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<p>When this dad is annoyed with his daughter, he asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/qyh899/aita_for_taking_away_my_daughters_thanksgiving/">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for taking away my daughter&#39;s thanksgiving present because she refused to eat what my wife cooked?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Hello. I&#39;m (40s) a father of 2 kids (son 14 and daughter 16). I recently got married to my wife Molly who is a great cook and she has been cooking for me and the kids in the past few months.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>However my daughter doesn&#39;t like all the meals Molly cooks and sometimes cooks her own dinners. Molly as a result would get hurt thinking her food isn&#39;t good enough.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She confined in me about how much it bothers her to see my daughter decline her food and cook by herself.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve talked to my daughter to address the issue and she said she appreciates Molly&#39;s cooking but naturally can not be expected to eat everything she cooks.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I asked her to be more considerate and try to take a few bites here and there whenever Molly cooks to avoid conflict since she&#39;s very sensitive. my daughter just noded and I thought that was the end of it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Last night I got home from a dinner meeting with few co workers and found Molly arguing with my daughter. I asked what&#39;s going on and Molly told me my daughter said no to dinner she cooked and went into the kitchen to prepare her own dinner as if Molly&#39;s food was less then.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I asked my daughter to come out the kitchen and please sit at the table and eat at least some of her stepmom cooked but she refused saying she&#39;s old enough not to eat food she doesn&#39;t like and pretend to like it just like I wanted her to, to appease her stepmom.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her she was acting rude and had her turn the oven off and told her no cooking for her tonight and asked her to go to her room to think about this encounter then come back to talk.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She started arguing that is when I punished her by taking away her thanksgiving gift that her mom left with me (we both paid for it) and she started crying saying it was too much and that she didn&#39;t understand why she was being punished.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Again, I asked her to go to her room to cool off but she called my in-laws (her uncle and aunt) who picked a huge argument with me over the phone saying my daughter is old enough to cook her own meals.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>And that my wife should get over herself and stop picking on my daughter but Molly explained she just wants to make sure my daughter eats well and that she cares otherwise it wouldn&#39;t hurt so bad.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My inlaws told me to back out of the punishment but in my opinion this was more than an issue about dinner and I refused to let them intervene and hung up.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My daughter has been completely silent and refuses to come downstairs.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To clarify the gift which is an Iphone was supposed to be for my daughter&#39;s birthday 2 months ago but due to circumstances we couldn&#39;t celebrate nor have time to get her a gift so her mom wanted her to have it on thanksgiving.</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out if this dad was in the wrong.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KomboQueen/">komboqueen</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA . Though I think your daughter is being inconsiderate as well as wasteful, she&#39;s not wrong in that she&#39;s old enough to make her own meals. I would think that would be ok if she cleaned up after herself too.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Tell your wife to just ask your daughter before hand, hey I&#39;m cooking this tonight, do you feel like it? Then she won&#39;t cook too many portions. Your wife also needs to get tf over it because you are both really hurting your relationship to your daughter.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>That was her birthday present that you just didn&#39;t give to her on the actual day. That was pretty shitty of you tbh.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Iambatmansmom38/">iambatmancouch</a> disagrees:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA, and I feel like all these people saying you are one don&rsquo;t have kids, and/or don&rsquo;t have to budget. This is going to be an unpopular opinion but NTA. I have a big family and we couldn&rsquo;t afford for everyone to make their own meals , plus I feel it&rsquo;s wasteful.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I wouldn&rsquo;t let any of my kids do this and they would definitely have some type of consequences if they tried. I&rsquo;m definitely you eat what your given or you don&rsquo;t eat until your hungry enough to eat what was prepared and given. 16 year olds can act up to by the way.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Just because she&rsquo;s 16 doesn&rsquo;t mean she can do whatever she wants. I also believe it is highly probable that this is not just about the food. I would recommend trying to sit down and have a calm conversation with your daughter about why she&rsquo;s doing this. It honestly seems excessive how much she&rsquo;s making her own meals.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, did this dad do the right thing? What do YOU think?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad punishes daughter for she not eating stepmom's food; family says he's wrong.

