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<p>It&#39;s hard to say whether or not you should go out after you have a baby. When this father to be is conflicted, he takes to the popular <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pessimistfalife/">Reddit forum</a> to ask:</p><h2>&quot;AITA for going to a concert a few weeks after baby is due?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Keep getting into an argument with my wife, that keep getting worse. we are due to have our first child (our first together she has 3 older children that live with us) later this month.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I bought tickets for a concert that is approximately 3 weeks after her delivery date (if we make it that far) and she keeps accusing me of being not caring for wanting to go to it. Saying she can&#39;t believe I care more about a concert than our daughter and how could I want to leave her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her that one night out shouldn&#39;t be that big of deal, I&#39;m already using 6 weeks paid time off I have accumulated at my job to be there when the baby is born to be around full time and one night away for a few hours shouldn&#39;t be that big of deal.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>To be fair There&#39;s also a few football games my family has season tickets to that I said I&#39;d like to still go to, but not all of them but getting away for a while would probably be good to refocus with the stress of a new baby.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>In that same vein ive kept telling her i can take care of the baby so she can get out from time to time, if its an hour or an afternoon and Before this became a problem I also bought her tickets for a concert about 2 weeks after the one I&#39;m going to (so about 5 weeks after delivery) where I bought her sit down seats to attend because it&#39;s one of her favorite artists.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her I&#39;d take care of the baby for the night and she could go with her mom and enjoy the concert. She is saying she won&#39;t be going because she couldn&#39;t leave the baby and doesn&#39;t understand how I&#39;m just ok leaving the baby for an evening.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Am I being an asshole and unreasonable for wanting some planned time away to recoup?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/jacobasue/">jacogasue</a> writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. Parents are people too! You need time for yourself or you will lose your damn mind. She does too. Maybe not a concert if that&rsquo;s outside her comfort zone but even an hour or two here or there to feel like a person.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I can&rsquo;t understand all the Y T A votes. Nobody&rsquo;s life needs to end when they have a baby and nobody needs to be such a damn martyr about it.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Intelligent_Shine_54/">intelligentshine34</a> writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA It&#39;s a concert not a week long trip. OP&#39;s MIL can spend one night with wife while he goes to a three hour concert. I am finding all the backlash odd. I had two kids after c-section with my husband working late nights. It&#39;s not that serious.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pessimistfalife/">pessimistatlife</a> writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>Yeahhhhh YTA for sure. You have no idea what life will be like hour-to-hour 3 weeks after her due date. Your wife or kid could have complications, she could be recovering from major surgery, baby could have days and nights mixed up (which, since it&#39;s not an only child is a nightmare rarely paralleled in pre parenthood life), etc etc etc.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>And most of all, your wife who is bring a whole new human out into the world, at significant expense to her body/mind/energy/etc isn&#39;t comfortable with it. Stop being selfish.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, the jury is out on this one. Should OP stay home? Is he an AH for even going? What do YOU think?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad asks if he's wrong to go to concert a few weeks after baby is due.

It&#39;s hard to say whether or not you should go out after you have a baby. When this father to be is conflicted, he takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:&quot;AITA for going to a concert a few weeks after baby is due?&quot; Keep getting into an argument with my wife, that keep getting worse. we are due to have our first child (our first together she has 3 older children that live with us) later this month.  I bought tickets for a concert that is approximately 3 weeks after her delivery date (if we make it that far) and she keeps accusing me of being not caring for wanting to go to it. Saying she can&#39;t believe I care more about a concert than our daughter and how could I want to leave her.  I told her that one night out shouldn&#39;t be that big of deal, I&#39;m already using 6 weeks paid time off I have accumulated at my job to be there when the baby is born to be around full time and one night away for a few hours shouldn&#39;t be that big of deal.  To be fair There&#39;s also a few football games my family has season tickets to that I said I&#39;d like to still go to, but not all of them but getting away for a while would probably be good to refocus with the stress of a new baby.  In that same vein ive kept telling her i can take care of the baby so she can get out from time to time, if its an hour or an afternoon and Before this became a problem I also bought her tickets for a concert about 2 weeks after the one I&#39;m going to (so about 5 weeks after delivery) where I bought her sit down seats to attend because it&#39;s one of her favorite artists.  I told her I&#39;d take care of the baby for the night and she could go with her mom and enjoy the concert. She is saying she won&#39;t be going because she couldn&#39;t leave the baby and doesn&#39;t understand how I&#39;m just ok leaving the baby for an evening.  Am I being an asshole and unreasonable for wanting some planned time away to recoup? Let&#39;s find out.jacogasue writes: NTA. Parents are people too! You need time for yourself or you will lose your damn mind. She does too. Maybe not a concert if that&rsquo;s outside her comfort zone but even an hour or two here or there to feel like a person.  I can&rsquo;t understand all the Y T A votes. Nobody&rsquo;s life needs to end when they have a baby and nobody needs to be such a damn martyr about it. intelligentshine34 writes: NTA It&#39;s a concert not a week long trip. OP&#39;s MIL can spend one night with wife while he goes to a three hour concert. I am finding all the backlash odd. I had two kids after c-section with my husband working late nights. It&#39;s not that serious. pessimistatlife writes: Yeahhhhh YTA for sure. You have no idea what life will be like hour-to-hour 3 weeks after her due date. Your wife or kid could have complications, she could be recovering from major surgery, baby could have days and nights mixed up (which, since it&#39;s not an only child is a nightmare rarely paralleled in pre parenthood life), etc etc etc.  And most of all, your wife who is bring a whole new human out into the world, at significant expense to her body/mind/energy/etc isn&#39;t comfortable with it. Stop being selfish. Well, the jury is out on this one. Should OP stay home? Is he an AH for even going? What do YOU think?

It&#39;s hard to say whether or not you should go out after you have a baby. When this father to be is conflicted, he takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:  &quot;AITA for going to a concert a few weeks after baby is due?&quot;   Keep...