Parenting

<h2>AITA for calling my girlfriend disgusting and telling her she should be ashamed when she was crying?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m a 40 year old man and my girlfriend of a year is 38. She has a daughter from a previous partner who is 14 and a freshman in high school.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I went over there yesterday to find my girlfriend crying. I tried to figure out what was going on and where I can help when she told me she was crying about her daughter and how she is doing in school.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I love her daughter. She is the sweetest girl ever. I wish my daughters were as well behaved as her. I have to describe her daughter. She has a nice friend group, does not have trouble with bullies, and generally seems very happy. I bet you&rsquo;re wondering why her mother would be crying if this was the case.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Her mother/my girlfriend was crying because her daughter is not the popular athlete cheerleader homecoming queen that she was in school. Her daughter marches to the beat of her own drum which I think is the best anyone can hope for. Yes she&rsquo;s a little bit dorky. But her own mother referred to her as a LOSER during this crying fit.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s very into anime (her and some friends actually started an anime club at their school), Pok&eacute;mon and video games. Most of her wardrobe is black t shirts with anime or video game characters on them. Again, she&rsquo;s a happy kid. She&rsquo;s got her social circle who all have similar interests. It&rsquo;s just not the circle her mom wishes she was in.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Here are some quotes from her during this that turned me red: &ldquo;I never would have imagined my daughter would be a dweeb&rdquo; &ldquo;she needs to grow out of this before college&rdquo; and my personal favorite &ldquo;I wouldn&rsquo;t have been caught dead with kids that look like that&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I called her disgusting and told her she should be ashamed of herself. I said her daughter is happy and how would she feel to hear her mom crying about her perceived popularity. I told her how lucky she has it that her daughter doesn&rsquo;t deal with a lot of the issues kids that days have.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>This ends with her being upset with me because instead of consoling her when she was crying, I called her names. I don&rsquo;t think the crying means anything. She was saying horrible things.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here are questions people had for OP:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/momokplatypus/">momokplatypus</a> asks:</p><blockquote> <p>Why exactly are you with this awful woman?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WeekUnlucky6293/">WeekUnlucky6293</a> OP:</p><blockquote> <p>She has her good qualities. She&rsquo;s just obtuse about certain things. I think it&rsquo;s a lack of understanding more so than her just being a bad person.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Thermicthermos/">Thermicthermos</a> asks:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m gonna take a wild guess that gym regular home coming queen is pretty hot.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WeekUnlucky6293/">WeekUnlucky6293</a> OP:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She is</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/The__Riker__Maneuver/">The__Riker__Maneuver</a> asks:</p><blockquote> <p>Have you just been ignoring a bunch of Red Flags for a year? There&#39;s no way you haven&#39;t previously noticed that your girlfriend is superficial and immature....to the point where she would talk shit about her own daughter. Do us all a favor and wait for this post to get more responses and then show it to your girlfriend.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WeekUnlucky6293/">WeekUnlucky6293</a> OP:</p><blockquote> <p>I have. I guess it&rsquo;s not frequent enough for me to believe there&rsquo;s a pattern. I&rsquo;ve always treated them as one off instances. Maybe I am wrong.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s how people judged the situation:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Invisibleamber/">Invisibleamber</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Nta. <span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">Having a happy, healthy child is what her focus should be, not her popularity. Don&rsquo;t ignore her words though, she&rsquo;s just shown her true colours.</span></p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/nosaneoneleft/">nosaneoneleft</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>This twit of a mother probably wanted the little girly princess who was capable of doing little else but play with dolls and socialize.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Peep_Power_77/">Peep_Power_77</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Mom sounds like she was one of those &quot;popular&quot; kids who used her status to be mean. And she never grew out of that. She&#39;s still mean. And now she&#39;s upset because her daughter is a nice kid and the type of person she would have enjoyed bullying back in the day. Mom has issues. And, yes, &quot;disgusting&quot; is a good word for her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ScreamyPeanut/">ScreamyPeanut</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA, not for calling your girlfriend disgusting, but for being with someone who is so shallow and toxic to begin with.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MENG-GMS/">MENG-GMS</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;dweeb&quot; &iquest;Do humans actually say stuff like that?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Sp00derman77/">Sp00derman77</a> writes:</p><p>They did, back around 1987.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man calls GF 'disgusting' for complaining about her 'loser' 14 yo daughter.

