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<p>Young people of today are learning that neurological disorders like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) are common and nothing to be ashamed of. But sadly, ignorance and misinformation about autism are prevalent, especially among older generations.</p><h2>A college student who was diagnosed with ASD at her university&#39;s health center shared her diagnosis with her mom, who had the worst possible reaction. First, the mom accuses her of &quot;faking&quot; the results.</h2><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top" height="791" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/image-JnA9x6.jpg" width="1242" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Next, the mom reacted pridefully, claiming she &quot;would have known&quot; if her daughter was on the spectrum. She then insisted her daughter just has some &quot;social issues&quot; due to being &quot;sheltered,&quot; and she used the r-word.</h2><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top" height="391" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/image-HFQT1T.jpg" width="1242" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The girl responded &quot;lmao,&quot; which is Gen Z/millennial slang for &quot;help I&#39;m dying inside,&quot; and called out her mom for using a &quot;neurological slur.&quot;</h2><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top" height="241" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/image-12lgES.jpg" width="1242" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The mom then accused her daughter of &quot;making up words,&quot; insisted again that she&#39;s &quot;not autistic&quot; and told her that she just &quot;needs rest.&quot; LMAO.</h2><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" data-attribution="Reddit" data-attribution-url="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top" height="653" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/image-KuJgPH.jpg" width="1242" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> <div class="image-attribution"><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top">Reddit</a></div></figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The girl&#39;s dejected response, &quot;ok,&quot; highlights how exhausting it is to have to defend your own diagnosis&mdash;especially to your own mom.</p><p>The girl, who goes by <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/nessie013/">nessie013</a>, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/e94r2y/these_were_not_the_words_i_wanted_to_hear_after/?sort=top" target="_blank">shared screenshots</a> of the exchange on the Reddit thread &quot;Insane Parents&quot; where many commenters are relating, empathizing, and offering the support that she didn&#39;t get from her mom. Unfortunately, she was also bombarded with negative messages.</p><p>In the comments, she answered some questions about her diagnosis:</p><blockquote> <p>!explanation</p> <p>After speculating for a while about me having ASD, i took the steps to get screened at my school. I told my mother and she seemed apprehensive. I found out the results today, and i was right. I told my best friends before i told my mom. I think you can guess why.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>edit: just to answer some frequently asked questions,</p> <p>i was screened through my school&rsquo;s health and wellness/ counseling center. I am in college.</p> <p>i have now learned that neurotypical is not a normal word people say. so i apologize for that.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>i was under the impression that this was a support subreddit, but i am being bashed for posting here so I&rsquo;m going to assume I&rsquo;m wrong.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not self diagnosing to be unique. I&rsquo;m seeking answers as to why I am the way I am, despite therapy and no formal trauma in my childhood.</p> </blockquote><p>She also provided some backstory:</p><blockquote> <p>here&rsquo;s some backstory: I was extremely smart for my age growing up. i skipped first grade and stayed in accelerated classes, was reading by age 2 and speaking coherent sentences. i started speaking at 6 months old and was generally a fast developer. however, while i excelled at school i was not very good at making friends and my mother said i wasn&rsquo;t very good at home.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>it&rsquo;s hard for me to break routine and she saw that as disobedience. not to mention i was &ldquo;overly sensitive&rdquo; and cried a lot when it seemed like nothing was wrong. I&rsquo;ve found out now that&rsquo;s due to sensory issues.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>my mom used to scream at me when i was younger and ask &ldquo;are you retarded? you might fucking be. I&rsquo;m going to take you to get tested if you don&rsquo;t behave.