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'AITA for not wanting my wife to go trick-or-treating?'

'AITA for not wanting my wife to go trick-or-treating?'

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"AITA for not wanting my wife to go trick-or-treating?"

My wife (24F), who is pregnant with our first child, asked me if we had plans for Halloween earlier today. It falls on a Monday, and I have to work the next day, so I told her that I didn’t have anything planned, aside from handing out candy to any trick-or-treaters who decide to come by.

My wife said that her friend (also 24F) wanted to go trick-or-treating, and that she invited my wife to come along. Neither my wife or her friend have children yet (aside from wife currently being pregnant), so it would just be the two of them going around asking for candy.

I told my wife that I think it’s a little inappropriate for an adult woman to go trick-or-treating unless they were accompanying children or something. My wife’s response was that she “looks like a teenager, and could pull it off.” Now I think this is rather silly, but it’s not necessarily a hill I’m willing to die on.

However, the key issue for me is this: My wife’s friend lives in a town 2 hours away, and my wife’s friend lives in a rural area without good cell phone reception.

So the situation is no longer just my wife wanting to go trick or treating with her friend, but that they want to go trick or treating 2 hours away in an area with little to no cell phone reception.

I feel that I worry a lot about my wife and her well-being already since she’s pregnant, and I don’t want the added stress of her being out trick or treating in a rural area 2 hours away.

I basically told her I’m not okay with her going out with her friend in this situation, and she’s quite upset at me as a result. Am I the asshole?

Let's find out.

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INFO: Exactly how pregnant is your wife? Any particular risk factors that would justify limiting her travel?

OP responded:

20 weeks, and there’s not really any particular health risks that I worry about, mostly just the issue of safety. The city that her friend lives in is not the safest, and that alongside the bad cell reception makes me anxious. If her car were to break down or if something else were to happen, I’m not sure my wife would be able to contact me or anyone else.

Then why don't you go with her? Not trick or treating necessarily but to the town.

OP responded:

I work early in the morning, and her town is 2 hours away. So if I go with her, I’m either spending the night 2 hours away from work and waking up 2 hours earlier, or driving home and missing 2 hours of sleep. Probably more since trick or treating usually happens in the late evening, and I have to be up at 04:00 for work

asauce12 writes:

I would ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯. They just out having fun. They’re not candy freeloaders lmao. They obviously could buy their own candy if they wanted, it’s not a scam, it’s just for fun ;) What difference does it make to you? You’re giving out the candy regardless lol.

nippytoelle writes:

NTA. Sorry world, but it's odd two adult women want to go trick or treating 2 hours away, no cell service, in a rural neighborhood...that's more shady than weird lol. Yall miss walking around begging for candy that much?

Also wife is pregnant. I don't know how far along she is, but at 24 wks, I had to pee every 15 minutes and at 36 wks, I was pausing to take a break every other 15 minutes that I wasn't trying to pee because my feet were buckling under the pressure of a baby in me.

I would've gone to a Halloween party/haunted house/amusement park with Halloween theme OR HIT UP ALL OF THAT like ...literally anything that's 18+.

I'm just saying, if a whole ass pregnant adult comes to my door, I'm not giving them candy.

NAH, I get your concern. What IF something happens and they don't have service. You're just going to have to trust her, my guy. As for 24 yr olds going trick or treating, I'm amused. If they came to my door it wouldn't bother me at all.

Is OP being too controlling? Seems like he isn't but what do YOU think?

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