought his reaction was a bit much. AITA?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>For those asking why he didn&#39;t iron the uniform himself? Because I&#39;m the one who usually do the ironing and he said it&#39;s &quot;on the list&quot; of my house chores list which&#39;s true, but I don&#39;t give it priority like other chores like homework or laundry.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Questions, answers and comments:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Rohini_rambles/">Rohini_rambles</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>OP&#39;s husband sounds like the type to financially abuse and punish OP for any imaginary transgression. Does he get violent with you OP? Yell a lot? Yell at the kids? Has he been a good husband and father?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/throwRa6546009/">throwRa6546009</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Thing is he&#39;s known to be petty and is prone to exaggeration all the time which&#39;s frustrating.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TermsNcond/">TermsNcond</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Offer to call his boss to personally apologize and explain why he missed his shift. He didn&#39;t go to work to teach you a lesson for not ironing his uniform.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Sabatiea/">Sabatiea</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>For me, anytime an adult says they are/want to &#39;teach a lesson&#39; to another adult is a massive red flag and just cause to distance yourself away from them, if not to leave all together.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kitty_meouw/">kitty_meouw</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;Attention passengers of Flight 123XYZ, unfortunately your flight has been cancelled because your pilot - while perfectly capable of operating a highly complex 450 ton machine - was not able to iron his work shirt, and therefore had to stay home to sulk. Our sincere apologies for the inconvenience.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DynkoFromTheNorth/">DynkoFromTheNorth</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Holy sh*t. Run like <em>HELL</em>, OP! This is a disaster waiting to happen! Your husband is a manipulative narcissist! He&#39;s gonna get reprimanded or even fired abd will blame you for it?! NTA. Get rid of him. He&#39;ll start to become more and more controlling as time progresses.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

SAHM refuses to iron husband's uniform, so he skips work to 'teach her a lesson.'

AITA for calling my husband &#39;insane&#39; for missing work just to teach me a lesson because I didn&#39;t iron his uniform? I (SAHM with 3 kids) was in the midst of doing laundry when my husband (breadwinner, works as a pilot) asked if I could iron his uniform before his shift. I didn&#39;t say &quot;yes&quot; because I was busy (laundry then kids homework then cooking etc...). I said I may not find the time to to do it. He turned around and walked away completely ignoring what I was saying.  An hour later, he came downstairs freaking out asking why I didn&#39;t iron his uniform when he asked me to. I told him I was busy and reminded him of how I didn&#39;t say yes to his request.  He blew up saying that I obviously don&#39;t care about him displaying &quot;professionalism&quot; at work (um..it&#39;s just a uniform? It&#39;s not like it was dirty just needed some ironing). He lectured me about how his work is important and although I&#39;m a SAHM I still should make his job a priority.  He decided to miss his shift as a way to &quot;teach me a lesson&quot; and show me how my lack of cooperation and my refusal to help him out could affect the money that keeps coming in. I called him &#39;insane&#39; for missing the shift, and he got offended and called me a hypocrite for calling him insane and acting all surprised when it was me who caused this situation to happen.  I mean I could have taken some time off doing my chores to iron his uniform, but still thought his reaction was a bit much. AITA?  For those asking why he didn&#39;t iron the uniform himself? Because I&#39;m the one who usually do the ironing and he said it&#39;s &quot;on the list&quot; of my house chores list which&#39;s true, but I don&#39;t give it priority like other chores like homework or laundry. Questions, answers and comments:Rohini_rambles says: OP&#39;s husband sounds like the type to financially abuse and punish OP for any imaginary transgression. Does he get violent with you OP? Yell a lot? Yell at the kids? Has he been a good husband and father? throwRa6546009 says: Thing is he&#39;s known to be petty and is prone to exaggeration all the time which&#39;s frustrating. TermsNcond says: NTA. Offer to call his boss to personally apologize and explain why he missed his shift. He didn&#39;t go to work to teach you a lesson for not ironing his uniform. Sabatiea says: For me, anytime an adult says they are/want to &#39;teach a lesson&#39; to another adult is a massive red flag and just cause to distance yourself away from them, if not to leave all together. kitty_meouw says: &quot;Attention passengers of Flight 123XYZ, unfortunately your flight has been cancelled because your pilot - while perfectly capable of operating a highly complex 450 ton machine - was not able to iron his work shirt, and therefore had to stay home to sulk. Our sincere apologies for the inconvenience.&quot; DynkoFromTheNorth says: Holy sh*t. Run like HELL, OP! This is a disaster waiting to happen! Your husband is a manipulative narcissist! He&#39;s gonna get reprimanded or even fired abd will blame you for it?! NTA. Get rid of him. He&#39;ll start to become more and more controlling as time progresses. 

AITA for calling my husband &#39;insane&#39; for missing work just to teach me a lesson because I didn&#39;t iron his uniform?   I (SAHM with 3 kids) was in the midst of doing laundry when my husband (breadwinner, works as a pilot) asked...