When this wife is angry with her husband, she asks Reddit:
I (f33) am a nurse, I have a very very busy schedule. It's been absolutely crazy the past couple of years. My husband (m36) works an office job and because he's a family-oriented type of guy, he always hangs out with his family.
His family live on a ranch in the middle of literally nowhere. It's a hassle to go there and due to my work nature, I don't go to most of their functions, I do however make sure to attend the big ones.
Last week, his family wanted to host a BBQ party. He wanted me to go with him so badly since all his brothers were bringing their wife's and since they mocked him for coming alone in the past. I said sorry but I had a shift to cover.
He begged, suggested I swap shifts with other nurses who are my friends and even called them all to beg them to cover for me. I grew irritated and told him to stop it. He sulked for a whole day then dropped it.
In the morning, and hours before my shift I discovered that my car's tires were out of air. My husband offered to drive me to the hospital at 4pm and I agreed. I got ready and we got in the car but instead of taking me to the hospital, he drove me straight to his family's ranch.
I was dumbfounded and angry after he said he tricked me into attending this BBQ and that I had to suck it up and set this shift out. I was so mad I didn't know what to say.
We got to the ranch and I sat outside fuming. I waited and saw I still had time to make it to the hospital if I figured out a way to get there. I watched my husband go inside leaving his Keychain next to me (right where he was sitting) I took it and rushed to the back where all cars were parked, got into the car and drove off.
His dad saw me and told him. He started calling my phone relentlessly til I turned it off. I got to the hospital in time but didn't dare turn my phone on til it was past 8 pm. I opened it and saw tons of angry messages from him berating me calling me horrible and a manipulator.
I got on the phone with him and he yelled about the awful stunt I pulled and bailing from the party and making him look bad in front of his family. He then calmed down and said that he now knows that work is more important to me and that he won't ever trust me after I basically stole his car and ran with it.
We've been on terrible terms since then. His family are also mad but I haven't spoken to them about it yet nor calcified anything. AITA for what I did? I was desperate and worried that messing my shift might cost me my job.
Did not even realize this. But it does seem obvious. He engineered this entire situation then gaslighted his wife when she was understandably upset.
NTA. Im petty so I would message his entire family in a group chat. I’m willing to bet that he’s been lying to them. “Hello Husband’s family! It’s come to my attention that you have been teasing my husband due to my absences at family events.
Please understand that I am a front line medical working during a pandemic, where we are notoriously understaffed. While I may not want to be working this many hours, it is the nature of the job. My absence could be the difference between life or death for people.
However, your teasing has clearly affected and upset my husband. On X date, he called all my coworkers without my consent trying to get my shift covered—making me look unprofessional.
On X date he vandalized my car so that I could not drive myself to work. He then manipulated me through lies into thinking he was going to drive me to work himself. Clearly, he did not as you all saw me at the BBQ.
I panicked and did not want to cause a patient harm nor get fired from work, so I had to take my husbands car into the hospital—where he originally promised to take me.
I hope this clears everything up and that the teasing will reside. Husband clearly cant handle the lightheaded teasing. I look forward to seeing you at the next function I am able to attend or major family function (as I always make sure to attend those).”