Husband humiliates wife at gender reveal party because he's sad about baby's gender.
When this wife is humiliated by her husband, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for telling my husband to stop being disappointed over our baby’s gender?'
My 26F husband 27M and I are having twins and I’m expected to be due in December 2022. We already have a son together who’s 15 months. We are both more than excited for this moment and we had our gender reveal last Saturday.
We invited our inner circle of friends and family. We did the cliche popper that lets out confetti and each of us had 1, which represented the gender for each twin. When we popped the confetti, we found out that both twins will be girls.
I was very excited because I always envisioned myself being a mother of girls and knowing that I will be having even more than one made me feel amazing. However, when my husband realized the genders, he seemed visibly disappointed and bummed, and apparently our guests noticed as well.
My husband really wanted at least one boy, he even started picking out toys and names. He acted like this for a few minutes. Even his friends had to comfort him in front of everyone and tell him that he should just be grateful.
I honestly got second hand embarrassment that my husband needed to be comforted in front of everyone because he’s going to be having healthy girls. After that he tried to cheer up, but you could still tell he was still very upset. I was upset at him but brushed it off until the party was over.
After it was done I confronted him about it, and why he did that. I told him he should just be grateful and that he already has a son. I told him how embarrassing it was that everyone we knew had to see him act like a child just because of the gender of his children were girls.
We started going at it and are still acting kind of sour to each other. I obviously love him and I want to diffuse the tension but I need to know if I am TA.
Let's find out.
dogsreadingbooks says:
NAH. This is why you shouldn't do gender (sex) reveals when you have a preference. Because you might be disappointed. Just as you were happy, since you've he felt disappointed. This is why it's best to find out in private. So you can process without a lot of people present who's gonna witness all your reactions.
nationalplatypus144 makes these points:
NTA. I get the preference and all that but there are two points that make him an asshole 1. Doing a gender reveal in the first place. 2. Being so dissapointed that people had to comfort him during the party.
You are an adult so act like one, instead he acted like a baby that didn't get a toy he wants and he already has 1 son so it isn't like this the 3 or 4 pregnancy where he only gets daughters.