I'm a father of 2 daughters, 12F bio "Chloe" and 14F "Hope" adopted. Their mother and I are separated. I remarried to my current wife "Jenna".
After getting overwhelmed with busy work schedules, and started asking Jenna to handle daily and weekly expenses including taking the girls to the mall and buying what they want.
I always make sure my credit cards are full and ready. especially, when she tells me what the girls need.
I have realized recently that Chloe has bought quite a lot of stuff, But Hope hasn't. I tried having conversations with her about it and asked if the mall her stepmom takes her to is not good, or the stuff she finds there isn't nice and all that. She refused to give a direct answer. I didn't push it, but let her know that I was always there to hear her out.