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<p>When this man is hurt by his sister, he asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xmzsex/aita_for_skipping_my_homophobic_sisters_wedding/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&#39;AITA for skipping my homophobic sister&rsquo;s wedding to go to a gay club?&#39;</h2><blockquote> <p>I (23M) used to be super close with my older sister (29F). Growing up, I idolized her. When I came out as gay at 14, she was super supportive, but everything changed when she met her now husband during her senior year of college. He grew up in a very traditional Christian household. They met at a frat mixer at Bama (she was in a sorority, he was in a frat).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I should mention that despite being supportive when I came out, my sister has always been neutral about politics. After she met her BF, that&rsquo;s when I noticed our relationship started to change. When I would talk about guys, my sister would get visibly uncomfortable and change the subject. One time when her fianc&eacute; was on Facetime with us, I mentioned a Tinder date with a guy, and she told him I was joking.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We sort of grew apart as we got older. I moved to California for college; she stayed in Alabama. We still called each other, but I sort of stopped talking about my love life with her. When my sister&rsquo;s BF proposed, I was happy for her, though I hadn&rsquo;t really gotten to know him super well. They set the date for a year later. A few months after, I met my current boyfriend of 8 months. Coincidentally, I found out that my BF&rsquo;s birthday was also the day of my sis&rsquo;s wedding. We talked about this in advance and decided to celebrate his birthday a different day.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Three weeks ago, I told my sis I was planning on bringing my BF to her wedding. She told me earlier that I was allowed to bring a plus-one (she knows about my BF). During the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding, I brought my BF with me. At dinner, I noticed my sister seemed somewhat distant. At one point, I could see her fianc&eacute; looking toward my BF and me and whispering, &ldquo;they&rsquo;re going to make me and my family uncomfortable.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>After dinner, my sister pulled me aside and told me she didn&rsquo;t think I should bring my BF to the wedding. I asked her why, and she said they were having a traditional wedding in a church and she just wanted things to be a certain way. I was pretty offended, and I asked her why she had a problem with me being gay all of a sudden. She said it was fine that I was gay, but I shouldn&rsquo;t force it on everyone else. That was the last straw.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told my BF, and he was very hurt. I was also upset, so I told my BF we weren&rsquo;t going to the wedding. We decided to go home and go out for his bday instead. I felt guilty for missing my sister&rsquo;s wedding, and I know I&rsquo;m not blameless here: we were close for so long that it hurts regardless of what she said to me. But I felt so invalidated during that rehearsal dinner, and I made a decision, and I can&rsquo;t undo that.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My sister hasn&rsquo;t spoken to me since the wedding. I was supposed to be a groomsman, and I texted her the morning of to tell her I wasn&rsquo;t coming. She didn&rsquo;t reply. I do think I owe her an apology, but I think she also owes me one. Is it time to cut her off for a while, or should I be the one to apologize? AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Curious-One4595/" target="_blank">curiousone98</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Yeah. NTA. The gall of his sister. OP did the right thing here, even if it wasn&rsquo;t easy. If he is not accepted and honored for who he is and who he loves, then he can&rsquo;t be in a wedding to support and honor her love and union. The only effective way to address it is to go no contact unless and until she changes her mind. Hopefully she&rsquo;ll apologize.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Traditional_Bat671/" target="_blank">traditionalbats9</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She chose a homophobic man because she&rsquo;s a homophobe. Her &ldquo;don&rsquo;t rub it in peoples faces&rdquo; is rich since you&rsquo;re going to a wedding where they&rsquo;re rubbing their hetero relationship on everyone there. You and your boyfriend were putting his birthday on pause for their wedding and she completely disrespected that and you. You didn&rsquo;t choose your boyfriend over her. She chose her husband and his homophobic family over your and your partners comfort and existence. I hope you had an amazing time with your boyfriend for his birthday.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TemptingPenguin369/" target="_blank">temptingpenguin</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Her comment about you &#39;forcing it on everyone else&#39; is bonkers. Did she think you planned on forcing sex on every man at the wedding? I find it heartbreaking that she allowed this bigoted homophobe and his family to change her views and ruin her relationship with you. I&#39;m glad you stood by your boyfriend. A gay club sounds much more fun than a wedding with guests who judge you for whom you love.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Looks like OP is NTA! Any advice for him?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong to skip homophobic sister's wedding to go to gay club.

