Man wants to name his baby after his ex-gf, wife says, 'are you f***ing kidding me?'
When this man is concerned that he made an error with his current wife and their new baby, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for suggesting a previous girlfriend's name as a baby name?'
I (34M) and my wife (31F) are expecting a child in 12 weeks time. We don't know the sex of the baby but we've started thinking about baby names. A couple of nights ago we were suggesting names.
I had a girlfriend for around 6 years before meeting my now wife. Unfortunately she passed away and I was absolutely devastated. It's still painful to think about and I always imagined naming a child in her memory.
I also just love the name itself (Nancy). When I made the suggestion to my wife she seemed unimpressed. She told me she didn't really feel comfortable with doing that. She felt it was strange and didn't make sense as Nancy had been my girlfriend.
The way I see it is that Nancy was very important to me for a really long time. She was my best friend and losing her was just a terrible thing. I feel as though it would be a great way to remember and honour a dear friend who I miss everyday.
My wife doesn't share my views and honestly its caused a lot of issues. I dropped it and said it was important we both agreed on the name but she's still insisting it's strange and she doesn't understand why I suggested it.
I don't know if she feels insecure or maybe the pregnancy is stressing her but she just won't drop it. I honestly don't see the issue whatsoever. AITA?
Let's find out.
yardash writes:
Yeah.... YTA.
Not how you intended it, but it comes across of 'Hey wife you're my second choice, so lets name our kid after what would have been my first choice'
Compath34 writes:
YTA. And Nancy is not objectively a beautiful name…I thought maybe his ex just happened to have that name.
OP, you can’t tell your pregnant wife you miss your ex even now as you prepare to bring a child into the world together. It sucks to have that confirmed repeatedly as being totally natural - did you phrase it this way before you proposed? And your wedding day?
Cause I’d be rethinking everything if I was your wife, I’m compassionate to your loss but so many years later you’d think your pregnant wife starts nudging into those bff and partnership loyalties.
kelsaurus writes:
OP, YTA. If you want to name something after Nancy, get a pet rock - that way it can go with you everywhere you go and you can think about and touch Nancy whenever you want, and maybe your wife can throw it at you whenever you're being an obtuse moron.
It's not bad to miss Nancy, or still feel pain over her death. But it is bad to want to name your child with another person after her. It implies that if Nancy were still alive, you wouldn't be with your current (pregant) wife.
Nancy was important to you and you only; your wife may understand how important Nancy was in your life but that doesn't mean Nancy is important to her. Asking to name your kid after her is insane.