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Man revokes wife's credit cards after she lies to daughter about finances. AITA?

Man revokes wife's credit cards after she lies to daughter about finances. AITA?


In a post on Reddit a dad was having a problem with his daughter. He didn't want to push her, but when he finally found out what was going on he was furious. Here's his story.

'AITA for revoking all my wife's access to my credit cards after what she said to my daughter?'

I'm a father of 2 daughters, 12F bio 'Chloe' and 14F 'Hope' adopted. Their mother and I are separated. I remarried to my current wife 'Jenna'.

After getting overwhelmed with busy work schedules, and started asking Jenna to handle daily and weekly expenses including taking the girls to the mall and buying what they want. I always make sure my credit cards are full and ready. especially, when she tells me what the girls need.

I have realized recently that Chloe has bought quite a lot of stuff, but Hope hasn't. I tried having conversations with her about it and asked if the mall her stepmom takes her to is not good, or the stuff she finds there isn't nice and all that. She refused to give a direct answer. I didn't push it, but let her know that I was always there to hear her out.

After 5 days, I was at work and Hope sent me a 37 minute long recording of her trip to the mall with her sister and stepmom. I listened to it after getting off work and what I heard was unexpected.

I heard Hope telling her stepmom that she liked a backpack and wanted it, but Jenna's response was to tell her that there wasn't enough money. Hope insisted saying that she (Jenna) had enough money but Jenna told her she still had to buy stuff for her sister.

Hope insisted which made Jenna snap and tell her 'why don't you go look for bio dad and ask him to buy it for you if you want it so badly'. I was shocked. I had to stop the recording. I couldn't keep listening because of how upset I was.

I immediately rushed downstairs where Jenna and the girls were, and had the girl go upstairs the went off on her about what I found out. She kept denying saying it so I had her listen to the recording.

She said she didn't mean it this way and that her words were obviously 'taken out of context.' I berated her for treating Hope like that and told her that she gets whatever she asks for regardless of who her father is....I then went and revoked all access Jenna had to my credit cards...every single one of them.

She found out and blew up saying that I was being unfair after all she's done to help me out with in this area. I said I didn't want to hear it and she kept yelling then went to stay with her sister.

We haven't spoken to each other since that day. She keeps talking to Chloe though. SIL thinks that revoking her sister's access to credit cars is actually 'abuse.'

Discussion with OP:

Ok_Shopping_3341 says:

NTA, not at all. Get rid of her, she’s treating your adopted daughter like she doesn’t belong in your family. You do not want to stay married to someone like that. Your kids come first, always.

Throwra36566707 response from OP:

This was a shocking discovery. I never knew nor did it ever cross my mind that she'd do something like this. I mean she does criticize Hope's behavior from time to time but nothing malicious.

leo-m-s says:

NTA. Wow, what a shitty situation this is but you did the right thing. What she said/did was 100% wrong and as stated in another comment, Jenna's lucky you didn't go further than that. I have no advice on how to handle the rest of the situation but you're definitely not in the wrong.

Throwra36566707 response from OP:

Thank you for your input.

EconomyVoice7358 says:

I think you need to talk to Chloe too. She also shouldn’t have been okay with Jenna treating her sister so poorly. You ARE Hope’s dad. They are sisters. Jenna needs to go.

Top comments:


You shouldn't revoke her access to the cards. You should revoke her access to the kids. Your kid was treated this way so often that she knew she could record Jenna behaving this way.

And insecure enough in her position that she felt she had to record, rather than tell you. This indicates that she's been abused by Jenna for a long, long time. I hate to be one of those people, but YTA if you stay with her.


Honestly, this isn’t a take away the credit card offense. This is a divorce her because she’s cruel and this isn’t going to get better kind of offense. I think your wife is a deeply unkind and cruel person. Why would you want her around your kids?? NTA


NTA but you’ll be TA if you stay with that woman.

Sources: Reddit
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