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When this man is hurt by his sister, he asks Reddit:&#39;AITA for skipping my homophobic sister&rsquo;s wedding to go to a gay club?&#39; I (23M) used to be super close with my older sister (29F). Growing up, I idolized her. When I came out as gay at 14, she was super supportive, but everything changed when she met her now husband during her senior year of college. He grew up in a very traditional Christian household. They met at a frat mixer at Bama (she was in a sorority, he was in a frat).  I should mention that despite being supportive when I came out, my sister has always been neutral about politics. After she met her BF, that&rsquo;s when I noticed our relationship started to change. When I would talk about guys, my sister would get visibly uncomfortable and change the subject. One time when her fianc&eacute; was on Facetime with us, I mentioned a Tinder date with a guy, and she told him I was joking.  We sort of grew apart as we got older. I moved to California for college; she stayed in Alabama. We still called each other, but I sort of stopped talking about my love life with her. When my sister&rsquo;s BF proposed, I was happy for her, though I hadn&rsquo;t really gotten to know him super well. They set the date for a year later. A few months after, I met my current boyfriend of 8 months. Coincidentally, I found out that my BF&rsquo;s birthday was also the day of my sis&rsquo;s wedding. We talked about this in advance and decided to celebrate his birthday a different day.  Three weeks ago, I told my sis I was planning on bringing my BF to her wedding. She told me earlier that I was allowed to bring a plus-one (she knows about my BF). During the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding, I brought my BF with me. At dinner, I noticed my sister seemed somewhat distant. At one point, I could see her fianc&eacute; looking toward my BF and me and whispering, &ldquo;they&rsquo;re going to make me and my family uncomfortable.&rdquo;  After dinner, my sister pulled me aside and told me she didn&rsquo;t think I should bring my BF to the wedding. I asked her why, and she said they were having a traditional wedding in a church and she just wanted things to be a certain way. I was pretty offended, and I asked her why she had a problem with me being gay all of a sudden. She said it was fine that I was gay, but I shouldn&rsquo;t force it on everyone else. That was the last straw.  I told my BF, and he was very hurt. I was also upset, so I told my BF we weren&rsquo;t going to the wedding. We decided to go home and go out for his bday instead. I felt guilty for missing my sister&rsquo;s wedding, and I know I&rsquo;m not blameless here: we were close for so long that it hurts regardless of what she said to me. But I felt so invalidated during that rehearsal dinner, and I made a decision, and I can&rsquo;t undo that.  My sister hasn&rsquo;t spoken to me since the wedding. I was supposed to be a groomsman, and I texted her the morning of to tell her I wasn&rsquo;t coming. She didn&rsquo;t reply. I do think I owe her an apology, but I think she also owes me one. Is it time to cut her off for a while, or should I be the one to apologize? AITA? Let&#39;s find out.curiousone98 writes: Yeah. NTA. The gall of his sister. OP did the right thing here, even if it wasn&rsquo;t easy. If he is not accepted and honored for who he is and who he loves, then he can&rsquo;t be in a wedding to support and honor her love and union. The only effective way to address it is to go no contact unless and until she changes her mind. Hopefully she&rsquo;ll apologize. traditionalbats9 writes: NTA. She chose a homophobic man because she&rsquo;s a homophobe. Her &ldquo;don&rsquo;t rub it in peoples faces&rdquo; is rich since you&rsquo;re going to a wedding where they&rsquo;re rubbing their hetero relationship on everyone there. You and your boyfriend were putting his birthday on pause for their wedding and she completely disrespected that and you. You didn&rsquo;t choose your boyfriend over her. She chose her husband and his homophobic family over your and your partners comfort and existence. I hope you had an amazing time with your boyfriend for his birthday. temptingpenguin writes: NTA. Her comment about you &#39;forcing it on everyone else&#39; is bonkers. Did she think you planned on forcing sex on every man at the wedding? I find it heartbreaking that she allowed this bigoted homophobe and his family to change her views and ruin her relationship with you. I&#39;m glad you stood by your boyfriend. A gay club sounds much more fun than a wedding with guests who judge you for whom you love. Looks like OP is NTA! Any advice for him?

When this man is hurt by his sister, he asks Reddit:  &#39;AITA for skipping my homophobic sister&rsquo;s wedding to go to a gay club?&#39;   I (23M) used to be super close with my older sister (29F). Growing up, I idolized her. When I...