&rdquo; so i learned quickly which behaviors were okay to show and which weren&rsquo;t. long story short, growing up was hard.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>i didn&rsquo;t hop on tumblr and go &ldquo;oh this sounds like me. guess I&rsquo;m autistic now.&rdquo; i sought professional help.</p> </blockquote><p>Luckily, not all moms behave this way when learning of a child&#39;s autism diagnosis. This mom, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/throwaway626shshsh/">throwaway626shshsh</a>, commented on how she&#39;s advocated for her son:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m sooo sorry this happened to you :(</p> <p>I&rsquo;m going though the asd pathway with my son and his dad doesn&rsquo;t agree dragged every interview said the opposite (even with photos and videos) and it used to keep me awake at night worried if he would be okey.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>But two years later where still on the list to be tested and he&rsquo;s grown into one of the kindest people iv ever met, and I&rsquo;m trying to teach him to use his traits to his advance. He want to a pilot and we talk about cars and engines too.</p> <p>Honestly there are times when he struggles but the strengths he has are so amazing too, just find your passion/strength and honesty run with it :)</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You can always message me if you ever need a &lsquo;mum&rsquo;s&rsquo; opinion ( not that I&rsquo;ll replace anyone)</p> </blockquote><p>And people who share her diagnosis, like <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/axw3555/">axw3555</a>, are offering support:</p><blockquote> <p>As someone whose dealt with autism-skepticism (thankfully not from family), ignore her. It&rsquo;s hard enough to learn to accept that you&rsquo;re not stupid or a freak without people like her. I had support and it took well into my mid 20&rsquo;s.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Probably hard to do with someone like her, but I&rsquo;d advise that anytime she starts getting hostile about it, just disengage. Don&rsquo;t rise to her, if it comes to it, pretend she&rsquo;s not in the room.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p>Many commenters, like <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/bookluvr83/">bookluvr83</a>, have experience with parents who denied or shamed their kids&#39; diagnosis:</p><blockquote> <p>My dad is like this. When I was diagnosed with OCD, he said &quot;Well, I have it, too, I just think about what God wants me to do and I do it.&quot;</p> <p>That&#39;s not how that works.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My younger sister has paranoid schizophrenia. My father thinks that it&#39;s her fault she is the way she is because &quot;she just needs to stop listening to the voices in her head&quot; like she has a choice.</p> <p>That&#39;s not how ANY of this works.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/IamSplam/">IamSplam</a> adds:</p><blockquote> <p>Parental denial can badly override parental duty. Hope she comes to understand how terrible her behaviour is.</p> </blockquote><p>There are few worse feelings than being shamed and undermined by the people who are supposed to support and protect you. Luckily the internet is there to substitute-parent us. Thanks Reddit/mom!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Autistic teen shares texts from mom refusing to accept her diagnosis.

Young people of today are learning that neurological disorders like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) are common and nothing to be ashamed of. But sadly, ignorance and misinformation about autism are prevalent, especially among older generations.A college student who was diagnosed with ASD at her university&#39;s health center shared her diagnosis with her mom, who had the worst possible reaction. First, the mom accuses her of &quot;faking&quot; the results.  RedditNext, the mom reacted pridefully, claiming she &quot;would have known&quot; if her daughter was on the spectrum. She then insisted her daughter just has some &quot;social issues&quot; due to being &quot;sheltered,&quot; and she used the r-word.  RedditThe girl responded &quot;lmao,&quot; which is Gen Z/millennial slang for &quot;help I&#39;m dying inside,&quot; and called out her mom for using a &quot;neurological slur.&quot;  RedditThe mom then accused her daughter of &quot;making up words,&quot; insisted again that she&#39;s &quot;not autistic&quot; and told her that she just &quot;needs rest.&quot; LMAO.  