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<h2>They say it&#39;s important to have a healthy work-life balance. This person felt they had to set some boundaries with a coworker they did not see as a friend.</h2><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Future_Wrangler_5817/" target="_blank">u/Future_Wrangler_5817</a> felt they may have stepped over the line so they <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10ov4ss/aita_am_i_the_asshole_for_making_a_coworker_upset/" target="_blank">asked Reddit</a>:</p><h2>AITA (Am I the a-hole) for making a coworker upset when I corrected her that we were just &ldquo;coworkers&rdquo; and not &ldquo;friends&rdquo;?</h2><blockquote> <p>Kind of a weird post but it just happened so I want to know if I&rsquo;m the a**hole. I just left a job that I had for over 2 years. During that time I had come to like many of my coworkers but I didn&rsquo;t consider them to be friends as, in my opinion, friends are people who you hang out with and are able to text/ call out of the blue.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I understand that my opinion of &ldquo;friend&rdquo; may not be the universal definition of friend but I have used this definition in my life and I consider people who fit the above description friends. All others are coworkers and colleagues. So if I don&rsquo;t hang out or text you about non work related things then I am not your friend.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>On my last day at work, a former coworker of my mine kept saying they would miss me and kept referring to me as their friend. I reminded them that while I enjoy their company at work, I don&rsquo;t consider us to be friends.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They were confused as they thought we were. I reminded them that every time I asked them to hang out outside of work, they would say no and would give reasons that ranged from understandable to one&rsquo;s that were, well obvious that they didn&rsquo;t want to hang out with me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I soon realized that maybe we weren&rsquo;t going to be friends and that I had a coworker that was a colleague who I could talk to during work hours. I let them know that I only consider people my friend if I hang out with them outside of work. They tried to laugh it off as if I was not being serious.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told them I was serious and that I would consider them a coworker. They got upset and said that friends come in all different varieties and that we were friends because we had conversations at work. I politely informed them, that while they might see that as a friendship, I did not. I saw us as coworkers.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My coworker got quiet and didn&rsquo;t continue the conversation. They then called me an a**hole for making them upset. I was confused as it was a cordial conversation. Am I the a**hole for making my coworker upset that I didn&rsquo;t consider them a friend?</p> </blockquote><h2>Was OP being rude to their co-worker? Let&#39;s see what Reddit has to say!</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sjsyed/">sjsyed</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA (you&#39;re the a-hole) - Do you tell people that you find unattractive &quot;Hey, ugly person!&quot; to their face? Do you tell kids &quot;You know all that stuff they say about kids having unlimited potential? It&#39;s trash. You&#39;re a stupid kid and you&#39;re going to grow up to be a stupid adult.&quot; Why do you feel the need to express every thought in your head?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NeoNachtwaechter/">NeoNachtwaechter</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Your last day there. You don&#39;t intend to see them again forever. You &#39;correct them&#39; on an issue that has no consequences. You even insist repeatedly. That&#39;s pathetic behaviour. No wonder it got them upset. YTA (you&#39;re the a-hole).</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Celiac_Muffins/">Celiac_Muffins</a> laid it out:</p><blockquote> <p>You come across as one of those people whose &quot;not an AH, I&#39;m just honest!&quot;. Learn to pick your battles. YTA.</p> </blockquote><h2>There were still some voices on OP&#39;s side, however.</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DeiiDei2/">DeiiDei2</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (not the a-hole). I use the same definition you do. I find it so annoying when people at work talk about how we&#39;re all &quot;friends&quot; or, worse, &quot;Family&quot;. No. We&#39;re not. I have friends and I have family. They aren&#39;t at my workplace. I find it dishonest and yeah, it&#39;s annoying.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ChiWhiteSox247/">ChiWhiteSox247</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA at all. People need to respect boundaries with this stuff. We&rsquo;re paid to get along and work together. The second I clock out my co-workers don&rsquo;t exist &amp; we sure as shit aren&rsquo;t friends. It&rsquo;s even worse when co-workers start trying to add you on social media too.</p> </blockquote><h2>Reddit was split!</h2><p>Although, most users saying OP was the a-hole seemed to think they weren&#39;t wrong for the way they felt, only for the need to say it out loud.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

'Rigid' coworker upsets female colleague on last day; 'we're coworkers, not friends.'