AITA for calling my girlfriend disgusting and telling her she should be ashamed when she was crying? I&rsquo;m a 40 year old man and my girlfriend of a year is 38. She has a daughter from a previous partner who is 14 and a freshman in high school.  I went over there yesterday to find my girlfriend crying. I tried to figure out what was going on and where I can help when she told me she was crying about her daughter and how she is doing in school.  I love her daughter. She is the sweetest girl ever. I wish my daughters were as well behaved as her. I have to describe her daughter. She has a nice friend group, does not have trouble with bullies, and generally seems very happy. I bet you&rsquo;re wondering why her mother would be crying if this was the case.  Her mother/my girlfriend was crying because her daughter is not the popular athlete cheerleader homecoming queen that she was in school. Her daughter marches to the beat of her own drum which I think is the best anyone can hope for. Yes she&rsquo;s a little bit dorky. But her own mother referred to her as a LOSER during this crying fit.  She&rsquo;s very into anime (her and some friends actually started an anime club at their school), Pok&eacute;mon and video games. Most of her wardrobe is black t shirts with anime or video game characters on them. Again, she&rsquo;s a happy kid. She&rsquo;s got her social circle who all have similar interests. It&rsquo;s just not the circle her mom wishes she was in.  Here are some quotes from her during this that turned me red: &ldquo;I never would have imagined my daughter would be a dweeb&rdquo; &ldquo;she needs to grow out of this before college&rdquo; and my personal favorite &ldquo;I wouldn&rsquo;t have been caught dead with kids that look like that&rdquo;  I called her disgusting and told her she should be ashamed of herself. I said her daughter is happy and how would she feel to hear her mom crying about her perceived popularity. I told her how lucky she has it that her daughter doesn&rsquo;t deal with a lot of the issues kids that days have.  This ends with her being upset with me because instead of consoling her when she was crying, I called her names. I don&rsquo;t think the crying means anything. She was saying horrible things. Here are questions people had for OP:momokplatypus asks: Why exactly are you with this awful woman? WeekUnlucky6293 OP: She has her good qualities. She&rsquo;s just obtuse about certain things. I think it&rsquo;s a lack of understanding more so than her just being a bad person. Thermicthermos asks: I&#39;m gonna take a wild guess that gym regular home coming queen is pretty hot. WeekUnlucky6293 OP: She is The__Riker__Maneuver asks: Have you just been ignoring a bunch of Red Flags for a year? There&#39;s no way you haven&#39;t previously noticed that your girlfriend is superficial and immature....to the point where she would talk shit about her own daughter. Do us all a favor and wait for this post to get more responses and then show it to your girlfriend. WeekUnlucky6293 OP: I have. I guess it&rsquo;s not frequent enough for me to believe there&rsquo;s a pattern. I&rsquo;ve always treated them as one off instances. Maybe I am wrong. Here&#39;s how people judged the situation:Invisibleamber Nta. Having a happy, healthy child is what her focus should be, not her popularity. Don&rsquo;t ignore her words though, she&rsquo;s just shown her true colours. nosaneoneleft writes: This twit of a mother probably wanted the little girly princess who was capable of doing little else but play with dolls and socialize.  Peep_Power_77 writes: Mom sounds like she was one of those &quot;popular&quot; kids who used her status to be mean. And she never grew out of that. She&#39;s still mean. And now she&#39;s upset because her daughter is a nice kid and the type of person she would have enjoyed bullying back in the day. Mom has issues. And, yes, &quot;disgusting&quot; is a good word for her. ScreamyPeanut writes: YTA, not for calling your girlfriend disgusting, but for being with someone who is so shallow and toxic to begin with. MENG-GMS writes: &quot;dweeb&quot; &iquest;Do humans actually say stuff like that? Sp00derman77 writes:They did, back around 1987.

AITA for calling my girlfriend disgusting and telling her she should be ashamed when she was crying?   I&rsquo;m a 40 year old man and my girlfriend of a year is 38. She has a daughter from a previous partner who is 14 and a freshman in...