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<p>When this husband is confused about his behavior, he asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/y6nluu/aita_for_proposing_my_wife_to_stop_snacking_in/" target="_blank">Reddit:</a></p><h2>'AITA for proposing my wife to stop snacking in exchange for me to stop drinking?'</h2><blockquote> <p>I drink a few times a week, not enough to be considered over drinking by definition. Just a beer or two or a nice tequila/whiskey on the rocks while winding down after work. My wife snacks about the same amount.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Chips, candy, sometimes fruit covered in tajin etc. nothing crazy. I rarely eat snacks and she rarely drinks at home. I work out about 2 times a week, running, weights whatever I think my body needs. She goes walking 3-4 times a week.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She is constantly scolding me for drinking when I&rsquo;m on my own and says that drinking is more for social situations. (She has the same opinion on recreational drugs) She comes from a family with past usage of both so I understand where she comes from but I know myself and I know that I&rsquo;m not looking for a fix or to drown my problems.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Hmm...sounds like this guy isn&#39;t enough of an alcoholic for wifey to be mad? But who&#39;s to say! It gets weirder...</h2><blockquote> <p>The other day she left the house to visit family, I had a drink and watched some tv and when she came home, like clockwork, smelled it on my breath and yelled at me even though I wasn&rsquo;t intoxicated.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The day after, she said she felt overweight. And I did not validate her feelings, told her she&rsquo;s not fat, she&rsquo;s beautiful, etc. everything I usually do. (She has problems with body image so this is a normal occurrence).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Afterwards we watched our show together and she grabbed a bag of chips. I thought that it&rsquo;s completely fine to eat these chips but I also thought that this needs to stop if she doesn&rsquo;t want to gain weight.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The morning after I proposed that we both change our habits. I start drinking only in social situations while she starts eating unhealthy snacks in social situations. She said the situations aren&rsquo;t the same.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Mine is almost alcoholism while hers is normal, I thought that because of social norms and her upbringing i can see why she would think that.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She now thinks that was my way of saying she&rsquo;s fat, which she isn&rsquo;t. I can see that she is upset and is holding back what she might want to say. I&rsquo;m not sure how to proceed but I think my proposition was a valid one.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>What I want to know is if ITA in this situation??</p> </blockquote><h2>So, is hubby being an ahole? Reddit had some thoughts to share. Take a look!</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Nerdy_Book/" target="_blank">nerdybook</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m going to give OP (the probably unpopular) NTA.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>OP isn&#39;t trying to restrict his wife&#39;s food. He tried to make a suggestion of something they could both work on... him to drink less at home to appease his wife, and his wife because she&#39;s self conscious of her weight. His offer was a solution in order to maintain balance.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>OP maybe you could try talking to you wife again but tell her you saw it as a way for you both to become healthier and be supportive to each other.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ParsimoniousSalad/" target="_blank">parsimonioussalad</a> makes this interesting point:</p><blockquote> <p>ESH because you guys need to learn to talk and learn what moderation is, because it sounds like you both do what you like in moderation yet she&#39;s hounding you for what sounds like her issue with alcohol (which imo is a completely unreasonable stance) and you counter with criticizing her snacking.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>you guys need to get some couple&#39;s therapy to learn how to communicate.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, looks like this couple needs some counseling. Or is OP being a striaght up AH? What are your thoughts?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Husband says he'll stop drinking if wife stops snacking, wife feels body shamed.

When this husband is confused about his behavior, he asks Reddit:'AITA for proposing my wife to stop snacking in exchange for me to stop drinking?' I drink a few times a week, not enough to be considered over drinking by definition. Just a beer or two or a nice tequila/whiskey on the rocks while winding down after work. My wife snacks about the same amount.  Chips, candy, sometimes fruit covered in tajin etc. nothing crazy. I rarely eat snacks and she rarely drinks at home. I work out about 2 times a week, running, weights whatever I think my body needs. She goes walking 3-4 times a week.  She is constantly scolding me for drinking when I&rsquo;m on my own and says that drinking is more for social situations. (She has the same opinion on recreational drugs) She comes from a family with past usage of both so I understand where she comes from but I know myself and I know that I&rsquo;m not looking for a fix or to drown my problems. Hmm...sounds like this guy isn&#39;t enough of an alcoholic for wifey to be mad? But who&#39;s to say! It gets weirder... The other day she left the house to visit family, I had a drink and watched some tv and when she came home, like clockwork, smelled it on my breath and yelled at me even though I wasn&rsquo;t intoxicated.  The day after, she said she felt overweight. And I did not validate her feelings, told her she&rsquo;s not fat, she&rsquo;s beautiful, etc. everything I usually do. (She has problems with body image so this is a normal occurrence).  Afterwards we watched our show together and she grabbed a bag of chips. I thought that it&rsquo;s completely fine to eat these chips but I also thought that this needs to stop if she doesn&rsquo;t want to gain weight.  The morning after I proposed that we both change our habits. I start drinking only in social situations while she starts eating unhealthy snacks in social situations. She said the situations aren&rsquo;t the same.  Mine is almost alcoholism while hers is normal, I thought that because of social norms and her upbringing i can see why she would think that.  She now thinks that was my way of saying she&rsquo;s fat, which she isn&rsquo;t. I can see that she is upset and is holding back what she might want to say. I&rsquo;m not sure how to proceed but I think my proposition was a valid one.  What I want to know is if ITA in this situation?? So, is hubby being an ahole? Reddit had some thoughts to share. Take a look!nerdybook writes: I&#39;m going to give OP (the probably unpopular) NTA.  OP isn&#39;t trying to restrict his wife&#39;s food. He tried to make a suggestion of something they could both work on... him to drink less at home to appease his wife, and his wife because she&#39;s self conscious of her weight. His offer was a solution in order to maintain balance.  OP maybe you could try talking to you wife again but tell her you saw it as a way for you both to become healthier and be supportive to each other. parsimonioussalad makes this interesting point: ESH because you guys need to learn to talk and learn what moderation is, because it sounds like you both do what you like in moderation yet she&#39;s hounding you for what sounds like her issue with alcohol (which imo is a completely unreasonable stance) and you counter with criticizing her snacking.  you guys need to get some couple&#39;s therapy to learn how to communicate. Well, looks like this couple needs some counseling. Or is OP being a striaght up AH? What are your thoughts?

When this husband is confused about his behavior, he asks Reddit:  'AITA for proposing my wife to stop snacking in exchange for me to stop drinking?'   I drink a few times a week, not enough to be considered over drinking by definition....