They say it&#39;s important to have a healthy work-life balance. This person felt they had to set some boundaries with a coworker they did not see as a friend. u/Future_Wrangler_5817 felt they may have stepped over the line so they asked Reddit:AITA (Am I the a-hole) for making a coworker upset when I corrected her that we were just &ldquo;coworkers&rdquo; and not &ldquo;friends&rdquo;? Kind of a weird post but it just happened so I want to know if I&rsquo;m the a**hole. I just left a job that I had for over 2 years. During that time I had come to like many of my coworkers but I didn&rsquo;t consider them to be friends as, in my opinion, friends are people who you hang out with and are able to text/ call out of the blue.  I understand that my opinion of &ldquo;friend&rdquo; may not be the universal definition of friend but I have used this definition in my life and I consider people who fit the above description friends. All others are coworkers and colleagues. So if I don&rsquo;t hang out or text you about non work related things then I am not your friend.  On my last day at work, a former coworker of my mine kept saying they would miss me and kept referring to me as their friend. I reminded them that while I enjoy their company at work, I don&rsquo;t consider us to be friends.  They were confused as they thought we were. I reminded them that every time I asked them to hang out outside of work, they would say no and would give reasons that ranged from understandable to one&rsquo;s that were, well obvious that they didn&rsquo;t want to hang out with me.  I soon realized that maybe we weren&rsquo;t going to be friends and that I had a coworker that was a colleague who I could talk to during work hours. I let them know that I only consider people my friend if I hang out with them outside of work. They tried to laugh it off as if I was not being serious.  I told them I was serious and that I would consider them a coworker. They got upset and said that friends come in all different varieties and that we were friends because we had conversations at work. I politely informed them, that while they might see that as a friendship, I did not. I saw us as coworkers.  My coworker got quiet and didn&rsquo;t continue the conversation. They then called me an a**hole for making them upset. I was confused as it was a cordial conversation. Am I the a**hole for making my coworker upset that I didn&rsquo;t consider them a friend? Was OP being rude to their co-worker? Let&#39;s see what Reddit has to say!sjsyed says: YTA (you&#39;re the a-hole) - Do you tell people that you find unattractive &quot;Hey, ugly person!&quot; to their face? Do you tell kids &quot;You know all that stuff they say about kids having unlimited potential? It&#39;s trash. You&#39;re a stupid kid and you&#39;re going to grow up to be a stupid adult.&quot; Why do you feel the need to express every thought in your head?  NeoNachtwaechter writes: Your last day there. You don&#39;t intend to see them again forever. You &#39;correct them&#39; on an issue that has no consequences. You even insist repeatedly. That&#39;s pathetic behaviour. No wonder it got them upset. YTA (you&#39;re the a-hole). Celiac_Muffins laid it out: You come across as one of those people whose &quot;not an AH, I&#39;m just honest!&quot;. Learn to pick your battles. YTA. There were still some voices on OP&#39;s side, however.DeiiDei2 writes: NTA (not the a-hole). I use the same definition you do. I find it so annoying when people at work talk about how we&#39;re all &quot;friends&quot; or, worse, &quot;Family&quot;. No. We&#39;re not. I have friends and I have family. They aren&#39;t at my workplace. I find it dishonest and yeah, it&#39;s annoying. ChiWhiteSox247 says: NTA at all. People need to respect boundaries with this stuff. We&rsquo;re paid to get along and work together. The second I clock out my co-workers don&rsquo;t exist &amp; we sure as shit aren&rsquo;t friends. It&rsquo;s even worse when co-workers start trying to add you on social media too. Reddit was split!Although, most users saying OP was the a-hole seemed to think they weren&#39;t wrong for the way they felt, only for the need to say it out loud.

They say it&#39;s important to have a healthy work-life balance. This person felt they had to set some boundaries with a coworker they did not see as a friend.     u/Future_Wrangler_5817 felt they may have stepped over the line so they...

'Rigid' coworker upsets female colleague on last day; 'we're coworkers, not friends.'

They say it's important to have a healthy work-life balance. This person felt they had to set some boundaries with a coworker they did not see as a friend.

AITA (Am I the a-hole) for making a coworker upset when I corrected her that we were just “coworkers” and not “friends”?