RedditThe girl&#39;s dejected response, &quot;ok,&quot; highlights how exhausting it is to have to defend your own diagnosis&mdash;especially to your own mom.The girl, who goes by nessie013, shared screenshots of the exchange on the Reddit thread &quot;Insane Parents&quot; where many commenters are relating, empathizing, and offering the support that she didn&#39;t get from her mom. Unfortunately, she was also bombarded with negative messages.In the comments, she answered some questions about her diagnosis: !explanation After speculating for a while about me having ASD, i took the steps to get screened at my school. I told my mother and she seemed apprehensive. I found out the results today, and i was right. I told my best friends before i told my mom. I think you can guess why.  edit: just to answer some frequently asked questions, i was screened through my school&rsquo;s health and wellness/ counseling center. I am in college. i have now learned that neurotypical is not a normal word people say. so i apologize for that.  i was under the impression that this was a support subreddit, but i am being bashed for posting here so I&rsquo;m going to assume I&rsquo;m wrong. I&rsquo;m not self diagnosing to be unique. I&rsquo;m seeking answers as to why I am the way I am, despite therapy and no formal trauma in my childhood. She also provided some backstory: here&rsquo;s some backstory: I was extremely smart for my age growing up. i skipped first grade and stayed in accelerated classes, was reading by age 2 and speaking coherent sentences. i started speaking at 6 months old and was generally a fast developer. however, while i excelled at school i was not very good at making friends and my mother said i wasn&rsquo;t very good at home.  it&rsquo;s hard for me to break routine and she saw that as disobedience. not to mention i was &ldquo;overly sensitive&rdquo; and cried a lot when it seemed like nothing was wrong. I&rsquo;ve found out now that&rsquo;s due to sensory issues.  my mom used to scream at me when i was younger and ask &ldquo;are you retarded? you might fucking be. I&rsquo;m going to take you to get tested if you don&rsquo;t behave.&rdquo; so i learned quickly which behaviors were okay to show and which weren&rsquo;t. long story short, growing up was hard.  i didn&rsquo;t hop on tumblr and go &ldquo;oh this sounds like me. guess I&rsquo;m autistic now.&rdquo; i sought professional help. Luckily, not all moms behave this way when learning of a child&#39;s autism diagnosis. This mom, throwaway626shshsh, commented on how she&#39;s advocated for her son: I&rsquo;m sooo sorry this happened to you :( I&rsquo;m going though the asd pathway with my son and his dad doesn&rsquo;t agree dragged every interview said the opposite (even with photos and videos) and it used to keep me awake at night worried if he would be okey.  But two years later where still on the list to be tested and he&rsquo;s grown into one of the kindest people iv ever met, and I&rsquo;m trying to teach him to use his traits to his advance. He want to a pilot and we talk about cars and engines too. Honestly there are times when he struggles but the strengths he has are so amazing too, just find your passion/strength and honesty run with it :)  You can always message me if you ever need a &lsquo;mum&rsquo;s&rsquo; opinion ( not that I&rsquo;ll replace anyone) And people who share her diagnosis, like axw3555, are offering support: As someone whose dealt with autism-skepticism (thankfully not from family), ignore her. It&rsquo;s hard enough to learn to accept that you&rsquo;re not stupid or a freak without people like her. I had support and it took well into my mid 20&rsquo;s.  Probably hard to do with someone like her, but I&rsquo;d advise that anytime she starts getting hostile about it, just disengage. Don&rsquo;t rise to her, if it comes to it, pretend she&rsquo;s not in the room.  Many commenters, like bookluvr83, have experience with parents who denied or shamed their kids&#39; diagnosis: My dad is like this. When I was diagnosed with OCD, he said &quot;Well, I have it, too, I just think about what God wants me to do and I do it.&quot; That&#39;s not how that works.  My younger sister has paranoid schizophrenia. My father thinks that it&#39;s her fault she is the way she is because &quot;she just needs to stop listening to the voices in her head&quot; like she has a choice. That&#39;s not how ANY of this works. IamSplam adds: Parental denial can badly override parental duty. Hope she comes to understand how terrible her behaviour is. There are few worse feelings than being shamed and undermined by the people who are supposed to support and protect you. Luckily the internet is there to substitute-parent us. Thanks Reddit/mom!

Young people of today are learning that neurological disorders like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) are common and nothing to be ashamed of. But sadly, ignorance and misinformation about autism are prevalent, especially among older...