When this man feels rather humiliated by his GF's parents, he asks Reddit:
Recently my girlfriend (29f) and I (31m) went out to the East Coast to visit her parents. We've been dating for almost a year and things have gotten serious and they wanted to meet me.
She and I come from somewhat different worlds. I grew up hunting and fishing in the rural, Northern Midwest while she comes from a well-to-do New England family. But we met in the city where our adult lives and careers have both lead us.
Anyway recently like I said we both traveled to the East Coast to visit her parents. I first met them at their home and it went well, but we were to meet for dinner at a 'casual but nice' seafood restaraunt on the Atlantic Seaboard just a couple of hours later.
I felt a little intimidated but I wore a nice outfit to dinner and her parents seemed to like me and we got along well. Her parents first ordered us some raw oysters and paired a nice glass of white wine to go with it for all of us. Raw oysters aren't my thing but I ate them to be polite and drank the wine.
But when it came time to order our entrees I had settled on a fried seafood platter. I had already looked at what was on tap and when the server asked what I had wanted to drink with that I ordered a tall Coors Light. There were a ton of options on tap and maybe I should have been a little more adventurous but it had been a long day and I just wanted something wet and cold that would't challenge my taste buds.
The dinner went just fine but afterward when we were alone my girlfiend asked me why I had ordered a Coors Light out of every single thing on the menu. I told her that I just didn't feel like having anything else and she said that I had embarassed her in front of her parents; that they had taken us out and that I'd ordered the one 'redneck beer' that they had 'in reserve just in case a redneck showed up.' I think that she was being mean. But maybe I didn't really read the room. AITA?
NTA. If it’s on the menu at this place, it’s appropriate at this place. She’s acting like you threw out shrimp peels on the floor and cracked this Coors light can on your head when you were done and threw it over her father’s shoulder and said two points. If she has acted in any other way different being around her parents, or made more comments after this you might want to take serious think about this.
NTA but please sit down and have a talk with your girlfriend and see if you are aligned in terms of expectations before you move any further in the relationship. Does she expect you to shed your identity to conform to her class expectations? If she gets this uptight about a beer what is she going to do if you want to send your kid to a school that doesn’t meet her social standards?
NTA. Your girlfriend was being mean, and unnecessarily insecure about how you 'appear' to her 'fancy' family. If she can't let you be yourself and if she's going to judge you at every turn infront of her family- this is a bit of a red flag for 'this isn't going to last long'. The fact that she was 'ebarrassed' by your drink is snobbery on another level. Me thinks this isn't the girl for you buddy.