'AITA for not fighting the school to allow my daughter to do cheerleading?'
"AITA for not fighting the school to allow my daughter to do cheerleading?"
I (M) am so tired and need an outside opinion. The schools athletic trainer (Beth) is a very strict woman. She started two years ago and at the time I thought she was just being a b&tch and on a power-trip. She was not, all she was asking for his basic respect.
This became really apparent when the school had a meeting about her and went through every single incident with her. They used the camera footage for a lot of incident ( parents know that office is recorded) and it showed the kids were awful and she was professional.
The kids were awful and really ended up have a tantrum when she told them no. Many times the kids calling her names and it really made me reevaluate my opinion on her. One example for reference, one kid needed to do a balance test and take off their shoes. She had a fit and refused to do so.
The athletic trainer old her that was fine but without it they can’t play. She took off her shoes and called her some lovely names. Not to mention the parents getting on her a%$ for it.
Now my daughter is a sophomore (15) and she needs to do a concussion test in the winter. If she doesn’t than she can’t cheer. She knew about the whole thing and they had a practice for the thing. She gave everyone a time to be in her office. My daughter got a time and didn’t go in at that time. She went in at the end of practice when she was packing up.
Beth told her no and I am embarrassed to say it but my daughter had a huge fit about it. Beth stood her ground on it and went home. Now she is on vacation and my daughter can not cheer until the concussion test is done. That will probably be done in December so she is missing a ton of cheer events due to Thanksgiving fest.
My daughter was pi@#ed and wants me to fight the school. I told her no since I saw how she acted (I asked for the footage). That is what she gets for being inconsiderate to Beth. My wife wants to fight it and both of them think I am huge jerks. AITA?
Here's what people had to say to OP:
NTA. These kids sound awful to deal with. I'm glad the school has video footage of Beth's interactions because without it she might lose her job due to unfounded accusations. These kids need to learn there are consequences for bad behavior and not being able to participate when you really want to is a great natural consequence.
Ok-Promise3644 OP responded:
They actually put it in due to the coaches wanting proof she was difficult but all it shows was the parents, kids and the coaches being awful. The old athletic trainer was super nice but now all I can think about is how she was a pushover a lot.
Not a single ounce of respect for her and I don’t blame her for not putting up with any bull^%$t. It also was extremely jarring how different she acts if we are not around. She would have never done that if either of us were close by.
NTA. And I've never been more glad I only had boys. Not to be se$%st but all of my friends with daughters do nothing but talk about what nightmares they are (my women friends say this too). My boys were a piece of cake.
Oh you should have seen what the boys especially basketball and football were acting towards her in those videos. My god, they were so much worse especially since they try to pull I am bigger than you card
She actually got multiple kids on football banned for the year for their behavior. That coach hates her I think this may be an athlete/popular thing Though it does seem that the boys learned quicker not to piss her off and I haven’t heard anything after the banning drama I used a female example since my daughter is well a girl, the boys are just as bad
willinghelicopter38 writes:
NTA. These kids sound awful to deal with. I'm glad the school has video footage of Beth's interactions because without it she might lose her job due to unfounded accusations. These kids need to learn there are consequences for bad behavior and not being able to participate when you really want to is a great natural consequence.
jealous8853 writes:
NTA. Your daughter needs to learn the consequences of her actions and the importance of respecting authority figures. It's not fair for her to expect special treatment just because she wants to cheer.
Beth is just doing her job and enforcing the rules. It's unfortunate that your daughter will be missing out on cheer events, but she needs to take responsibility for her own behavior.
superbduck5533 writes:
NTA. Your wife doesn’t want to deal with the grief her daughter will cause and as a result your kids would grow up with exactly the wrong impression of the world. Place it squarely on your daughter that being on cheer is a privilege, not a right.