Choosing a name for a child is a big undertaking. The name they're given is going to set the tone for their childhood, how others see them, and how they see themselves.
In fact, a baby's name can set the tone for how family members react to them even before they leave the womb. Or more accurately, a baby's name can set the tone for how family members view the parents long before they've left the womb.
AITA for calling my sister stupid and her and her husband 's****y parents from the start' because of what they want to name their kid?
Ok, so just a little context because this topic is incredibly touchy for me. I am a man who was given a woman's name at birth. A good example is naming your son Alice. It's not what my name was but it's close. My parents are hippies and gave their oldest son a girl's name to 'stick it to the man' and I will never forgive them for it.
That name caused me to be bullied and damaged my professional life in ways I cannot describe. My sister is pregnant with her first child. A girl. She and her husband are ecstatic, it just sucks that she inherited my parent's stupid propensity to see their children as fashion statements. Last night, she revealed to the family the name of her daughter.
It's Krxstxl. She wants to name her daughter Krxstxl. Confused, the name is pronounced Crystal. I already don't like that name but it's at least appropriate. I was not surprised to learn that my mom helped come up with the name.
When she told me, I told her it was a terrible idea. If she wants to name her Crystal, name her Crystal. She tried to explain to me why the x's are there and I just told her it does not matter.
She's naming a human, not a dog. I don't care what kind of fashion statement she's trying to make, this is a person who will have to live with that name until they die or has it changed. She and my mom brushed me off as just complaining because I was never able to accept my name.
I told my sister she was being either selfish, stupid, or an incredibly strong combination of the two if she thinks her daughter will want a stupid name like Krxstxl. We got into an argument and I told her I already see her and her husband as sh***y parents for using their kid to be off-brand with her name and left right after.
My sister is not taking it well at all and my mom is furious with me. I'm starting to wonder if I was too harsh. I will not change my opinion on that incredibly stupid name. But I'm wondering if branding her as a sh***y parent was too far.
I’m going to get downvoted, but as someone who changed their name the moment they turned 18, you’re right. She is stupid. NTA. It’s a horrendous name that will do nothing but get the child bullied. It’s not “unique” or cute. Her child is not an accessory. I personally think stupid crap like this should fall under child abuse.
There was this super selfish woman naming her child Lucifer. She was constantly called out for naming her kid this way because it will get bullied especially in Christian societies and murica is very Christian. And she was so adamant about how beautiful the name is.
I mean, I'm atheist and I love lore and mythology, so IU kind of like the name too, but it's a real person, not a fanfiction character.
NTA. Let's get one thing straight here. 'Krxstxl' Is not, will not be, and shouldn't be assumed to be pronounced 'Chrystal'. Real life is not algebra class, The letter X is not a place holder for whatever sound they think should be there. Newsflash, that's what letters are for.
NTA. Someone needs to stick up for that baby.
NTA. But why not change your name? Give your niece a glimmer of hope for when she turns 18.
Clearly, the internet is in agreement with OP. Or should we say 'agrxxmxnt.'