When this dad is annoyed with his daughter, he asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for taking away my daughter&#39;s thanksgiving present because she refused to eat what my wife cooked?&quot; Hello. I&#39;m (40s) a father of 2 kids (son 14 and daughter 16). I recently got married to my wife Molly who is a great cook and she has been cooking for me and the kids in the past few months.  However my daughter doesn&#39;t like all the meals Molly cooks and sometimes cooks her own dinners. Molly as a result would get hurt thinking her food isn&#39;t good enough.  She confined in me about how much it bothers her to see my daughter decline her food and cook by herself.  I&#39;ve talked to my daughter to address the issue and she said she appreciates Molly&#39;s cooking but naturally can not be expected to eat everything she cooks.  I asked her to be more considerate and try to take a few bites here and there whenever Molly cooks to avoid conflict since she&#39;s very sensitive. my daughter just noded and I thought that was the end of it.  Last night I got home from a dinner meeting with few co workers and found Molly arguing with my daughter. I asked what&#39;s going on and Molly told me my daughter said no to dinner she cooked and went into the kitchen to prepare her own dinner as if Molly&#39;s food was less then.  I asked my daughter to come out the kitchen and please sit at the table and eat at least some of her stepmom cooked but she refused saying she&#39;s old enough not to eat food she doesn&#39;t like and pretend to like it just like I wanted her to, to appease her stepmom.  I told her she was acting rude and had her turn the oven off and told her no cooking for her tonight and asked her to go to her room to think about this encounter then come back to talk.  She started arguing that is when I punished her by taking away her thanksgiving gift that her mom left with me (we both paid for it) and she started crying saying it was too much and that she didn&#39;t understand why she was being punished.  Again, I asked her to go to her room to cool off but she called my in-laws (her uncle and aunt) who picked a huge argument with me over the phone saying my daughter is old enough to cook her own meals.  And that my wife should get over herself and stop picking on my daughter but Molly explained she just wants to make sure my daughter eats well and that she cares otherwise it wouldn&#39;t hurt so bad.  My inlaws told me to back out of the punishment but in my opinion this was more than an issue about dinner and I refused to let them intervene and hung up.  My daughter has been completely silent and refuses to come downstairs.  To clarify the gift which is an Iphone was supposed to be for my daughter&#39;s birthday 2 months ago but due to circumstances we couldn&#39;t celebrate nor have time to get her a gift so her mom wanted her to have it on thanksgiving. Let&#39;s find out if this dad was in the wrong.komboqueen writes: YTA . Though I think your daughter is being inconsiderate as well as wasteful, she&#39;s not wrong in that she&#39;s old enough to make her own meals. I would think that would be ok if she cleaned up after herself too.  Tell your wife to just ask your daughter before hand, hey I&#39;m cooking this tonight, do you feel like it? Then she won&#39;t cook too many portions. Your wife also needs to get tf over it because you are both really hurting your relationship to your daughter.  That was her birthday present that you just didn&#39;t give to her on the actual day. That was pretty shitty of you tbh. iambatmancouch disagrees: NTA, and I feel like all these people saying you are one don&rsquo;t have kids, and/or don&rsquo;t have to budget. This is going to be an unpopular opinion but NTA. I have a big family and we couldn&rsquo;t afford for everyone to make their own meals , plus I feel it&rsquo;s wasteful.  I wouldn&rsquo;t let any of my kids do this and they would definitely have some type of consequences if they tried. I&rsquo;m definitely you eat what your given or you don&rsquo;t eat until your hungry enough to eat what was prepared and given. 16 year olds can act up to by the way.  Just because she&rsquo;s 16 doesn&rsquo;t mean she can do whatever she wants. I also believe it is highly probable that this is not just about the food. I would recommend trying to sit down and have a calm conversation with your daughter about why she&rsquo;s doing this. It honestly seems excessive how much she&rsquo;s making her own meals. So, did this dad do the right thing? What do YOU think?

When this dad is annoyed with his daughter, he asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for taking away my daughter&#39;s thanksgiving present because she refused to eat what my wife cooked?&quot;   Hello. I&#39;m (40s) a father of 2 kids (son 14 and...