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'AITA for divorcing my husband to pursue my dream of acting? My kids are upset.'

'AITA for divorcing my husband to pursue my dream of acting? My kids are upset.'

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"AITA for divorcing my (41F) husband ( 43M) to pursue my dreams?"

Throwawaymelk

So I (41F) have been an actress my entire life. I went to a performing arts high school, and graduated from a theatre program from my college. At age 22 I started dating my husband. By age 25 I was a married mom. We have a 16 year old daughter, 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter.

My husband started his career as an auditor. Meanwhile I felt like I was expected by him to be a supporting character in the story of his life. I had to conform to his frame of mind, and prop up his vision for how life should be.

This has included me having to accommodate his long working hours. Me unable to book last minute auditions because his clients would flip if he walked out during meetings to take our kids to the doctor's or pick them up from school.

I spent my 20s and early 30s trying to pursue acting, but when I landed a part in a commercial or a small speaking role, I could not take the job because my husband said we could not afford a nanny that would allow me to just go off to Atlanta or New York for a few weeks at a time, on short notice.

Eventually all my $400 headshots were just collecting dust. And people kept saying that they wished they had a six figure earning husband who was climbing the ladder. I am now 41. My oldest daughter is in acting classes and she's good. But everybody from her acting school raves about how I look like Margot Robbie.

And driving my daughter to auditions and managing her social media made me realize how much I missed acting. I realized that despite what my husband thinks, this was more than a hobby.

My husband was transferred from LA to San Francisco 2 years ago. The kids like SF but I hate it. The kids are growing up, and my husband is a good dad but I feel like his work in maintaining the household is just cooking meals occasionally.

He just adds a lot to the workload. In addition, now he also does not want our daughter to pursue acting professionally. I felt my kids would be proud to see me pursue my dreams, and it might encourage my daughter to pursue being an actress too.

My husband and I went to one failed counseling session that didn't address the resentment. I ended up subletting a 2 bedroom apartment on the funds from my credit card and filed for divorce.

My husband refused to let me take the two younger kids with me, but my older daughter insisted on going with me to LA and my husband tearfully relented. I thought I was doing the right thing but my two younger kids came to visit and are very distant. They refuse to live with me full time.

I have now been going to auditions and networking and even though it's been only a few months I feel like I've been set free. But people are asking me to reconsider this divorce.

I want to move forward with it, but I am upset my kids are upset and that I feel like there is this pressure on me to book a job or it will all be for nothing. But even if I don't book jobs, I am doing what I love to do and I get to support my daughter to act in the way I was never supported. AITA?

Here were the top rated comments from readers:

85120Dad

YTA. Sometimes life doesn't quite flow the way you expected and you sound super selfish. You're throwing away a relationship with your husband, which will also affect your kids, because you want to be an actress?

You really needed to go to marriage counseling consistently and do so more than once. 19 years in a relationship deserves more than one hour of counseling.

The_AmyrlinSeat

I would love to hear his side of this story.

djcack

'My wife is going through a mid-life crisis and is abandoning our kids'

UJMRider1961

'I thought I was doing the right thing but my two younger kids came to visit and are very distant. They refuse to live with me full time.'

Serious quesion: Did you think you could just blow up your family and not have anyone feel bad about it? Like the old internet commercial said, 'That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.'

You're certainly entitled to do whatever you think you need to do. But you're not entitled to demand that everyone else in the family be OK with the chaos you have created with your choices.

By your own admission you've turned your back on your family to pursue your dreams. You expect them to not react negatively to that?

YTA. For all I know your husband may be, too. Buy there's no doubt you are in this situation. You get to make choices in life. You do NOT get to be free of the consequences of those choices.

cb1977007

You left your family because one person (maybe) thinks you look like Margot Robbie. And probably exaggerated.

Jesus Christ. These poor kids.

swislock

Lmfao lady you are unhinged.

So, readers seem to think this mom is being selfish. Do you agree?

Sources: Reddit
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