"AITA for wearing my engagement ring in an alternative way?"
I am a medical worker and I got engaged to Mt fiancé 2 weeks ago. He bought me gorgeous ring with small black diamond I really wanted. The problem is that I often wear gloves at work and the ring started to tear them apart. Also we are not allowed to have fake nails, rings or watches at work because it's hard to disinfect.
So I went to the jewelery store and bought decent necklace from white gold and put the ring on it so I can have it with me at work.
I wore it like that for few days and my fiance noticed. He asked me why I don't have my ring. So I showed him the necklace with the ring and explained him the problem. He said that I could take it down at the beginning of the day and when I finish at work I can put it on.
I told him that I would be afraid to lose it. He just left the room and has been silent since. When I opened the debate again he told me that je made effort to pick THE ring and I don't even wear it now and it hurts him. So AITA?
Here's what people had to say to OP:
disastrousevent67 writes:
NTA. This is very common practice and every day I see tons of medical workers doing exactly this with their engagement and wedding bands due to the reasons you listed. Maybe try to wear it on your finger on your days off so he can see it worn like that more often.
firefly67 writes:
NTA. My ring is much to talk to wear under gloves. Mine stays in the jewelry box when I'm working and sleeping (I used to work at a jewelry store and you would not believe how much you can damage a ring in your sleep). I wear a silicone ring at work.
My husband totally gets it because he either wears a silicone ring or none at all. He's a farmer and too many in his field lose fingers because of metal rings. He does have a nice one he wears when we go out.
moodyfish56 writes:
OP, What your career jumped out of hiding and shocked him? Tell him to grow up. My parents were married for 46yrs before Dad passed. He was an electrician and his ring spent more time around Mom's neck than on his hand.
But no one ever questioned that my parents were soul mates. Even at 70yo he was holding Mom's hand while they shopped for groceries. Yes he bought a lovely ring you want to wear... but being a grownup requires sometimes we work within rules. NTA.