When this woman is angry with her MIL, she asks Reddit:
My hubby and I recemtly bought a new home together. His mom started pestering us for a copy of the key in case of an emergency.
I told her about the rule we have and that is 'only residents get to have a copy of the key'. She kept complaining and even got the family involved.
Last week, she demanded a copy of the key sent to her. I decided to grab the copy of the key to HER HOUSE that my husband was keeping for years and sent it to her with a note saying 'only residents get a copy so this copy is for the home YOU reside in'.
She was beyond livid about it. She told the family and I was called names. Now hubby is complaining about how I escalated and made a mistake by upsetting her further instead of just sticking to 'no'. AITA?
1962michael writes:
NTA. When I read the title I thought you were going to pretend it was the correct key, and see how long it would take for her to try it. Absolutely SHE is the AH for pestering you about this when it is clearly your choice. But yeah, your husband has a point about you stirring the pot.
tealicious writes:
YTA. OP accelerated the escalation. Now, instead of the MIL being childish and asshole, now OP is also childish and asshole. Responding childish to a childish person is dumb. No adult acts like a child when they interact with a child.
criticialmusician87 writes:
ESH. Your husband nailed it. You escalated when you could have just kept saying no or ignored her.
Also, I'm sure he would like to have a key to his mom's place in case of emergency and you took that away. MIL sucks for obvious reasons. She should have accepted the first no.
Edit to add: everyone saying she made a copy of the mom's key and sent it is incorrect. OP states 'I decided to grab the copy of the key to HER HOUSE that my husband was keeping for years and sent it to her'. She did not go make a copy. She grabbed THE copy.
It was her husband's key to his mom's for emergencies and she took it away. That crosses so many lines and I get why her husband is upset she escalated. You don't go from no to stealing your husband's property and getting rid of it.