Man asks if he's wrong to refuse to give his wife her preferred drinking water.
Being in a marriage is difficult, especially when it comes to managing money. When you're married, you're essentially a financial unit, so each member of the couple should have some say in what to spend money on.
But can you ever cut your significant other some slack when it comes to spending, especially if it's on something they love? When this husband gets upset with his wife for drinking extremely expensive water, he takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:
'AITA for refusing my wife water?'
I know the title sounds bad but hear me out. My wife (29f) has a strange preference in water. - throw5w6way
Okay, how weird can this water really be?
She always drinks unflavored seltzer water, but instead of just drinking it normally she opens the cans first and then waits for all the bubbles to fizz out before drinking any of them. It’s just such a financial waste since she’s essentially drinking regular water at this point but for such a higher price.
Oh, okay, so it's SELTZER? Dude....
My wife always argues that it just tastes fresher and crisper after being left out opened. I normally do the grocery shopping and last week when I went I did not but any seltzer.
When I got home my wife asked where the seltzer was (she had added it to the shopping list). When I explained that I hadn’t bought any she immediately went red in the face but didn’t really say anything.
Seltzer shame can be intense...
Later that day, I went to the gym and when I got back, our kitchen was decked out with seltzer cans. I could barely open the pantry because there were so many packs of seltzer (there were at least 25 boxes worth).
My wife smugly told me that she had taken several trips to the grocery store because 1 trip wasn’t enough to fit all the seltzer in her car now that she knew I was trying to cut her off. She told her family about this and they are all calling me an asshole saying I’m depriving my wife of a basic need. AITA?
Welp, is OP the AH? Reddit was kind of split on this rather hilarious situation...
ESH - get a soda stream and make your own seltzer. No cans or bottles to waste/recycle and you can control the amount of carbonation. - mightastethat
OP is TA. He thinks it's a waste of MONEY. It's presumably cheaper to just buy uncarbonated water in the first place but OP doesn't care that it does not taste the same. There's definitely something off about the wife, maybe some kind of anxiety or issue with control. But OP is being petty and controlling as f***. - fragilestoner
Then, this interesting point.
YTA. I doubt it’s an anxiety/control issue because she’s very specific/adamant about the mouth feel and flavor, I bet it’s a sensory thing. Lots of neurodivergent people have very specific sensory needs and desires and food taste and texture is high up in that list. - inkgeode
Then, this counterpoint.
NTA. Wife is too wasteful for me to not see her as the AH. - receptionpuzzled559