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Wife tells husband dinner was 'disgusting'; says, 'I speak how I feel.'

Wife tells husband dinner was 'disgusting'; says, 'I speak how I feel.'

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AITA for giving my husband my honest opinion after he asked?

My husband and I [42F, 39M] recently passed through his hometown and so made a trip by his childhood house to show me where he grew up. He was ecstatic to find that the Chinese takeaways/fish n chip shop that his mum got for him each Friday as a kid to was still open 20+ years later.

Even though we’re on a diet I decided to indulge him and go there for a nostalgia dinner. Big mistake.

After spending half an hour talking to the elderly Chinese owner about how he used to go there as a kid (without consideration for me just standing there waiting) he ordered half the menu. Fish and chips, lemon chicken, sweet and sour pork, chicken fried rice. His excuse being we could save leftovers for the next few days. Even though he knows we are on a diet.

When we finally got home to eat he asked me what I thought. I’m someone that speaks how I feel (he knows this) so I was honest: it was terrible. The chips were too salty and not crispy enough, fried rice skimped on the meat, sweet an sour pork didn’t feel authentic, among other things. I’m confident if not for my husband’s nostalgia glasses he would say the same.

My husband is acting like I personally insulted his late mother. As if I was supposed to lie and pretend to like a disgusting meal he didn’t even make. I stand by my comments 100% but want to know if I am the asshole here or if my husband just needs to man up a bit. AITA?

Here's what people said to OP:

anonymous_for_this writes:

YTA. 'My husband is acting like I personally insulted his late mother.' Because you did: 'He was ecstatic to find that the Chinese takeaways/fish n chip shop that his mum got for him each Friday as a kid.' You didn't have to rag on it. You could have just said it wasn't your style.

Better-Highway-639 writes:

Just my 2p, but I don’t think she did insult the mum. In all fairness a shop open 20 years later may not even have the same chefs. The food she’s eating and the food they ate all those years ago could be so different. But let’s play devils advocate and say it is the exact same, not liking a meal that her husband and late MIL ate together isn’t disrespectful.

Jazzlike-Emu-9235 writes:

It's a very fond memory he has of his mother. To me I see it as she just shit on all of the memories he had with her over that shop. It's fine to say ' it's ok. I'm not the biggest fan but I'm glad you were able to have this again for memory sake' instead of acting like a food critic

Elegiac-Elk writes:

It’s just social etiquette so you don’t poop on someone’s special memories. It reminds me of that quote/saying- “Honesty without kindness is cruelty.” It’s honesty with kindness to say that it wasn’t your cup of tea but you’re happy he relived some memories. It’s cruelty to do what OP did.

5footfilly writes:

“I’m someone that speaks how I feel” Yeah, that’s code for: “Nothing pleases me more than pissing in someone else’s cheerios. It makes me feel so smug and superior. And the best part is I get to claim I’m just being honest and no one catches on that I’m just miserable and nasty.”

Oh yes they do. YTA

Sources: Reddit
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